The Angry Therapist Podcast

In this episode, John talks about poor habits, how we all have them, and how taking small steps towards breaking the habits is more successful than stopping the habits cold turkey. He also talks about being depressed when life feels "boring," and how to that leads to feelings of wanting to escape. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit p...

In this episode, John talks about how doing a life audit on yourself will help strengthen the relationship you have with your partner and others. He explains how the more you focus on yourself, the more you'll be able to bring to the table with others, and walks through the process of what giving yourself a life audit looks like. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn mo...

In this episode, John brings on Dr. MC McDonald to discuss the concept of awe and the science behind joy. They explore the importance of finding joy in small moments, activating the hope circuit in the brain, and also debunk some misconceptions about what brings joy, such as affirmations. The conversation also touches on topics like trauma, imagination, flow states, the power of finding beauty in...

In this episode, John answers a listener's question after they've emailed him for advice about their current relationship. He dives into avoidant attachment styles, and gives advice on how to know if you're attachment style is to blame for feeling "suffocated" in the relationship, or if you're only feeling this way because deep down you know that your partner isn't right for you. Follow John on In...

In this episode, John Kim and Luci Lampe discuss the concept of conscious self-pleasure and its impact on personal growth and relationships. They also explore how shame and societal conditioning can hinder sexual expression and the importance of approaching self-pleasure with presence and mindfulness. Luci Lampe is a mom of 4, trauma-informed sex & relationship coach, award-winning singer and song...

In this episode, John explores the importance of redefining our definitions of love as we grow and change. He also highlights how our definitions of love are always changing, the challenges and beauty of love, and the importance of aligning definitions with our partners. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John talks about how to express your needs, and show up in your relationship when you're fighting. He discusses the importance of knowing what is healthy vs unhealthy ways of showing up during conflict, and gives examples of what each looks like. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John records a live podcast in his TAT Circle community where he answers listeners' questions, and does a deep dive on attachment styles. He talks about the honeymoon phase of a relationship, what's really happening when you feel like your attachment is being activated, and how to tell if it's your attachment style that's being triggered, or the relationship isn't right for you. F...

In this episode, John talks about thought patterns, and why we find ourselves stuck in negative thought patterns more than positive ones. He dives into different steps to take when you find yourself spiraling, and how to practice wanting things loosely. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about recovering from codependency. They talk about the steps you need to take, such as having awareness and setting boundaries, what recovering from codependency really looks like in your life and relationships, and how recovery doesn't happen overnight. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podca...

In this episode, John focuses on cheating and infidelity. He discusses common reasons why people cheat, including anger or revenge, falling out of love, feeling unappreciated, lack of commitment, sexual desire, and situational opportunity. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John does a deep dive on three different ways you can elevate your partner and relationship by being curious about your partner and their experiences, championing their story, and asking them how you can work on fulfilling their needs. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the final episode of the Red & Green Flags in Dating series, John talks about how important having capacity for yourself and others is in your relationships. He defines what capacity is, gives examples and what it looks like in action, and explains the difference between having a healthy vs an unhealthy amount of capacity in dating and relationships. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more...

In this episode, John does a deep dive on the second C of Red & Green Flags in Dating, communication. John discusses what healthy and unhealthy communication looks like in relationships, and what red flags you should look for that shows someone does not communicate well in the early stages of dating. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visi...

In the first episode of a three part series, Red & Green Flags in Dating, John breaks down the three most important C's in dating: connection, communication, and capacity. He defines what connection is, gives examples of what healthy and unhealthy forms of connection are, and discusses red and green flags to look for in connection when you're first dating someone. Follow John on Instagram HERE Fin...

In this episode, John talks about how to be open to love after your heart has been broken. He dives into how practicing opening your heart up in your relationships is an exercise you need to practice daily in order to create the opportunity to heal and grow from your break up. He also talks about forgiveness, treating yourself, closure, finding people who understand you, and much more. Follow John...

In this episode, John reflects on his 51st birthday and shares his revelations and insights about life. He discusses the importance of self-reflection, accepting oneself as a 'B-side', the value of movement and fitness, the power of asking for what you want, the significance of friendships, the importance of finding peace, the process of closure, the cumulative nature of life, and the need to let...

In this episode, John answers a listener's question, and discusses the reasons why people cheat, including emotional disconnection, curiosity, and unhappiness within oneself. He also addresses the issue of ghosting, the fear of having difficult conversations, the importance of exploring patterns in relationships and understanding one's contribution to them, and provides insights on creating a safe...

In this episode, John explores the different dimensions of intimacy, including emotional, spiritual, mental, passionate, physical, and energy intimacy. He emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for emotional vulnerability, engaging in meaningful conversations, and practicing empathy and compassion. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad cho...

In this episode, John brings on Mark Groves to discuss his book 'Liberated Love' and the journey of relationships. Mark shares his personal experience of going through Relationship 1.0 and 2.0 with his partner. They also touch on the considerations in deciding whether to stay or go in a relationship, the hierarchy of ideal relationship structures, the importance of being well-resourced in relation...

In this episode, John gives us a list of unhealthy behaviors we mistake for love in dating and our relationships. He talks about why we're attracted to unhealthy behavior, and does a deep dive on how we might exhibit some of these behaviors in current or past relationships without realizing it. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podc...

In this episode, John talks about the challenges people face when they stay in a relationship after infidelity. He encourages people who are in this situation to ask themselves a very important question: why are you staying in this relationship? Especially when there hasn't been any growth, or change on the other person's end. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more...

In this episode, John talks to James Rhee about his journey as a Korean American and experiences in leadership. James explains his philosophy of kindness in math, how he designs systems that reward true agency, the importance of joy and finding contentment in everyday moments, the significance of championing Asian-Americans in media, and the positive changes happening in representation.  James Rhe...

In this exciting episode, John hosts a panel with the speakers for the upcoming In Bloom: A Love and Relationships Summit. They talk about everything love and relationships including artificial intimacy, sex as a cultural and relational issue, emotional availability, and the practice of interdependence. The conversation also touches on communication in relationships, the challenges of navigating d...

In this episode, John shares his thoughts on the twenty things every man should have or have done by age forty. He covers a wide range of topics including: finding purpose, developing personal style, maintaining good credit, experiencing heartbreak, expressing love for other men, setting boundaries with parents, saving and investing, practicing forgiveness, experiencing rebirth, and much more. Fol...