She Speaks with Shara

This is the first episode I am releasing that is turning this podcast into a weekly release! That is a major step in the evolution for this, from recording one episode every other week to be released a few days after recording, to now recording enough episodes per session to release them once a week. I am really excited and I am hopeful that this will allow for more thoughts, guests, discussion an...

Don't get me wrong, being positive is, well, positive. It is inherently a good thing and having a positive outlook when facing life is certainly better than approaching it with a dark, bleak outlook.  But what if too much positivity ends up being a net negative? I am talking about the trend that is sometimes being pushed, that smile and be positive is the answer to everything. And the pressur...

"Be a better human than you were the day before" Seems simple and maybe it should be just that. I have noticed a trend that is seeping into this healing culture and don't get me wrong, it is far better to have this happening than where we have been.  But is it possible that the divine feminine movement is creating false expectations that are accelerated by social media? Could it be...

" I am what I am and that's all that I am." -Popeye- When said by a cartoon character, it is seemingly innocuous and cheeky, but when you have the realization that it could pertain to the darker side of a one's personality, it takes on a more ominous tone. In this episode, I delve into what happens when the carefully curated mask that some wear slips and how quickly that can ha...

After a brief pause, much needed for clarity and cleansing, we are back with the start of our second season!! What an intense feeling, to think this has been happening long enough to start another whole season.  Which is fitting, because as in life, seasons do bring change and growth and this season will honor that. My goal for this next season of both life and this podcast is to make this space m...

I did not have starting a podcast, becoming a coach for women and quitting my job on my 2025 bingo card. But here we are and it has been a ride!! February 18th, 2025 launched me into a completely different world, one where my healing really became public and transformative for me. I finally let my pain out into the light, in a space that presented itself in a seemingly random way. But as I have sa...

In a rare twist, this episode features the producer of the show, Ashley, who wants it known he knows it is a girls name and also was not named after Gone With The Wind.  He has been a part of each episode so far, listening to the stories told and running the recording, while being deeply in awe at the stories shared and the resiliency of the women involved in this show. (He also took the cover art...

The last decade has shown a drastic increase in mental health advocacy, acceptance of therapy and an online culture supporting healing and addressing trauma in all its forms. These are all excellent things and society is better for it.  But what if a small side effect of this is a growing mindset that anything unsavory that comes your way is unsafe? What if we are not actually at times building re...

"If I seem mean when I tell you no, just know that I am being very kind to myself." In this episode, I talk about a trend I have been floating on social media, the idea that setting boundaries, advocating for oneself, being kind to yourself, may have the added flavor to it that somehow you are being mean. To who exactly?  Are ingrained responses we have  that powerful as to manifest in w...

"Learn to listen to you body, whatever that means to you." Did you know your body keeps score? I didn't, until mine started deciding to show me the effects of what that score was. All the hurt, the trauma, the abuse. Your brain can do what it wants with memories and you can work hard to repress them, move them, reframe them, but parts if it will stay trapped in your body in various...

"Having boundaries is the biggest act of self love I have ever done for myself" Who would have thought that would be the case. In a world that sells you tonics, creams, classes, pills and any other modality under the sun to take care of yourself, who could imagine that boundary setting, in any form that it takes, is really the key to deep self love.  Because what you are really saying, t...

" The dis-ease, will come as a disease later on." What a profoundly different way of looking at one's health in the form of your relationship with your body. This was one of the truth's that my guest dropped early on!  This week's guest is Ashley; a gifted somatic therapist, devoted mother, and intuitive energy worker. Ashley’s work goes far beyond the physical body; she g...

"Any man that came into my life, was going to pay for what my father did and didn't do." What a realization to have lurking in the back of my mind, for as long as I can remember in life. And to have as an approaching storm, that is getting stronger and stronger until the realization of it crashes against the shores of the life I want to build.  These events in our lives, as well as...

What a terrible lie to tell yourself, to justify poor behavior on someone else's part. Abuse comes in all forms, granted there are levels to it and we are not talking about disagreements. We are discussing on this episode, real dysfunction that hasn't risen to the level of physical, but it still more than anyone should endure.  Why do we do that? Could it be growing up and being told, &q...

This weeks episode is a short but sweet one, discussing the difference between healing or isolating and my personal journey on both sides of that equation.  One of the things to consider, healing loudly can look like leaning on others, delving into working on your attachment style, patterns of behavior or deep introspective work.  There is a difference between isolating and going inward to heal, I...

"You're not doing enough, you're not being enough...." These are the stories I have told myself, amongst other things throughout life. Why is that? Why do we do that to ourselves? More importantly, how do we do better for ourselves? This episode is a bit of a pivot, as the first take of it had a tech glitch and was not able to be uploaded. While I had accomplished it, it didn&a...

This episode is dedicated to Sanchez, my companion through many years, miles, states and stages of life.  Grief is something that will find us all, in some form or another, occupying different periods in time and learning to navigate the many stages of grieving. Whether a loved one, beloved pet, meaningful relationship or something else impactful in life, we all must face the challenge of grieving...

This is beyond exciting for me as an episode, in so many ways. First, I host my very first guest. My intent with this platform as it grows and we get moving is to have many guests on, to tell their stories, share their growth and celebrate our achievements as women in many facets. That has to start somewhere, and this is the episode for it! Second, this is my friend Korin who I have not seen in pe...

On the last episode, you heard a portion of my life story, in all of its raw, dark moments. In this episode I attempt to share some deeper reflections on some of the details of that time period, such as signs leading up to the abuse, how I was particularly vulnerable at that point in time and my best, non expert advice for recognizing when you could be susceptible to abuse.  Bear in mind, this is...

This episode, while vital in understanding why I needed to start this journey, this podcast and why I am passionate about uplifting women, also needs to come with a warning. It is not pleasant. It is not pretty. It is not packaged in a softly palatable way. It spells out very bluntly, a graphic depiction of domestic violence and how I came to find myself in a living nightmare, the kind I believed...

In my very first episode, I run through who I am,  why I am doing this, what I hope to accomplish and briefly what I think this could look like. This has been a dream for some time, to have a sacred space for women to find themselves, as I have been slowly discovering myself.  I wasn't sure what this would look like, but as I recently began discovering more of my voice and in the process of c...