Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT

This week's podcast is sponsored by Pain Relief Miracle . Click link for 20% off your order. One of the biggest mistakes I see people make with tapping is the fact that they don't spend enough time with an issue to make sure that it is cleared. Because tapping brings relief so quickly in the moment it makes it easy in the moment to feel like we are done with the issue, but in reality we often time...

I am always amazed at how willing my clients are to share some of the most private parts of their lives. Once we have established a trusting relationship, during sessions I hear it all. That is a really good thing because it makes it easier for me to help them because we know what we are going after. Even with that being true, the one issue that my client have the hardest time sharing about is lon...

We know that when we are trying to make a change but not taking the required action we need to find out what is behind our resistance. We can ask ourselves what the penalties are for trying, for failing, and for succeeding. But sometimes these questions aren't helpful in discovering why we are resisting taking action. When that happens to me I use this three-step version of hero tapping. Hero tapp...

When working with clients I have noticed that people often believe change is possible and they believe EFT is the tool that will help them to make that change...but they don't believe it is possible for them. They tell me stories of how they have made too many bad choices, their family history runs too deep, or their habits are just too ingrained. Over and over again I have heard them say, "It's j...

Dealing with unwanted criticism is hard. It's painful in the moment because the attack feels personal, and it often is. After the fact it tends to fester and gnaw at us. It would be great to believe that we are able to see past the criticism and understand the motivation of the person making it. But it can and does hurt. And if we aren't willing to deal with that hurt, it will get worse. Even if y...

As much as we would like to believe in ourselves, our actions, and our future there are times when that is really difficult to do. We can be filled with self-doubt, feeling like we have squandered our opportunities, or that we have made so many mistakes it is hard for us to keep moving forward. I know I have a great life and most of the time I am very much at peace with who and where I am. But the...

If you type "setting goals' into Google it will return over 450 million results. Study after study has shown how setting goals can be to progress. But goals aren't enough. They can get you moving down the right path, but we need more to consistently take action. In this conversation with Steve Wells we talk about how can get in our own way when we are taking action. There can be a part of our syst...

[Note: Last change for the 40% the Advanced Tapping Training go here http://bit.ly/gatherdeal ] One of the keys to being an emotionally intelligent human being is understanding what the people around us are feeling and experiencing. This skill can be particularly useful when we are helping and caring for others. When it comes to emotional intelligence there is a big difference between empathy and...

Day-to-day the things we want to change in our life show up most obviously in the choices that we make. Because of this it makes the most sense to go after trying to transform these choices with tapping. Even if we are successful with our tapping in this way it is often not enough to make long term changes. In addition to the choices we make moment to moment our success is impacted by our beliefs...

I think we all know what it is like to feel stuck. We know what we want to do or we know what we want to change, but for some reason we just can't take action. There is an obvious cost to being stuck. For every passing moment that we don't change the thing we want changed we lose that moment and never get it back. Even more than that, there is another cost to being stuck: all the emotion and energ...

I always find my conversations with Rick Wilkes interesting. Of all of the interviews I do they tend to be the least planned because they are much more interesting conversations than they are traditional interviews. When I email Rick to see what he wanted to chat about this time he replied with the world "lovership". My first thought was, "That sounds great!" and then, "I have no idea what that me...

I love talking about the work I do. When I am meeting someone for the first time I don't jump right into tapping or EFT. I about self-sabotage, limiting beliefs, and emotional healing. At some point in the conversation, because people are so interested in what I do, the conversation turn to how is do it. This means we have to talk about tapping and EFT. Don't get me wrong, I love talking about EFT...

I love people who have a natural healing disposition. They see their healing talents as a gift that they want to share will others. Sometimes this giftedness can come with the drawback of many more people than we are capable of helping showing up for help. For helpers and healers it can be hard to create healthy boundaries can be hard. When our boundaries are over run it is easy to simply want to...

When it comes to creating the right loving relationship for our life it isn't simply about finding a relationship. We want to find our way to the right relationship at feeds and nurtures us. Unfortunately many people keep finding themselves in the same type of relationship over and over again that isn't right for them. In this conversation Stefan Gonick talks about what we can learn from our relat...

When I look at the work that I have done on myself since I discovered tapping I can distill almost every issue down to one thing. Being comfortable inside my own skin. When I am comfortable inside my own skin I am more likely to follow inspiration, I am more likely act with confidence, and I am more likely to see situations as they truly are. If any of those things are true at the time of action I...

A few weeks ago in podcast #149 we talked about the trouble with saying "I love and accept myself". As we discussed, sometimes it is hard to say and there are also times where it isn't helpful to say. It was a useful discussion you should check out . I was overwhelmed with the response to that podcast. I as I noted in the Best Of 2014 I received the most emails about this particular post in the wh...

Surrogate tapping is a tricky topic. Tapping itself is difficult enough to explain, but trying to explain how I can tap on my body to promote change in someone else is a whole other level. At that point it sounds like we are talking about woo-woo crap that just can't be true. In the last few weeks I have witnessed some amazing things with surrogate tapping (or at least they appear to be the result...

Often times the biggest obstacle we have to using tapping in the healing process is ourselves. This happens in two main ways. First, there are times when a part of us that feels it isn't safe for us to heal. Since a part of our system doesn't feel safe healing we short circuits the healing process. When this happens we don't tap as much as we would like and always seem to have other things to do....

My clients often complain that even though they tap regularly for their issues, there are times when their emotions get the better of them. The goal of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is not for us to become emotionless. Our emotions are important because they allow us to feel in order to navigate the world and they are what give our experience richness. The problems isn't the emotions themselv...

When Gary Craig first introduced the world to Emotional Freedom Techniques he used something he called the setup phrase. You would tap on the side of your hand or rub the sore spot and say, "Even though I have [insert issue] I completely love and accept myself." As time has passed and EFT has evolved most teachers of tapping fall into one of two camps. They are either insistent that you do this ev...

Between the bonus podcasts and the full show I have shared over 200 podcasts!   It has been an amazing journey.  I would like to thank all the guests. None of the guests was paid for their contribution. I feel so blessed that they were willing to share their time and their information and wisdom.   As the person who had a front row seat for the full catalog I know my life is richer because of it....

We live in a time of exceptionalism.   Everywhere we turn we are presented with the biggest, the best, the greatest, and the most important.   And it is not just coming from marketers. If you spend any time on social media you see people describing the best meal they have ever had, the greatest vacation of all time, and the most important thing they learned.   We have come to a place where if it i...

I was recently having drinks with a friend and we were talking about my time teaching anger management in jail . She asked if I would teach her one of the tools I taught the guys. So I explained one of my favorites. She responded, "I can see how that tool would useful, but that is just about emotions generally. How is that tool an 'anger management' tool?" And she was right. Every tool I taught in...

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a healing protocol is gaining more and more acceptance worldwide.   I see it very much as a cousin protocol to EFT and tapping.   In the interview I have a conversation with Masha Bennett who is very experienced in both. She compares and contrasts the two protocols.  In doing so she shares what tappers can learn from EMDR and what MEDR practi...

Recently my friend [Rebecca Kane](http://kanedesignconsulting.com) asked me my approach to working with clients and how I structure my sessions with my clients.   It turned into a very constructive conversation.   If you have ever wonder what a practitioner is thinking when they are doing a session and why they do what the do, here is your chance to hear my point of view.   This is not the only wa...