Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT

Personally, I don't like the terms *alternative medicine or complementary care.*   The things we do either are working toward helping us to maintain and improve our health or they are not.   Elham Kashefi recently watched her dear friend Tara succumb to cancer. During the time she was receiving treatment it became very clear that the medical system taking care of her was incomplete.   The system w...

According to Wikipedia is:   >In Jungian psychology, the shadow or "shadow aspect" may refer to (1) an unconscious aspect of the personality which the conscious ego does not identify in itself. Because one tends to reject or remain ignorant of the least desirable aspects of one's personality, the shadow is largely negative, or (2) the entirety of the unconscious, i.e., everything of which a person...

One of the key reasons my clients don't take action is because of perfectionistic tendencies. The tendencies show up because there is a part of our system that is trying to keep us safe. We are worried that if something isn't done just right then things will go wrong. We keep working and working until something is perfect so nothing goes wrong. The problem is that we will never arrive at perfectio...

There is no question that our world is becoming increasingly complicated as our down time diminishes. Because we are being pulled in so many different directions with little time to process our experiences it is easy to feel disquieted. In extreme cases this can develop into full-blown social anxiety. In this conversation Helen Walker talks about how we can identify the roots of social anxiety in...

We often find ourselves in need to tap for issues that have many aspects either because the issue is so large or because it has unfolded over a long time. For example: an auto accident that is impacting your health, your finances, and your ability to work a divorce poor financial decisions that have left you feeling embarrassed and powerless It can be tough knowing where to start and how to tap fo...

We hear it over and over again in our tapping training. "The more specific you are with your issue, the more effective the healing will be." "The earlier the memory you can find related to the issue, the faster you will be able to release it." For the most part these statements are true, but what happens when you are dealing with something general, like low self-esteem, or you are working on an is...

We do not live in a vacuum. We are impacted by the issues others struggle with and vice versa. The healing process is also not something that takes place independently of others. Often our fastest route to healing is by walking that journey with others. Jondi Whitis has seen the impact of trauma on a community and the impact of a community on an individual’s trauma firsthand. She has worked with b...

There is a counterbalance to most things in life. Success to failure. Happy to sad. Action to rest. Growth to deterioration. Often when we tap we are working only on the part we see as negative, thereby addressing only half of this balance. Even though the negative side is most obvious and painful there are often tappable issues on both sides. For example, I might feel frustrated that I don’t have...

When I am tapping on my issues it is my conscious mind that most often gets in the way. The conscious mind is wired to figure out explanations for what is going on and won't rest until it has done so. This becomes problematic when the reason it has decided is behind an issue is wrong. I have seen this with countless clients. They come to me because they can't seem to get tapping to work on their i...

Knowing how to tap is not enough. We need to have a plan when we approach an issue. In this interview, Founding EFT Master Gwyneth Moss shares a simple and elegant approach that you can use for every tapping session.    Whether you are new to tapping or have been tapping for decades you will find this 4-step approach useful and it is so easy you can start using it immediately.

I love having conversations with Steve Wells. When we started this one we decided that we'd talk about how we can use tapping to improve the quality of our working lives. In the end we used the issues and obstacles we face at work to explore a much larger topic of how we can use tapping to take action AND how we can use taking action to help us uncover those things we need to tap on. It turned int...

When a new animal enters a family it can be stressful for the animal and the family alike. The animal must deal with new surroundings, routines, expectations, and relationships. The family has to adjust to a change of dynamic because of the addition of a new personality. In this interview I talk with animal and tapping expert Susanne Peach about what you can do before and after the addition of a n...

If you have been around tapping and EFT for any length of time then more than likely you are aware of Dawson Church's work. He has been on the forefront of research being done to prove tapping’s efficacy and tapping best practices. He has also been very involved in conducting research into best practice for practitioners. When I approached Dawson about doing another interview he insisted upon talk...

The first weekend of April the 2nd annual Spring Energy Event was held outside NYC. My friend Jondi Whitis did an awesome job once again of putting together a great event. This year I was asked to talk about how we can use tapping to move ourselves to taking the action we want. My presentation was broken into three parts: Part 1: Tapping For Action v. Tapping For Relief Part 2: The 9 Immutable Law...

[ Note: This is part 2 of our conversation. Listen to part 1 here .] I am guessing as you read the title of this week's podcast you are thinking, "Luck is an odd thing to tap for. They say try it on anything, but luck… really?" I would agree with you. When my friend and EFT Master Rue Hass recommended this as the topic for our conversation I was curious. In the end the conversation turned out to b...

[ Note: This is part 1 of our conversation. Listen to part 2 here .] I am guessing as you read the title of this week's podcast you are thinking, "Luck is an odd thing to tap for. They say try it on anything, but luck… really?" I would agree with you. When my friend and EFT Master Rue Hass recommended this as the topic for our conversation I was curious. In the end the conversation turned out to b...

On the surface it might not seem like an obvious connection, but in many ways fear of failure and fear of success are the opposite sides of the same coin. Fear of failure is concerned about what goes wrong when things don't work out.  Fear of success is concerned about what goes wrong when things do work out. (And, yes, things can still go wrong when we are successful.) Both fears keep us from tak...

Self-sabotage can be so frustrating. There are times when we know exactly what we need to be doing, yet we still choose the wrong course of action. Sometimes I can see myself getting in my own way and I am amazed at how creatively I self-sabotage.  If it didn't negatively impact my life I would almost think it is funny! Brad Yates uses an interesting word to describe this type of creative self-sab...

EFT is such a powerful tool that we all know that we should "try it on anything."  Even though most of us have tried it on anything we haven't taken it to the extremes.  Most of have tapped for deep and powerful issues, but not in moments that are literally life or death. Deborah Miller has done just that.  She works with children with cancer and their parents.  She is doing more than trying it on...

There is no question that we are impacted by our past.  That seems so obvious that it doesn't even seem worth commenting on. Nevertheless I think it is easy to underestimate how some past experiences impact us.  In my private sessions with clients it is amazing how often we find our way back to roots planted firmly in their childhood via current issues.  We are more than impacted by our childhood...

It happens all the time.  You know how to do something.  You might have done it a ton of times before.  But the moment you step in front of someone else and have to do it you freeze. You might be before a whole group of people, like giving a presentation, or just in front of one person, like in a job interview.  You get tense.  And sweaty.  You can't remember what to say or do.  You might even sha...

In a recent Time magazine artile Jessica Lamb-Shapiro points out that only 8% of us follow through on our New Year’s resolutions, with most people giving up within a week. There are lots of reasons for this. We create goals that are too big, we don't create an infrastructure or system that will set us up for success, and we are trying to change old habits with willpower alone. It is really easy to...

In December I was the guest on the Tapping Solution's monthly 'Ask The Expert' call. We answered questions about anger, fear of finding work, how to tap for the fear that comes up when physical symptoms persist, how to tap for feeling overwhelmed, and what to do when we keep sabotaging our own success. Thanks to Kris (and the callers) for such a great time. If you missed the call you can hear the...

The holidays can be a very stressful time. There are million things going on, we are tempted by tasty treats at every turn, and we are surrounded by people who sometimes push our buttons. In this audio we tap for: Not having enough time Feeling like we have to accept every invitation we receive The temptation of too much unhealthy holiday food The financial stress of buying gifts Holiday travel Sp...

Managing social anxiety can be difficult. It is not like the fear triggered by something like a snake we encounter in our path. Social anxiety is insidious, sitting just below the surface, and impacting our every interaction in some way big or small. Not having one specific memory to start with can make tapping for it tricky. I know this firsthand as this was the very issue that first brought me t...