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The festive season can feel overwhelming, especially when you're pulled in all directions, trying to please everyone and make everything perfect. In this episode, I talk about signs you're going into people-pleasing mode this Christmas and explore how to set boundaries. From managing family expectations to prioritising your well-being, I’ll share practical tips to help you navigate the s...

If you’re working on yourself, making progress with your psychological insights and new perspectives, you may have come across times where certain people in your life just aren’t on board or on the same path. In today’s episode, I’m talking about what it feels like to grow, and become more self-aware while some people remain in the same patterns of thinking and seeing the world and relationships s...

Does your partner do things that make you feel uncomfortable, but it feels easier to ignore it and pretend you’re OK with it? Perhaps you don’t want to come across as a nag or seem insecure, or maybe that’s exactly what you’ve been told when you’ve tried to express how you feel! In this episode, I explore why people-pleasers often suppress their true feelings and ignore their own boundaries in rom...

Have you noticed 'sorry' is often an automatic response? Are you sick of of saying ‘sorry’ for things that aren’t your fault? In this episode I talk about the habit of over-apologising – where it comes from, why it’s so common in people-pleasers, and some practical tips to help you break free from it.  Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel fr...

I talk about how constantly trying to please others can take it's toll on your mental and physical health. Feeling the pressure to meet everyone’s expectations can lead to stress, anxiety, and even burnout, making boundary-setting even more important. I share practical tips for breaking free from the cycle of people-pleasing and prioritising your own well-being.  Join me over on Instagram for...

In this episode, I'm reflecting on my recent experience of being a guest on a podcast for the first time and how imposter syndrome and anxiety showed up. If you ever struggle with feelings of not being good enough, please know you're not alone! I talk you through techniques you can use to help you shift your mindset, reframe negative thoughts, and stop self-doubt controlling what you do...

This episode explores the link between ADHD, trauma, and people-pleasing, and how these patterns can stop you from living authentically. I discuss how being told you are 'too much' has a lasting impact on you and can lead to masking, approval-seeking, and shrinking your true self to be accepted and feel like you fit in.  I share insights on recognising these patterns and practical steps...

If the thought of confrontation makes you feel sick, perhaps your body shakes and your brain feels scrambled when it comes to trying to articulate yourself, this one's for you. I explore the very common fear of confrontation - the why behind it and the what to do about it.  If this resonates with you please reach out on instagram and let me know, I'd love to hear from you.  Join me over...

When it comes to going on a night out or meeting friends do you find yourself stressing out about what to wear and worrying what people will think of how you look? Perhaps you end up with clothes all over the place after so many outfit changes and scrutinising yourself in the mirror. You might ring your friends to see what they're wearing because you feel paralysed by indecision. Please know...

In this episode I share the simple yet profound words my daughter said that prompted me to reflect on how we treat and speak to ourselves. I share an easy technique you can use to help break free from your inner critic so you can start speaking to yourself with less hate and more kindness and self-compassion. Don't forget to Like, Share and Subscribe if you found this helpful.  Join me over o...

Do you notice you always seem to feel particularly anxious when you're around a certain person in your life? Perhaps it's more than one person. Despite 'knowing' you don't need to feel anxious you can't help but feel uncomfortable or on edge around them. In this episode we'll explore why you might feel that way and you'll discover how to figure out what&apos...

You are probably familiar with the more obvious signs of people-pleasing such as struggling to say no to things you don't want to do or bending over backwards for people at the expense of your own needs, but what about the less obvious signs? People-pleasing becomes so engrained that some habits we pick up are so normalised they go under the radar and we don't see them for what they are...

If you find yourself saying yes when you really want to say no, always putting others first and feeling burnt out in the process, then this podcast is for you. I’m Charlotte Bailey, an experienced attachment and trauma-informed psychotherapist—and a former anxious people-pleaser myself. With 15 years as a therapist and 20 years of studying psychology, I help people get to the root of their people-...