She Is Here™

Have you ever felt lonely in a room full of people, even when you’re surrounded, included, and socially “fine”? In this episode, I talk about my time working with ITV on their Dance Away Loneliness campaign and explore why loneliness isn’t always about the absence of people, but the absence of emotional safety. You’ll learn how people-pleasing, masking, and nervous system survival responses can cr...

If you’ve ever wondered “why do people call me too sensitive?” or questioned whether your feelings are “too much”, this spoken word piece is for you. I explore how sensitivity gets misunderstood, how shame gets attached to it, and why sensitivity isn’t the problem - the meaning assigned to it is. This episode is for the deep-feelers, the ones who swallow their reactions to keep the peace, and the...

Ever received a message that made your stomach drop… and your brain instantly filled in the blanks with “They’re annoyed” or “I’ve done something wrong”? In today’s episode I share a real moment from my Instagram DMs that could have easily led to shame, confrontation or avoidance - and how demonstrates the importance of nervous system safety. This episode covers:  • why we overthink texts and and...

In this episode, I’m breaking down what I actually mean when I say “safe” and “safe enough to be seen”   because it’s not about confidence, mindset tricks, or forcing yourself to speak louder. We hear the word safety everywhere now, especially in conversations about visibility, boundaries, relationships, and nervous system work. But what most people don’t realise is that safety isn’t about staying...

You can understand your anxiety and know where it comes from. And still feel anxious. If you’ve ever thought “I get it… so why does this still feel so hard?” , this episode is for you. I explore why insight alone isn’t enough to stop anxiety and why feeling anxious doesn’t always mean you’re stuck in familiar unhelpful patterns or that you’re failing. From a trauma-informed, nervous-system lens, I...

January and New Year’s resolutions leave many women feeling like they’re failing -even when they’re trying their best. In this trauma-informed episode, we explore why January so often triggers self-criticism, shame, and the sense that you’re “not consistent enough” or “not disciplined enough” - and why this isn’t a personal failing. This isn’t a motivation or willpower problem. More often than not...

A few spoken words for Mums at Christmas.   Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, FREE resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/

This opening episode of She Is Here™, marks the beginning of a new chapter - not a reinvention from Let's talk People-Pleasing , but a continuation of a remembering. People-pleasing was never your personality. It was a nervous-system response. A clever adaptation to environments where it felt safer to be less — less loud, less emotional, less honest, less visible. This new series introduces d...

Have you ever told yourself you’re fine, only to find your body proving otherwise?  In this short, honest episode, I reflect on how ignoring my own body’s signals turned a simple cough into a chest infection… and what it reminded me about pausing, listening, and letting the body lead - something a lot of us can struggle to do! I talk about my NHS and people-pleasing days when having time off made...

I wanted to sit down and share honestly where my head and heart are at as I reflect on where this podcast and my message are heading.  I've noticed that when I started the podcast I was - sometimes unconsciously -following marketing type “rules” of what I should and shouldn’t cover, how much I should or shouldn't post etc. but I’ve realised those rules don’t always honour the depth of my...

Last episode focused on identifying the real reason you feel guilty when you say no or put yourself first - in this episode we are exploring those internalised rules  like “if I rest then i’m lazy,” or “if I say no then I’m selfish.” I walk you through some reflective prompts and a simple practice to help you start rewriting those rules into something kinder and more realistic — so you can honour...

If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find yourself feeling guilty. In this episode I talk about how guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong. Often, it shows up because you’ve broken an internalised rule you’ve been carrying for years — like “I must keep everyone happy” or “Putting mysel...

For years, I told myself the reason I couldn’t speak up, share my thoughts, or truly let myself be seen was because I wasn’t confident enough. Maybe you’ve told yourself the same thing — that you just need to “push through,” “fake it till you make it,” or somehow be braver. But recently, something happened that made me realise the problem isn’t about confidence at all. In this episode, I share a d...

Do you often put everyone else’s needs before your own - and feel bad if you don’t? In this episode, I’m joined by Kay from Place to Talk Therapy Practice to explore the deep connection between shame and people-pleasing. We talk about how shame begins, how it shows up in everyday life, and why it can feel so hard to break free from old patterns. Kay shares her personal experience of living with sh...

I share what it’s really like to walk the well-worn path of people-pleasing - the one that promises peace, acceptance, and connection, but actually leaves you feeling lost and disconnected from yourself. I talk about the hidden costs of always saying yes, the silent panic when you even think about saying no, and why it can feel like you don’t even know what you want anymore. Most importantly, I ex...

Past me would NEVER have done this. This weekend I went to Creamfields on my own, volunteered with Blink Mental Health, gave therapy sessions in the middle of the thumping bass - and then did something that reminded me how liberating it is when you break free from people-pleasing. When I was in my anxious, overthinking people-pleasing prime, I’d never have walked into a festival alone. I’d never h...

Have you noticed that so much content online sounds the same? Lately, I’ve found myself scrolling and thinking, “this looks like AI wrote it.” And then the worry hits: what if people think the same about my content ? In this episode, I’m talking honestly about: Why so much content feels repetitive or AI-generated The pressure to follow “scroll-friendly” formulas  My own fear that my writing might...

A lot of people hadn’t realised I’m trained in Psychosexual Therapy and Sex and Porn ‘Addiction’ Counselling, and when I recently shared a post talking about my credentials, I was asked to do an episode on the subject of people-pleasing and sex. And I’m really glad they asked, because it’s a topic that doesn’t get spoken about enough — and on reflection, I’m guilty of that too! Yet if you’re a peo...

In this episode I reflect on 8 years ago, when I started my business, my private practice. At that time I had a Facebook Page... and no other way to market myself. I rarely shared the Facebook Page because - I told myself I was being 'professional' - I didn't want to 'push' my services on to people, because that would be unethical.  Even as a self-aware therapist with 20+...

What is people-pleasing?  and why do so many of us not realise we’re doing it?  In this episode I talk about what people-pleasing really looks like - from the outside and the inside. Because I never used to call it people-pleasing either. I just thought I was being “nice,” “easy,” “helpful.” But behind that laid-back, dependable exterior? I was anxious, overthinking, and quietly abandoning myself...

In this episode, I’m covering a question I've been asked on Instagram a few times now: “How do I know if my child is a people-pleaser and what can I do to help?” To do this episode justice, I’ve invited the brilliant Becky—an Anxiety Coach for Teenagers and fellow recovering people-pleaser—to join me in exploring this important topic. Becky talks about the work she does, what people-pleasing...

Have you ever read something online that didn't sit right with you?  Maybe you noticed your heart race and the real pull to say something -  but after re-reading your response so many times, worrying it doesn't sound 'right' ... it just felt easier not to post it, to stay silent. Or maybe it didn't even cross your mind to respond - it didn't feel like speaking up was...

There are so many layers to people-pleasing and when you become a Mum it can bring up so much for you! In this episode I've got Erin joining me - a somatic therapist from Baltimore who also works with people-pleasers, whilst we've followed each other on Instagram for a while, this is the first time we have 'met' and chatted.  This honest conversation covers different ways peopl...

In this episode, I talk you through how to recognise when imposter syndrome is showing up in your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. I highlight the common signs that you’re caught in the imposter spiral (like over-preparing, avoidance, or constantly doubting yourself), and I guide you through how to challenge the thoughts that tell you you're a fraud or not good enough — without forcing fal...

Feeling out of your depth doesn’t mean you are. I'm talking about that all-too-familiar feeling of being out of your depth - even when you know logically you’re experienced and credible. If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your abilities when stepping into something less familiar - be it launching a programme, showing up online, or taking a brave next step in your business - this on...