Shades of Trauma Healing | Childhood Trauma, Trust Issues, Coping Skills, Growth Mindset, Trust God, Discernment, Purpose

  Show Notes Hey, Sister-friend 👋🏽   The month of February has been dubbed, Boost Self-Esteem month. I don’t think the idea is to look at self-esteem this month alone, but it is to raise awareness so people can pause and focus on how they feel about themselves, take inventory and address what needs to be addressed. This is what I’ll be doing today. I’ll share with you some tips that you can use...

Show Notes Hey, Sister-friend 👋🏽 Children learn and develop by playing. When they are allowed to play, they get to explore new things, develop different skills, step outside their comfort zones, and have carefree fun. When there is no pressure or criticism to the play, we seek their creativity to come out, and for any observer, you get a few giggles at the shared joy they experience. This is the...

Hey, Sister-friend 👋🏽  Welcome back to the 2nd part of the series on the inner child. If you have not listened to episode 27 yet, pause here, go back and listen to that one because it sets the foundation for what we will talk about today. In today’s episode, I’ll go through an exercise to help you connect with your inner child. I’ll also give some background about why these exercises work based...

Hey, Sister-friend 👋🏽 Today, we begin to explore the concept of the inner child, which is one of my favorite topics. We’ll define who the inner child is and talk about the benefits of getting to know your inner child and why letting them show up is essential to healing your trauma. This is an important topic because, for many women, the inner child has been suppressed, dismissed or denied. When...

Happy New Year Sister-Friend 👋🏽 This is the second part of the series on setting New Year's Goals. Today, I share why I no longer set New Year's resolutions and what I do instead. I include my 5-step goal-setting strategy to ensure a win in every situation. I hope this episode is supportive for you. Blessings and Love 😊 Jenniel Mentions: https://yearcompass.com/ 🌟Your Next Steps🌟 👉🏼Sign up...

Happy New Year Sister-Friend 👋🏽 I hope you had a blessed Christmas week and managed to strike the balance between rest and fun. I had a lovely holiday; I spent time with my favourite people and doing my favourite activities, which included cozying up in front of the fireplace and watching reruns of my favourite Christmas movies. I did have a good balance between socializing and sleeping, and I a...

Happy Holidays, Seasons Greetings, Merry Christmas, sister friend 👋🏽 Different people have different responses and experiences regarding the holidays, and whatever is going on for you, I hope you are finding space to enjoy the essence of the season. Today I’ll be talking about what the essence of Christmas means from the perspective of Trauma.  We’ll explore how Jesus himself experienced various...

Seasons Greetings, Sister-friend 👋🏽   Christmas is one week away, and some of you may be excited for the holidays, as you look forward to reconnecting and spending time with loved ones. Some of you may be just a little bit anxious about the thought of being in the same space as certain relatives. Sure, you love your people, but let’s face it, families can be complicated. There may have been past...

Hey, Sister-friend 👋🏽  The Christmas season is here, and it's traditionally a time of giving. People go all out to gift items to friends and loved ones and sometimes themselves. Picture this, It's Christmas morning, and you've got a beautifully wrapped gift sitting under the tree. Your name is on it, and even though you gifted it to yourself, you are still so excited about it. You carefully unwr...

Hey, Sister-friend 👋🏽 Today we’re diving into a topic that's important and highly relevant for many trauma survivors. We will shine a light on trauma dumping, what is it, why it happens, how to know if you are doing it, how to respond if it is happening to you, and how to be more mindful about our interactions in personal relationships. Let's dive into this topic with grace, love, and an open he...

Welcome back Sister-friend 👋🏽 Loneliness is on the rise, and in some countries like the UK, it is considered an epidemic, so much so that the UK Government appointed a Secretary of Loneliness to address this concern. In addition, during the pandemic, we saw a rise in loneliness as people were isolated and socially disconnected from friends, family and community. There used to be a stigma attache...

Hey Sister-Friend 👋🏽 Wat is the difference between hypervigilance and discernment? Most trauma survivors developed hypervigilance as a way of keeping safe. The traumatized brain is always on the lookout for people or things that may pose a threat to well-being. Hypervigilance is fear-based, and stems from the idea that people may not be who they seem or they may hurt you in some way. Christian w...

Hey Sister-Friend 👋🏽 Welcome to another episode. For many trauma survivors, the inability to trust is a genuine concern, as their trauma has left them with unwanted trust issues. These trust issues impact how they interact with others; it often keeps them from reaching out for help and support because they are afraid to trust others and risk getting hurt again, or being judged, or rejected.   Wh...

Welcome back Sister-Friend, Today, we continue to look at how to address negative thinking. If you haven’t listened to episode 16 – Struggling with Negative Thoughts,” pause here and go back to that one because you’ll need that foundation in order to get the most out of today’s episode. We’ll look at a standard and a low-energy strategy for addressing the negative thoughts. It takes time and energ...

Hey Sister-Friend, Dealing with negative thoughts is draining. It feels like it is a never-ending process that steals your peace. All you want to do is go about your day, see the beauty in life and enjoy day-to-day moments, but negative thoughts keep interrupting your flow, and before you know it, your mood changes, and you’re in a funk. What do you do when this happens? You don’t have to stay cap...

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When I began working with people to help them heal from difficult childhood experiences, I began having more and more conversations at work and with people in general about childhood trauma. We would talk about their struggles, hopes and wishes related to healing from childhood trauma. I began to see a pattern of women not understanding, minimizing or dismissing their traumatic experiences. The mo...

Let’s talk about journaling. How does journaling help with trauma symptoms like anxiety, stress or depression? If you struggle with feeling overwhelmed and unable to process feelings, journaling can benefit you. It gives you the opportunity to sit and process while engaging multiple areas of the brain for problem-solving, lifting moods and increasing self-awareness. I also provide tips on how to b...

Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries. What are they? Is it selfish to set boundaries? Is it even Christlike?   Today, I will answer all these questions and share why I believe it is NOT selfish to set boundaries. If you are unsure if you have healthy, porous or rigid boundaries, you will get insight into what these mean and how they appear. If a lack of boundaries are causing you emotional and physi...

Can God heal your trauma? When you first hear this question, you might be tempted to look at it as a question about God’s ability to do something about your situation, but I want to invite you to ask this question from the view of what you believe about God.   Today, I will answer this question from the perspective of what we believe about God, what he says he can do for you, and I will share how...

In the last episode I shared a body orienting exercise that prepares you to do the exercises I share today. To get the most out of today’s episode, I encourage you to listen to episode number 9 before continuing.   Dealing with anxiety is not pretty, it is often inconvenient, embarrassing and makes you self-conscious. All you want to do is be in control of yourself but when anxiety occurs, it beco...

Meditating on God's word is a great way to deal with anxiety as a Christian woman. It is also important to know more about how anxiety develops in the body, because depending on the type of anxiety and the stage of the symptoms, there are additional strategies you can use.   Today I want to talk about the other side of treating anxiety. That is at the somatic or body level. You will hear some of t...

Hello Sister Friend, Being stuck in the space of trauma wounds is painful, discouraging and, at times, debilitating. You know there is more to life, you want to experience healing and growth, but you find it difficult to take a step toward help. This is quite normal for trauma survivors. Moving forward requires support, courage, and faith. In today’s episode, I talk about 4 reasons that keep Chris...

Hey Sister-Friend, Dealing with grief is tough. It takes so much energy to function with a heavy heart. Sometimes it is easier to keep busy and stay distracted. That may be helpful in the early stages  of grief and useful as a way to function day-to-day, but the weight of the pain does not go away, and to begin experiencing healing, that grief must be named, addressed, and released.   This year, N...

Hey Sister-Friend, How are you doing today? I hope you are well :-) Today we will look at part 2 of the four pillars of trauma healing every Christian woman should know. In part one (episode 5), I unpacked the first two pillars of trauma healing, which are: Relational safety and preparation, and Education and skills building In this episode, I will discuss the last two pillars: Desensitization and...