She Speaks with Shara

Send us Fan Mail Fall is often romanticized as the season of cozy sweaters, changing leaves, and slowing down. But for some of us, slowing down can quickly start to feel like isolation. In this episode, I talk about what happens when the days get shorter, the weather gets cooler, and that familiar heaviness starts creeping back in. I’m also sharing something I’ve had to recognize about myself: I c...

Send us Fan Mail “Wherever you go, there you are.” When you’re young, it almost sounds irritatingly obvious. But as you get older (and especially as you begin doing the internal work) it becomes incredibly profound. You can change relationships, careers, cities, and circumstances, but you still bring yourself with you. In this mini episode, I talk about what happens when you stop trying to change...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when becoming a mother also means preparing to say goodbye? In this deeply personal episode of She Speaks, Desiree shares the story of carrying a son she knew would not survive, choosing to meet him and love him for however much time they were given, and navigating the unimaginable grief that followed. That time became 20 months. After his death, Desiree faced not onl...

Send us Fan Mail Dating can bring up fears that have very little to do with the person sitting across from us. In this mini episode, we explore the strange polarity that can happen when you’ve worked hard to build a life of your own: the fear of losing yourself inside a relationship, while simultaneously fearing that you may never find a relationship worth making room for. What happens when indepe...

Send us Fan Mail What if boredom isn’t something we need to escape...but something we need to practice? In this episode, I explore what happens when we stop constantly reaching for stimulation, distraction, productivity, or the next exciting thing and allow ourselves to simply be. Practicing boredom can feel uncomfortable at first, but somewhere along the way, the quiet starts to feel less empty a...

Send us Fan Mail Perspective has the power to change the way we communicate, connect, and understand one another. In this mini episode, we explore the idea that understanding someone else’s perspective doesn’t require agreeing with it. Sometimes it simply means becoming curious about the experiences, beliefs, and circumstances that shaped the way they see the world. When we stop trying to prove wh...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Nicole shares the deeply personal story of losing her father to suicide after years of watching him struggle with his mental health and living with an underlying fear that one day, the unthinkable might become reality. Nicole opens up about how that loss changed her life and eventually transformed her grief into advocacy. Now involved with the American Foundation...

Send us Fan Mail Radical accountability isn’t about blaming yourself for everything that’s happened to you—it’s about taking ownership of what happens next. In this mini episode, we’re talking about the uncomfortable but empowering practice of recognizing our patterns, owning our choices, and asking ourselves where we still have the power to create change. Healing may begin with understanding what...

Send us Fan Mail Ashley is back for another conversation, and this time we're catching up on what's been unfolding in her own healing journey and the work she's doing as a somatic practitioner. We talk about what it really means to stay connected to your body, why so many of us disconnect when life feels overwhelming, and simple, practical ways to begin coming back to yourself. Whet...

Send us Fan Mail Alan Watts once said, "Whatever you give attention to, you enter a relationship with." In this mini episode, we explore what that really means in everyday life. From our thoughts and fears to social media, relationships, and the stories we tell ourselves, where we place our attention shapes our inner world. If you've ever wondered why certain things seem to consume...

Send us Fan Mail Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing that there's a deadline for becoming who we're meant to be—that if we haven't changed careers, left the relationship, healed the wound, or chased the dream by a certain age, we've somehow missed our chance. But who decided that? In this episode, we're challenging the idea that starting over has an expir...

Send us Fan Mail We live in a world that measures success by timelines, deadlines, and how quickly we arrive. But healing, growth, and becoming who we're meant to be were never designed to follow a clock. Before we had clocks, we had compasses—tools that helped us move in the right direction, not the fastest one. In this episode, we explore why the direction you're heading matters far mo...

Burnout isn't just about being tired. It's about slowly becoming someone you don't recognize. In this episode of She Speaks with Shara, we're talking about my experience with burnout while working in the federal government and how I didn't realize just how much it had spilled into every part of my life—especially my relationship with my boys. Looking back, I can see how of...

In this mini-episode, we explore compassion fatigue and the hidden emotional toll that can come from being the person others lean on during difficult times. Supporting someone through trauma, grief, or hardship can be an act of deep love, but it can also leave you feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and unseen. Join the conversation as we discuss the importance of recognizing your own needs while cont...

In this episode, I'm joined by my best friend, Mary, for a conversation about the often-overlooked role of the support person in the aftermath of trauma. While much of the focus naturally falls on the person experiencing the crisis, those who step in to provide emotional support can carry a significant burden of their own. Together, we discuss what it was like for Mary to walk alongside me du...

In this mini-episode, we explore one of the most persistent myths in the healing space: the idea that if we do enough work on ourselves, we'll eventually reach a point where we're no longer triggered by our past. But what if that's not the goal? Together, we'll discuss the possibility that healing isn't about erasing every wound or eliminating every trigger. Some experienc...

In this episode, we’re talking about the conversations most people avoid...the uncomfortable ones. The moments where misunderstandings, hurt feelings, fear, or emotional tension make it easier to shut down, pull away, or pretend everything is fine. But real connection isn’t built through perfection; it’s built through honesty, emotional safety, and the willingness to stay present when things feel...

In this mini-episode, we unpack the hidden weight behind being called “the strong woman.” What happens when strength becomes an expectation instead of a compliment? When the woman everyone relies on quietly stops feeling safe enough to fall apart, ask for help, or simply be soft? This conversation explores the emotional cost of constantly holding it together, the loneliness that can come with bein...

Modern dating has left a lot of people emotionally exhausted. Between dating apps, therapy language, hyper-independence, and endless self-analysis, connection can start to feel more like a performance than something genuine.  In this episode we explore why self-awareness, something typically viewed as healthy, can sometimes become a mask for avoidance, emotional unavailability, or an inability to...

Not everyone will see you clearly...and that’s not something you have to fix. In a world where everyone is filtering you through their own experiences, beliefs, and limitations, being fully understood by everyone was never realistic to begin with. The real exhaustion comes from trying to correct every perception, explain every layer, and shrink yourself into something easier to digest. This mini-e...

This episode dives into the quiet (and sometimes loud!) patterns that feel like love, but slowly erode it. We’re talking about anxious attachment and people pleasing; the constant over-giving, overthinking, and over-adjusting in an attempt to feel safe, chosen, and secure. On the surface it can look like devotion. But underneath it often creates imbalance, pressure, and disconnection for both peop...

Don’t Be a Pond Just Because Some People Can’t Swim. In this mini-episode, we explore what it means to embrace depth in a world that often rewards surface-level living. Not everyone has the capacity to join you in your emotional, intellectual, or spiritual depth. And that’s not a flaw, it’s a distinction. This conversation reframes the discomfort of being “too much” into a quiet power: your depth...

Today’s conversation is one that I think so many of us have either lived through, are currently navigating, or will face at some point in our relationships. I’m joined by Kellie: a wife, a mother, and one half of the beautiful community she shares with her husband: Heart-Centered Homestead. Together, they’ve created a space rooted in intention, connection, and conscious living. But what we’re real...

Sonder is the quiet realization that every person you pass is living a life as rich, complex, and emotionally layered as your own...full of dreams, struggles, routines, and unseen stories. It pulls you out of the center of your own narrative just enough to see the vastness of everyone else’s. And in that awareness, something beautiful happens: you become grateful that life isn’t all about you, bec...

On this episode, I am joined by Kim—a writer, a mother, and a woman reclaiming her voice in a world that once asked her to stay quiet. Through her healing journey, deeply rooted in her life in Mexico, Kim has been doing the profound work of reconnecting with her inner child—the parts of her that were shaped in confusion, pain, and survival—and choosing consciously, to rewrite that story. Kim has g...