Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT

(At least here in America) one of the most common pieces of advice you’ll hear for overcoming fear is to "just grit your teeth and fight your way through it!" That advice is plain silly! Fear is not something we should simply muscle through. Instead, it is a primitive emotion that does everything it can to keep us safe. This week I have a conversation with Dr. Mary Ayers who was in exactly that si...

[This week's podcast is sponsored by Pain Relief Miracles. Receive 30% off your first purchase .] Perfectionism is tricky. At its core perfectionism is motivated by wanting everything to be just perfect, because when everything is perfect it becomes manageable. Making life manageable is great but the problem is that it will never be perfect. And when things are not perfect we can very easily fall...

It is not uncommon for us to pick up the emotional beliefs or emotional burdens of our loved ones. In most cases we don't even realize we are doing it. Emotional beliefs are often formed when we are children because we are so impressionable at a young age. We usually shoulder the emotional burdens of loved ones out of the desire to care for or protect them. At a certain point we realize that we mu...

There two common misconceptions in understanding how grief affects us. First, many people believe that the 5 stages of grief as defined by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) are the way humans always experience grief. Second, many people believe that grief is only experienced around extreme events, such as the death of a loved one. Grief is a much more com...

Sometimes we get caught up in our emotions and make poor choices that we later regret. We want to make the best choice, we know what the best choice is, and we still let our emotions get in the way. We can know exactly what triggers us and even when we spend time tapping on an issue that triggers us emotionally, we can still find ourselves highly emotional in a moment when these issues come up aga...

My clients are always telling me that they would like to tap every day but have a hard time making it a habit. One of the reasons I think people struggle with creating a daily tapping habit is that they don't know what to tap for. And because they don't know where to start they feel silly or frustrated and so they don't do it. My friend Wendy Merron has created a wonderful tapping process for the...

Our physical bodies are constantly communicating information to our conscious minds to help us navigate our daily lives. Some of this information is obvious and direct. For example, feeling pressure on your shoulder lets you know someone is touching us trying to get our attention, or we feel pain when touching something hot. It also communicates is less obvious ways. We feel tension when we are st...

Back in July I shared a tap-along audio for the shame of making a bad choice . I was overwhelmed by the positive response I received. This week we go a little bit deeper in responding to the emotion of shame. I hope you enjoy this tap-along audio.

Much of my client work revolves around helping people to take action. Most of my clients are trying to find a way to use their gifts and talents to help those around them in some way, but for some reason are holding themselves back. This inability to act often stems from times in their childhood or more recent past where they were judged harshly by their loved ones for being different. When this h...

Even though we don't consciously remember coming into this world, we are fully conscious in utero and at the time of our birth. Because we are conscious, these experiences contribute to how we build models of the world that impact the way we live our daily lives. In this interview Sharon King shares how Matrix Reimprinting (a tool set that uses tapping) can be used to help clear these unconscious...

We we are tapping we are trying to clear the trauma, events, and emotions that have come up in our lives causing us discomfort, disease, and limiting beliefs. If it is true that we can find our way to the moments that causes these issues then it must also be true that we can find our way to a time in our system before these moments. Jacqui Crooks has developed a process which helps us to return to...

When we introduce EFT to others it can catch them off guard. Most people have nothing to compare tapping to, which creates lots of questions. It can be frustrating to lack a clear and believable way to talk about tapping that is appropriate for newcomers. In this conversation Craig Weiner shares how we can explain EFT to others in a helpful and understandable manner. [ Note: If you are interested...

I hate being wrong. I pride myself on making thoughtful choices and I work really hard to make sure I consider the best course of action and all the possible outcomes. That doesn't mean that I expect myself to be perfect before I act (which is a different issue), but that I am really hard on myself when I make a mistake. Especially a public mistake where others can see I messed up. This week's pod...

EFT is a powerful tool for clearing trauma, but just because you know how to tap it doesn't mean that you have a clear understanding of how to tap for trauma. Founding EFT Master Rehana Webster has created a systematic approach to tap for trauma. In this conversation she shares the simple steps behind what she calls TBT (Trauma Busting Technique).

The human memory is incredibly complex. As our understanding of the workings of the brain grows it is increasingly evident that the human memory can be very unreliable. Even when we have total confidence in a memory we could be mistaken. On some level most people are aware that their memory is fallible. This can cause clients anxiety when what feels like a new memory shows up in a tapping session....

Over time we are going to change our minds. (At least, I hope I am changing my mind as I learn new things.) And in a vacuum that seems like a good thing. We are presented with new information and experiences. We re-evaluate the way we see the world and then we change our mind to think and act in a new way. The problem is that we don't live in a vacuum. When we change our mind it doesn't only impac...

There is a difference between filling your time with tasks and doing the tasks that are most important. As a way of keeping ourselves from doing the things we don't want to do we often we find ways to fill our time with tasks to keep us busy. In the long term this is far from helpful! In this conversation with Brad Yates we discuss how we distract ourselves with busy tasks to keep us safe from mig...

Last month I attended a conference as a delegate, which is not something I do often. I attend around 20 conferences a year as a speaker and only one or two as an audience member. I loved the conference and learned a lot, but there were a number of occasions when I found myself feeling jealous of speakers teaching things I already knew. I was jealous of the platform they had and the admiration they...

This is a chance to tap along to be ready for change.

Something interesting happens when families get together where the adult children fall right back into the roles they had when they were 13 years old. (At least that is what happens in my family.) This happens not only when a whole family comes together, but also within certain relationships. No matter how much growth we have gone through as an adult, we fall back into our old patterns. In this in...

A few weeks ago I was at a conference in which Daniel Pink was talking about the sales process. One of the stories he talked about was a door to door brush salesman. He wasn't talking about someone from some bygone era. He was talking about a man who in 2015 sells brushes door to door in the business district of San Francisco. The salesman described his experience as "every day I face an ocean of...

When it comes to using EFT effectively I think that Jondi Whitis is one of the best. She is insightful, deliberate, and so compassionate. (She is also a great trainer if you are looking to up your tapping game .) Every year she hosts a wonderful event outside NYC called the Spring Energy Event . (You should join the mailing list and come along next year!) This year she gave a talk called "The Hear...

I love receiving questions from my listener and readers. They help me to understand what the community needs and how I can best serve you. You can always ask a question here. The question I get more than any other is "What are the right tapping phrases for [insert issue]?" (emphasis added) I can understand where this question comes from. When most people learn EFT they are taught to say words. Whe...

Today's epidsode is sponsored by PRM Over the last few years I have noticed a pattern with a number of my clients. It would play out something like this... Client would come to me with an issue We would work to find the root cause They would have relief for a few weeks The symptoms would come back We would do more work looking for more root cause, but would find nothing As I researched what all th...

(Today's show is sponsprted by PRM ) One of the things that makes EFT so appealing is the fact that it can be easily combined with other tools and protocols. There are actually very people I know who do just EFT. The problem with this for a newcomer to EFT is knowing what is EFT and what is the stuff that is put on top of EFT. This become even more complicated for Christians because often times th...