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If you often find yourself saying 'yes' when you want to say no - despite 'knowing' it's ok to say no and to set healthy boundaries, then this episode will help you understand why it feels so difficult. Because despite the advice out there to 'just let them' 'let them be upset with you.. ' 'just say no' it's not as simple as that is it!?...

This episode is for the girl you used to be - the one who learned to be agreeable, quiet, and easy so she could stay accepted and feel safe. The one who was called “shy” but was actually scanning the room. The one who hid her bigness to avoid being “too much.” If you became what others needed, but lost touch with who you really are, this is your invitation to gently unmask. You were never too much...

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a really personal moment that completely caught me off guard - and shifted something deep within me. Despite all the therapy, training, and self-awareness I’ve built over the years… it took one conversation with someone else to help me see a belief I’d been carrying for decades. A belief I didn’t even realise was still quietly shaping how I saw myself. This episode...

You might be making more progress than you think. I’m talking about the shifts we often overlook - the subtle signs that show you’re breaking old patterns and building something new, even if the big transformation hasn’t happened yet. If you’re someone who tends to downplay your growth or only looks for the dramatic changes, this is your reminder to slow down and notice the evidence that you are c...

You’ve learnt the marketing strategies. You know what to do. Rationally you know you'd be encouraging your friend to go for it - that she should shout about her achievements, that she deserves to. So why are you still cringing when it’s time to show up? Why do you feel so uncomfortable about putting yourself out there? In this episode, I’m talking about the real reason visibility feels so har...

When Vicki hit burnout as a primary school teacher, she realised she had lost her sense of self. In this honest chat, she shares how years of people-pleasing led to a breakdown that ultimately became a turning point. We explore identity loss, good girl conditioning, self-worth struggles, and how personal growth helped her reconnect with her true self. If you’ve ever felt like you were "too mu...

In today’s episode, I’m joined by a very special guest — mindset and personal stylist and founder of The Success Stylist Co, Emma — for a real and relatable conversation about confidence, self-expression, and breaking free from old patterns. So many women describe confidence as feeling out of reach, like something you're either born with or not. But as you'll hear today, confidence is so...

I’m joined by Victoria Haydn, a brilliant brand photographer who works with women to capture them in a way that feels truly authentic and empowering.  I wanted to chat to Victoria because so much of what I cover on the podcast is about stepping into who you really are, letting go of people-pleasing, and embracing your worth—and having photos taken can bring up so many fears and insecurities that r...

You pride yourself on being kind — but is it really kindness, or something else in disguise? In this episode, I’m talking about the subtle but powerful difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing. Because while kindness comes from empathy and choice, people-pleasing is often driven by fear, guilt, or a need for approval — and over time, it can quietly lead to burnout, resentment, and l...

If you’re an Overcommitter, you probably find yourself automatically saying “yes”, often without even thinking. You’re seen as the 'dependable one', the 'strong one' always available to help. But you end up juggling far too much — running around, squeezing everything in, and quietly carrying the pressure because you don’t want to let anyone down. The difficult part is, even wit...

Do you get' what you need to do - you've read the self-help books and listened to the podcasts but you just don't feel able to implement the advice? In today’s episode, I’m sharing my view of Mel Robbins’ “Let Them Theory” - the idea that we aren’t responsible for managing other people’s emotions or choices. While this sounds liberating, for those with trauma histories, ADHD, reject...

Did you know that people-pleasing isn't just doing things for others , it runs much deeper than that. If you're curious about your own People-Pleasing Personality - take my free quiz and discover more about how people-leasing is showing up for you... and what to do about it click here  In this episode me and Hannah are chatting all about our experiences with being Social Chameleons - the...

In this episode, Nicola joins me to share her personal journey from over-giving and over-doing in relationships to recognising her worth was beyond what she gave and achieved and provides insights on how to start receiving as much as you give. We talk about how people-pleasing tendencies often stem from deep-seated beliefs about worthiness and explore practical steps toward healing and self-accept...

Do you feel like you've been following all the 'right' steps in life - being the good girl, ticking off the achievements, doing what’s expected - only to realise something still feels off ? In this episode, I chat to fellow therapist Natasha about her personal journey of realising she wasn’t showing up as her true self, the wake-up call that led her to embrace her authenticity, and...

In this episode, Matt Hassan ( @veggie_gardener_matt) shares his story of breaking free from people-pleasing and approval seeking tendencies to that of embracing life on his own terms.  You'll find lots of relatable examples of how people-pleasing can show up - in often subtle ways - and how freeing it feels to no longer be in it's grip.  Matt shares examples of what helps him practice l...

Have you ever felt like you had no choice but to say yes? Like you had to go along with something, even when every part of you really didn’t want to?  You might just think, "I have to do this," or, "There’s no way I can say no."   Or it might not even be a conscious thought and you just automatically do the thing not realising that you had more than one choice. For people-pleas...

In this episode, I speak to Eve Cale, a busy mum, wife, and business owner (@giftwrappedbyeve), about the vital importance of setting boundaries in everyday life. Eve shares her experience of realising she was spreading herself too thin and how she began to say 'no' to break free from a cycle of overcommitment, embracing the power of healthy boundaries. Whether you’re struggling with peo...

Different to the usual episodes - this is for all you if you often find yourself flipping between feeling like you are 'too much' and 'not enough'. I'm sharing with you an audio from an ad-libbed reel I posted to Instagram. These words come straight from the heart. If this resonates please share for others or head to my Instagram @charlotte_bailey_therapies to watch the re...

2024 has been a year of transformation, personally, professionally, and authentically. Tune in for inspiration, honest reflections, and invites to reflect on your own growth and set meaningful intentions for the year ahead. In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes to reflect on the highlights of the past year: from relaunching my business and building my own website to stepping out of my...

Ever thought, “My problems aren’t bad enough for therapy,” or perhaps you know you could do with some help but aren't sure what you would actually want therapy for. Maybe deep down you know you want to stop people-pleasing but worried about becoming mean or selfish? You’re not alone. In this episode I talk about some of the common myths that stop you from accessing therapy, why these might be...

In this episode, I’m sharing 12 practical ways to begin tackling people-pleasing habits. As I describe some relatively simple but powerful ideas, I'll talk about the importance of learning how to observe your habits with curiosity - paying attention to when people-pleasing shows up, why certain situations feel harder, and how small shifts can create big change over time. This isn’t about flip...

If you’ve ever found yourself saying yes to things at work when you really want to say no, avoiding conflict at all costs, or struggling to set boundaries, then this episode is for you. I explore how people-pleasing might be holding you back in your career, even in ways you might not expect, and what you can start doing about it today Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relata...

My first guest on the podcast! Sheena joins me to talk about her work with people living with long term health conditions and chronic pain, the importance of learning to set boundaries, communicating your needs and finding balance -  for your emotional AND physical health! This is a must listen for anyone regardless of whether you have a health condition or not, the mind and body is so connected a...

In this episode, I talk about parentification - when you were made to take on adult responsibilities as a child and how that can shape your beliefs, boundaries, and relationships as an adult and people-pleasing behaviours. I talk about practical steps to help you start breaking free from these patterns, like challenging unhelpful beliefs, tuning into your own needs, and acknowledging the impact of...

Have you ever caught yourself downplaying your achievements? In this episode, I’m sharing a recent moment where I noticed myself minimising my success and how it’s a sneaky habit rooted in good girl conditioning. I explore why so many women feel the need to shrink themselves, the subtle ways it shows up in our lives, and how to start breaking free from it. If you’ve ever deflected praise or felt u...