She Speaks with Shara

"Any man that came into my life, was going to pay for what my father did and didn't do." What a realization to have lurking in the back of my mind, for as long as I can remember in life. And to have as an approaching storm, that is getting stronger and stronger until the realization of it crashes against the shores of the life I want to build.  These events in our lives, as well as...

What a terrible lie to tell yourself, to justify poor behavior on someone else's part. Abuse comes in all forms, granted there are levels to it and we are not talking about disagreements. We are discussing on this episode, real dysfunction that hasn't risen to the level of physical, but it still more than anyone should endure.  Why do we do that? Could it be growing up and being told, &q...

This weeks episode is a short but sweet one, discussing the difference between healing or isolating and my personal journey on both sides of that equation.  One of the things to consider, healing loudly can look like leaning on others, delving into working on your attachment style, patterns of behavior or deep introspective work.  There is a difference between isolating and going inward to heal, I...

"You're not doing enough, you're not being enough...." These are the stories I have told myself, amongst other things throughout life. Why is that? Why do we do that to ourselves? More importantly, how do we do better for ourselves? This episode is a bit of a pivot, as the first take of it had a tech glitch and was not able to be uploaded. While I had accomplished it, it didn&a...

This episode is dedicated to Sanchez, my companion through many years, miles, states and stages of life.  Grief is something that will find us all, in some form or another, occupying different periods in time and learning to navigate the many stages of grieving. Whether a loved one, beloved pet, meaningful relationship or something else impactful in life, we all must face the challenge of grieving...

This is beyond exciting for me as an episode, in so many ways. First, I host my very first guest. My intent with this platform as it grows and we get moving is to have many guests on, to tell their stories, share their growth and celebrate our achievements as women in many facets. That has to start somewhere, and this is the episode for it! Second, this is my friend Korin who I have not seen in pe...

On the last episode, you heard a portion of my life story, in all of its raw, dark moments. In this episode I attempt to share some deeper reflections on some of the details of that time period, such as signs leading up to the abuse, how I was particularly vulnerable at that point in time and my best, non expert advice for recognizing when you could be susceptible to abuse.  Bear in mind, this is...

This episode, while vital in understanding why I needed to start this journey, this podcast and why I am passionate about uplifting women, also needs to come with a warning. It is not pleasant. It is not pretty. It is not packaged in a softly palatable way. It spells out very bluntly, a graphic depiction of domestic violence and how I came to find myself in a living nightmare, the kind I believed...

In my very first episode, I run through who I am,  why I am doing this, what I hope to accomplish and briefly what I think this could look like. This has been a dream for some time, to have a sacred space for women to find themselves, as I have been slowly discovering myself.  I wasn't sure what this would look like, but as I recently began discovering more of my voice and in the process of c...