Sexy Marriage Radio

Nellie Harden joins me as we have a conversation about marriage and family life and how in the midst of this time, important things get missed or lost.  Learn more about Nellie on her site - https://www.nellieharden.com/ On the Xtended Version ... I ask Nellie a question based on something mentioned in the regular version of the show ... Do parents really do the best they can? Enjoy the show! Spon...

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... An email from a husband who had an affair 5 years ago - and he and his wife haven't had sex since. A question about how to talk about masturbation, wet dreams and pornography with adolescents. On the Xtended Version ... Trust. We all believe it is vital to relationships. But what if it's not what we...

Today I welcome Cedric Bertelli as we talk about his work with emotional resolution. We are all familiar with emotions, we all have them. But Cedric's work focuses on the emotions that are triggered from things in our past, or fears, or worry. How do you actually heal from them, or make them stop happening? That's what we discuss. Learn more about Cedric here https://www.cedricbertelli.com/ On the...

An email came in wanting our take on Dr Doug Weiss' Intimacy Anorexia concept. What exactly does this mean? Are we each capable of this? What do we do when see see this? And, what if it's actually better viewed as cruelty? On the Xtended Version ... Author Kate Bowler has some helpful words regarding what to say and what not to say when faced with someone else's grief or loss or struggle. Words we...

Today I welcome guest Dean Pohlman, the founder of Man Flow Yoga. Dean shares his unique journey into the world of yoga, which started accidentally with a fitness-focused class that turned out to be more challenging and beneficial than he expected. We discuss how yoga is often overlooked by men who prefer intense workouts for building muscle, but Dean emphasizes that yoga's slow, controlled moveme...

I'm joined today by Ellen Chute, LMSW as we talk through her metaphor of looking at family dynamics and systems ... where everyone sat in the car growing up. Learn more about Ellen here - https://www.ellenychute.com/ On the Xtended Version ... Ellen and I keep the conversation going, only the tables are turned and she uses my childhood as a look into how her metaphor plays out. In other words, let...

A regular guest joins me again today, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, and we dive into the relational dynamic of attraction and desire. They happen to us, and we choose them. They naturally ebb and flow. And how do we get them back if they are lost? Learn more about Jennifer here - https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your...

I'm joined today by JK Emezi, of Elevated Recovery and we have a frank conversation about high speed internet pornography. Learn more about JK here - https://elevatedrecovery.org/ On the Xtended Version ... JK and I get personal and talk about our journeys as well as the concept of betrayal trauma. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove....

Pam and I get into a conversation about how we as married people can so often find ourselves over-reacting to our spouse's over-reaction. Why does this happen? What can we do to stop it? On the Xtended Version ... Author and modern-day monk, Jay Shetty has a 4 E formula for better relationships. We discuss what they are and if we agree with him. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Join Relay: Learn more...

Counselor and author Debra Fileta joins me today as we talk about triggers, trauma and the state of the world. Learn more about Debra and find her books here - https://debrafileta.com/ On the Xtended Version ... We continue the conversation and shift it towards what are some steps we can take to address triggers and traumas in our lives. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Join Relay: Learn more about th...

Pam and I use an email from a wife who is in a sexless marriage, going on 20 years now, and she wants to know if there is anything she can do, but divorce is not an option. We answer her questions, then expand into some different topics that are at play in every marriage. On the Xtended Version ... We do a deeper look at the dynamic of over-functioning and under-functioning. Which one are you? Enj...

Dr Michael Sytsma joins me again as we dive into the idea of how there is something much deeper going on during sex. There is a higher view to take. Learn more about Dr Sytsma here - https://intimatemarriage.org/bim-team/mike-sytsma/ On the Xtended Version ... I continue the conversation with Michael about Dr Schnarch's idea of eyes-open-sex. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and...

Chandler and Jade Rogers join the show today as they share their story of pornography struggle, its impact on their relationship and their journey towards healing. Check out the app Chandler created to help others on this journey as well - Relay On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I share our story and journey with the struggle and impact of pornography on our marriage and life. Enjoy the show! Spo...

This week Pam and I are looking back at what we've learned after 30 years of marriage. Come look back with us. On the Xtended Version ... A surprisingly high number of people will admit to snooping on their spouse's phone or devices. So what's the motivation and results of this path? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https...

This week Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of hormones and menopause. If you are a woman - you won't want to miss this episode. Learn more about Dr Kelly here - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod The post Menopause a...

Today we answer emails from the Nation. A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn't moving it. What's going on? A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it once and now the wife is unwilling to try it again. On the Exte...

In this episode I'm joined by Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor, and we talk about the importance of facing and addressing trauma and pain in order to heal and grow. Our tendency often is to numb or run away from pain - or attempt to manage it, but it is more important to be a witness to one's own story while also having empathetic witnesses in the form of supportive friends and fam...

This week we are trying something different - this is a conversation from Pam and I while we were driving back from moving a parent into an independent living complex.  What are we learning while we deal with issues surrounding aging parents - and teenagers? Listen to find out.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource,...

In this episode, I'm joined by Stacey Freedenthal, PhD, as we talk  about the taboo topic of suicide and the importance of brave listening. Dr. Freedenthal shares her experiences as a suicide prevention expert and her insights on how to talk about suicide with loved ones. We discuss the fear and discomfort that often surrounds this topic and how to overcome it through active listening, empathy, an...

Hello, Nation! I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Wyatt Fisher, a licensed psychologist and marriage counselor. In this episode, we discussed a powerful tool for couples called the "Bullseye Question," which can help couples communicate effectively and strengthen their relationship. The Bullseye Question involves setting aside five minutes each day to give and receive constructive fee...

Abby Davidson joins the show as we talk about one of the more contentious topics in married life, money. What are some good ways to address this topic and then make decisions together? Listen to find out.  Learn more about Abby here - https://www.abbydavisson.com/ On the Extended Version ... We keep the conversation going and get a little more personal.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get...

Brianna Carey joins me today as we discuss the common issues women face during the postpartum stage of life and marriage. To learn more about Brianna, check out her site - https://brianna-carey.square.site/ On the Extended Version ... We keep the conversation going and discuss some of the ideas Brianna uses to maintain a better connection with your spouse, regardless of the season or stage of life...

Today I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talk through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And what should married couples do about our differences and similarities? Learn more about them and their work here - ht...

Tonya Lester joins me as we dive into the idea of how we should all be difficult. It's an interesting way to look at the concept of people pleasing and relationships. We also look at 2 concepts that are often present in relationships, gaslighting and love bombing.  To learn more about Tonya, go here https://www.tonyalester.com/ On the Extended Version ... We keep the conversation going about the 3...

A husband has emailed us with feedback and his thoughts about Episodes #610 and #611. We go through his ideas point by point, and then land on a conversation about the win-win situations in marriage. Or, to put it another way, do they really exist? On the Extended Version ... Pam and I discuss the three different sexual styles according the Dr Schnarch. Which style is yours? Enjoy the show! Sponso...