The Angry Therapist Podcast

Today, John explores the themes of navigating life's uncertainties, the power of awakening through adversity, and the importance of finding calm amidst chaos. He also emphasizes the inevitability of suffering, the necessity of embracing uncertainty as a path to spiritual growth, and more.  Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow Joh...

Today, John explores the tension between risk and regret, challenging listeners to rethink their fear of failure– because in the long run, it's regret that haunts us. He encourages taking small but meaningful steps toward the life we truly want and shares insights on how to break free from the illusion of safety. Find out more about John’s six-week intensive writing course HERE Order John's new bo...

Today, John shares his reflections on moving to Costa Rica with his family. He discusses the challenges and joys of adapting to a new environment, travels and lessons learned, and the importance of community, and the value of embracing new experiences and the beauty of simplicity. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Inst...

Today, John dives into the complexities of parental influence on adult relationships, particularly focusing on 'mommy issues' in men. He reflects on his own experiences with his parents, discussing how the emotional dynamics with his mother and father shaped his understanding of love, connection, attachment, and more.  Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single....

Today, John and Lair discuss the implications of vulnerability for men, the experience of living in Costa Rica, and the societal pressures surrounding masculinity and shame. They talk about how men often struggle with expressing their emotions and the societal pressures that contribute to this, and emphasize the need for compassion towards oneself and others to foster deeper connections. Find out...

Today, John explores the allure of chaotic relationships, the transition to stability, and the need for growth in love. He also discusses the complexities of love and relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding our past experiences, how they shape our romantic lives, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow J...

Today, John reflects on the illusion of permanence in life, the necessity of letting go, and the invitation to love and live bravely. He emphasizes the urgency of embracing change, pursuing authenticity, recognizing the fleeting nature of time and to act on their desires without delay, and more.  Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Fol...

Today, John explores the often misunderstood aspects of relationships and intimacy, emphasizing that while the initial spark is exciting, true intimacy develops over time through curiosity, emotional closeness, and embracing discomfort. He challenges listeners to cultivate a 'slow burn' in their relationships, focusing on continuous exploration and connection rather than chasing fleeting highs. Or...

Today, John explores procrastination beyond its traditional association with laziness. He examines how it can serve as a tool for self-discovery and personal growth, offering a fresh perspective on how to integrate it productively into our lives. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John...

Today, John speaks with Adi Jaffe, PhD, to discuss his new book, Unhooked, complexities of addiction, and the necessity of building resilience in relationships. They emphasize how shifting one's perception can lead to a more positive outlook on life, the importance of embracing challenges as transformative experiences, the often-overlooked concept of success addiction, and much more. Find out more...

Today, John explores the complex relationship between creativity and suffering, the impact of addiction on creativity, the influence of generational patterns, and the importance of healing. He also emphasizes that creativity can thrive in a state of aliveness rather than chaos, advocating for a shift from crisis-driven creation to one rooted in curiosity. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpos...

Today, John Kim talks about grief, community support, and the emotional challenges that come with big life transitions. He reflects on the importance of grounding oneself in everyday activities and how technology alters our perception of reality. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John...

Today, John discusses how trying to suppress thoughts can often lead to their resurgence and offers practical strategies for managing intrusive thoughts. He emphasizes the importance of acknowledging thoughts without judgment and provides actionable steps to help listeners navigate their inner thoughts more effectively. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single....

Today, John explores the connection between love and the nervous system through the lens of Polyvagal Theory. He discusses how understanding the four states of the nervous system—ventral vagal, sympathetic, dorsal vagal, and play—can enhance emotional connection and emphasizes the importance of co-regulation, self-care, and creative actions to foster a deeper bond with partners.  Order John's new...

Today, John shares his personal journey following the devastating loss of his home in a fire. He discusses the challenges of life after loss, finding temporary housing, and new life directions. He reflects on the importance of authenticity in rebuilding one's life and the necessity of processing your emotions. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpos...

Today, John hares the three key principles that have significantly impacted his life: seek nectar, love hard, and resist nothing. He emphasizes that joy is something we must actively produce in our daily lives, love is a powerful force that should be extended beyond ourselves, and resistance often indicates the areas where we need to grow. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump int...

Today, John shares his insights on what to look for in a partner, emphasizing the importance of 'ability' in building a meaningful relationship. He discusses the significance of creating a safe space for differences, building trust, the necessity of evolving together through life's challenges, and more.  Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app...

Today, John and Lair explore the evolving concept of masculinity, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, emotional processing, and the need for male friendships. They also discuss the challenges men face in expressing emotions and the societal pressures that often lead to unhealthy competition, isolation, and more.  Find out more about Lair HERE Follow Lair on Instagram HERE Buy Lair's book...

Today, John shares his personal experience of losing his home to a devastating fire. He reflects on the significance of home, not just as a physical space, but as a representation of his journey and the memories created within its walls. He also expresses deep gratitude for the support he received from friends and strangers alike, highlighting the strength of human connection in the face of advers...

Today, John talks about how daily life things (such as traffic or getting a tooth pulled) can set you down a negative thought spiral. He discusses the importance of gratitude, the power of intentional thinking in everyday challenges, and how to reframing negative thoughts. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HE...

Today, John talks with Yue and Julie, hosts of the podcast 'Datable' and authors of the book 'How to Be Datable,’ about the complexities of modern dating, how cultural differences come into play, and the evolution of relationships in the digital age. They also dive into evolving definitions of love, the challenges of healthy relationships, share practical advice for becoming more dateable, and muc...

Today, John answers a listener's question: what should I be doing if I'm going through a break up I can't get over? He discusses the significance of looking inward, building a life beyond relationships, the value of social connections, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John...

Today, John shares his personal journey of transformation and the lessons he has learned along the way. He emphasizes the importance of trusting one's body and encourages listeners to find calm and fulfillment in the present moment, rather than chasing after specific desires. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram...

Today, John talks about the four stages of a relationship: the honeymoon stage, discomfort, swimming past the breakers, and growth and healing. He emphasizes the importance of understanding these stages to navigate relationships more effectively and highlights the significance of self-awareness and personal growth within the context of love and connection. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpo...

Today, John interviews good friend, therapist, and mindfulness coach, Dené Logan. They talk about how Dene moved through her divorce, moving through anxiety, understanding our addictive patterns, communicating more effectively in our relationships, and much more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find ou...