Sexy Marriage Radio

Today let's explore the impact of reactions and perceptions in relationships, specifically in the context of discovering pornography usage. There are lots of complexities with the aspects of honesty, trustworthiness, fear, and shame. Like how others perceive us, the importance of acknowledging others, the reactions to the discovery of pornography usage, motivations for lying, managing fear and sha...

In this conversation, I'm joined by Jason Van Ruler as we discuss the importance of addressing past wounds and traumas in order to move forward in life and relationships. We talk about the concept of scripts and how our past experiences shape the narratives we tell ourselves.  Learn more about Jason here - https://www.jasonvr.com/ Takeaways Addressing past wounds and traumas is essential for perso...

In today's episode of Sexy Marriage Radio,  we discuss the truth about pressures in marriage and sex. We explore the dynamics of power distribution in sexual relationships and the responsibility each partner has for their own pleasure. We also dive into the impact of how we relate to our sexuality and the importance of facing responsibility and making conscious choices. The overall goal? Have open...

In today's episode, we continue the discussion on the topic of mercy sex and the pressures and obligations that can arise in marriage. Let's explore the impact of religious beliefs and family of origin on sexuality, and the importance of peeling away layers and developing new ones to create a more fulfilling sex life. So what are the practical steps for dealing with pressure and obligation, shifti...

In this conversation, John Eldredge joins me as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that arise. We also discuss the fragility of the world...

In this episode, we discuss the concept of mercy sex in a marriage. What are the  characteristics of mercy sex and the impact it has on both the lower desire and higher desire spouses? We also discuss the pressure to have sex and how it affects the dynamics of a relationship. As well as a discussion on how to move from mercy sex to freely chosen sex, where both spouses are actively participating a...

In this episode, we address some of the  feedback from last week's episode about a husband losing attraction to his wife. We explore the impact of such revelations on men and women - is there a difference in how it impacts each gender - and we explore the concept of facing dilemmas and making choices in relationships. The key here is the importance of self-validation and differentiation in persona...

In today's episode, we dive into a listener's question about a lack of desire in her marriage. After working through the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, the husband shared he has no desire or attraction towards his wife. What does she do now? It's important she faces the truth of the system and begins recognizing the underlying dynamics. In this process it is imperative she recognizes the importan...

The 2024 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Natalie Hickson joins me as she shares her mission of helping moms overcome anger and anxiety in motherhood and marriage. We discuss the challenges of transitioning into parenthood and the triggers that can lead to destructive anger. Natalie emphasizes the importance of recognizing and expressing ang...

Today we discuss the topic of flirting in relationships. Plus, let's explore the concept of 'good naked' and 'bad naked' and how it can impact erotic energies. It is important to maintain energy and tension in your relationship. One way to do this is through the process of flirting with your spouse. How you ask? We go over several tips today - including being congruent with who you are, using play...

Today we discuss the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, a communication tool designed to facilitate conversations about boundaries, preferences, and comfort levels in a couple's sex life. We also touch on holiday etiquette and the role of sex toys as stocking stuffers. It is important to have open and honest communication in marriage and the benefits of using tools like the Our Intimate Choices works...

Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Today we revisit a segment from the archives - A wife wants to know more how to help her husband and his struggle with pornography usage. A husband wants to know how to talk about sex more with his wife - who was raised by her grand...

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Everyone gets the full show ... We revisit a conversation with Dr Emily Nagoski, about how sex works in your brain. There is updated science, so she updated her work. What changed? Listen to find out. Learn more about Dr Nogowski here - https://www.emilynagoski.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honeylove: Get Up to 60% OFF @h...

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... I'm joined by Bill Nelson, a Certified Financial Planner and Certified Financial Therapist.  We dive into the world of money and marriage and meanings.  Learn more about Bill here - https://pacesetterplanning.com/ On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I discuss our take our takeaways from the conversat...

Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... I'm joined my Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill as we walk through their marriage tool for deeper connection and conversation.  You can learn more about the Connection Codes and pick up the 4 Minute Tool here - https://connectioncodes.co/pa...

Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Why do people get married? Let's explore several reasons and motivations. Plus, what do we most often expect from our marriage and life as it pertains to others? On the Xtended Version ... Can you marry the wrong person? Is this eve...

Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Apologies are a part of every life and relationship. But what about the times when we think we're apologizing but we're really not? We listen into a recent mastermind group call where the guys are talking about saying I'm sorry and...

Everyone gets both versions again ... Today we revisit a conversation from the archives. I’m joined by colleague Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and we talk about the marriages where everything seems to be great – except in one area. What’s happening here? Plus, how do you address resentment in marriage and life? Learn more about Dr Jennifer here – https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponso...

Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Unlock the Power of Intimacy - https://smr.fm/unlock  Everyone gets both versions ... Is there such a thing as unconditional love and aspects in marriage or other relationships? What if we all have conditions? That's what we explore this week. Enjoy the show!...

Unlock the Power of Intimacy - https://smr.fm/unlock  In this week's episode Pam and I answer a listener's email about his trouble coming to terms with his spouse's past, as well as some of their present. On the Xtended Version ... Is it possible that our spouse knows us better than we know ourselves? Yes - and we will go through all the ways we fool ourselves. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLo...

We revisit our main framework of everything we talk about on Passionately Married. What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage? How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage? In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch’s Four Points of Balance. On the Xtended version … We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. Thes...

Registration is now open for the 2024 Passionately Married Getaway - smr.fm/getaway On the Regular Version ... We go back in time to revisit an episode with Dr Lori Brotto. We to discuss how stress impacts life and sex - specifically sexual desire. Learn more about Dr Brotto on her website – www.debunkingdesire.com also find her on social media using this #debunkingdesire On the Xtended Version .....

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Everyone gets the full show today ... Chris Bruno joins me today as we dive into the world of re-storying, also could be termed restoring, our past and our lives. What exactly does this idea mean? Listen to find out. Learn more about Chris and his work here - https://www.restorationproject.net/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Ac...

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... In this week's episode Pam and I discuss warning signs of problems in marriage, and any relationships for that matter. What are the various signs to watch out for in a relationship? What if I see many of these in my marriage or life? On the Xtended Version ... We answer the question of what to do if...

We revisit a past segment from the archives where we dive into the idea of what is permissible in marriage and sex? This conversation is really less about one moral compass for all and more about the impacts of whatever it is you desire and seek in your marriage and sex life. On the Xtended Version ... What are the steps towards creating a great sex life? We share 8 of them. Enjoy the show! Sponso...