She Speaks with Shara

Burnout isn't just about being tired. It's about slowly becoming someone you don't recognize. In this episode of She Speaks with Shara, we're talking about my experience with burnout while working in the federal government and how I didn't realize just how much it had spilled into every part of my life—especially my relationship with my boys. Looking back, I can see how of...

In this mini-episode, we explore compassion fatigue and the hidden emotional toll that can come from being the person others lean on during difficult times. Supporting someone through trauma, grief, or hardship can be an act of deep love, but it can also leave you feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and unseen. Join the conversation as we discuss the importance of recognizing your own needs while cont...

In this episode, I'm joined by my best friend, Mary, for a conversation about the often-overlooked role of the support person in the aftermath of trauma. While much of the focus naturally falls on the person experiencing the crisis, those who step in to provide emotional support can carry a significant burden of their own. Together, we discuss what it was like for Mary to walk alongside me du...

In this mini-episode, we explore one of the most persistent myths in the healing space: the idea that if we do enough work on ourselves, we'll eventually reach a point where we're no longer triggered by our past. But what if that's not the goal? Together, we'll discuss the possibility that healing isn't about erasing every wound or eliminating every trigger. Some experienc...

In this episode, we’re talking about the conversations most people avoid...the uncomfortable ones. The moments where misunderstandings, hurt feelings, fear, or emotional tension make it easier to shut down, pull away, or pretend everything is fine. But real connection isn’t built through perfection; it’s built through honesty, emotional safety, and the willingness to stay present when things feel...

In this mini-episode, we unpack the hidden weight behind being called “the strong woman.” What happens when strength becomes an expectation instead of a compliment? When the woman everyone relies on quietly stops feeling safe enough to fall apart, ask for help, or simply be soft? This conversation explores the emotional cost of constantly holding it together, the loneliness that can come with bein...

Modern dating has left a lot of people emotionally exhausted. Between dating apps, therapy language, hyper-independence, and endless self-analysis, connection can start to feel more like a performance than something genuine.  In this episode we explore why self-awareness, something typically viewed as healthy, can sometimes become a mask for avoidance, emotional unavailability, or an inability to...

Not everyone will see you clearly...and that’s not something you have to fix. In a world where everyone is filtering you through their own experiences, beliefs, and limitations, being fully understood by everyone was never realistic to begin with. The real exhaustion comes from trying to correct every perception, explain every layer, and shrink yourself into something easier to digest. This mini-e...

This episode dives into the quiet (and sometimes loud!) patterns that feel like love, but slowly erode it. We’re talking about anxious attachment and people pleasing; the constant over-giving, overthinking, and over-adjusting in an attempt to feel safe, chosen, and secure. On the surface it can look like devotion. But underneath it often creates imbalance, pressure, and disconnection for both peop...

Don’t Be a Pond Just Because Some People Can’t Swim. In this mini-episode, we explore what it means to embrace depth in a world that often rewards surface-level living. Not everyone has the capacity to join you in your emotional, intellectual, or spiritual depth. And that’s not a flaw, it’s a distinction. This conversation reframes the discomfort of being “too much” into a quiet power: your depth...

Today’s conversation is one that I think so many of us have either lived through, are currently navigating, or will face at some point in our relationships. I’m joined by Kellie: a wife, a mother, and one half of the beautiful community she shares with her husband: Heart-Centered Homestead. Together, they’ve created a space rooted in intention, connection, and conscious living. But what we’re real...

Sonder is the quiet realization that every person you pass is living a life as rich, complex, and emotionally layered as your own...full of dreams, struggles, routines, and unseen stories. It pulls you out of the center of your own narrative just enough to see the vastness of everyone else’s. And in that awareness, something beautiful happens: you become grateful that life isn’t all about you, bec...

On this episode, I am joined by Kim—a writer, a mother, and a woman reclaiming her voice in a world that once asked her to stay quiet. Through her healing journey, deeply rooted in her life in Mexico, Kim has been doing the profound work of reconnecting with her inner child—the parts of her that were shaped in confusion, pain, and survival—and choosing consciously, to rewrite that story. Kim has g...

This is the first episode I am releasing that is turning this podcast into a weekly release! That is a major step in the evolution for this, from recording one episode every other week to be released a few days after recording, to now recording enough episodes per session to release them once a week. I am really excited and I am hopeful that this will allow for more thoughts, guests, discussion an...

Don't get me wrong, being positive is, well, positive. It is inherently a good thing and having a positive outlook when facing life is certainly better than approaching it with a dark, bleak outlook.  But what if too much positivity ends up being a net negative? I am talking about the trend that is sometimes being pushed, that smile and be positive is the answer to everything. And the pressur...

"Be a better human than you were the day before" Seems simple and maybe it should be just that. I have noticed a trend that is seeping into this healing culture and don't get me wrong, it is far better to have this happening than where we have been.  But is it possible that the divine feminine movement is creating false expectations that are accelerated by social media? Could it be...

" I am what I am and that's all that I am." -Popeye- When said by a cartoon character, it is seemingly innocuous and cheeky, but when you have the realization that it could pertain to the darker side of a one's personality, it takes on a more ominous tone. In this episode, I delve into what happens when the carefully curated mask that some wear slips and how quickly that can ha...

After a brief pause, much needed for clarity and cleansing, we are back with the start of our second season!! What an intense feeling, to think this has been happening long enough to start another whole season.  Which is fitting, because as in life, seasons do bring change and growth and this season will honor that. My goal for this next season of both life and this podcast is to make this space m...

I did not have starting a podcast, becoming a coach for women and quitting my job on my 2025 bingo card. But here we are and it has been a ride!! February 18th, 2025 launched me into a completely different world, one where my healing really became public and transformative for me. I finally let my pain out into the light, in a space that presented itself in a seemingly random way. But as I have sa...

In a rare twist, this episode features the producer of the show, Ashley, who wants it known he knows it is a girls name and also was not named after Gone With The Wind.  He has been a part of each episode so far, listening to the stories told and running the recording, while being deeply in awe at the stories shared and the resiliency of the women involved in this show. (He also took the cover art...

The last decade has shown a drastic increase in mental health advocacy, acceptance of therapy and an online culture supporting healing and addressing trauma in all its forms. These are all excellent things and society is better for it.  But what if a small side effect of this is a growing mindset that anything unsavory that comes your way is unsafe? What if we are not actually at times building re...

"If I seem mean when I tell you no, just know that I am being very kind to myself." In this episode, I talk about a trend I have been floating on social media, the idea that setting boundaries, advocating for oneself, being kind to yourself, may have the added flavor to it that somehow you are being mean. To who exactly?  Are ingrained responses we have  that powerful as to manifest in w...

"Learn to listen to you body, whatever that means to you." Did you know your body keeps score? I didn't, until mine started deciding to show me the effects of what that score was. All the hurt, the trauma, the abuse. Your brain can do what it wants with memories and you can work hard to repress them, move them, reframe them, but parts if it will stay trapped in your body in various...

"Having boundaries is the biggest act of self love I have ever done for myself" Who would have thought that would be the case. In a world that sells you tonics, creams, classes, pills and any other modality under the sun to take care of yourself, who could imagine that boundary setting, in any form that it takes, is really the key to deep self love.  Because what you are really saying, t...

" The dis-ease, will come as a disease later on." What a profoundly different way of looking at one's health in the form of your relationship with your body. This was one of the truth's that my guest dropped early on!  This week's guest is Ashley; a gifted somatic therapist, devoted mother, and intuitive energy worker. Ashley’s work goes far beyond the physical body; she g...