Sexy Marriage Radio

In this conversation, Dean Pohlman of Man Flow Yoga joins me again as we discuss the importance of self-care for men, particularly through yoga and exercise. We explore the resistance many men face in prioritizing their health, the significance of consistency in fitness routines, and how adapting exercise as we age is crucial. We also touch on the mental wellness aspect of creating space in our li...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the importance of understanding readiness for penetrative sex. What are the biological markers, communication cues, and the emotional aspects necessary for enjoyable sex for her? And for him? How does this apply particularly in the context of pain and trauma? Our conversation highlights the need for both spouses to be attuned to each other's bodie...

In this conversation pulled from the vault, we revisit a conversation with John Eldredge as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that arise...

This week we discuss the nuances of married life and sex, emphasizing the importance of reframing conversations around intimacy. We explore practical tips for enhancing sexual experiences in 2025 (but perhaps not in the way you may think intitially), the significance of body confidence, and the deeper understanding of adult desire. Our conversation challenges societal norms and encourages you to e...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities oral sex and the impact of past trauma. A listener emails about the challenges faced in their sexual relationship, including feelings of resentment and the influence of past experiences. Which sets the stage for a conversation about the importance of communication, the significance of the 69 position, and the potential for...

In this Christmas Day episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss a particular nuance of marriage and sex - focusing on the idea of sex as a gift. We explore the dynamics of power in sexual relationships, the importance of self-reflection, and how personal growth can enhance marital satisfaction. Our conversation encourages listeners to consider their motivations and the spirit they bring to their...

In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of pressure in marriage, focusing on the nuances of desire dynamics and the importance of collaboration. We explore the challenges faced by higher desire spouses, the role of pressure in relationships, and the significance of maturity and growth in navigating these dynamics. Our conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understandin...

In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of sexual desires within marriage, particularly focusing on the impact of pornography. We explore the nuances of attraction, the importance of communication in relationships, and the need for maturity in handling desires. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of honoring one's character and the choices made in the context of marriage, while...

In this episode, I'm joined again by Sam Jolman as we explore the complexities of male sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding and embodying one's sexuality without shame. We believe there is a need for deeper conversations around sexual behavior, relational dynamics, and the impact of maturity on sexual potential. We also touch on the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability,...

This week revisit a Best Of epsiode from the vault. A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn’t moving it. What’s going on? A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it once and now the wife is unwilling to try it again....

This week Pam and I discuss the complexities of intimacy, particularly focusing on oral sex and the impact of past trauma on current relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and presence in sexual encounters, while also addressing the challenges faced by individuals with traumatic histories. We hope to encourage listeners to navigate their sexual r...

In this episode, I'm joined by Alex and Kadi Dutton, founders of EveryLove Intimates.  We talk about their journey in creating their company aimed at enhancing intimacy in marriages. They discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy, the importance of variety and exploration in relationships, and how their products provide couples with the tools and permission to try new things toge...

Dr. Emily Jamea joins me as we discuss her new book, 'Anatomy of Desire,' focusing on the concept of flow state in sexual experiences. She outlines five key aspects that contribute to achieving flow: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement. We explore each aspect in depth, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with innate qualities to enhance intimacy and emotional...

In this milestone 700th episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we reflect on the journey of the podcast, celebrating its impact on relationships and personal growth. Join us as we share listener voicemails and highlight key takeaways from our years of experience on the show.  Plus, we explore the act of the hug from behind. Is it ever non-sexual?  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honey Love: Treat yourself t...

In this conversation, I'm joined by a colleague and friend Dr. Dave Jenkins as we dive deep into the concept of regression, particularly in the context of emotional states and relationships. We discuss how regression manifests as a brain state, the contagious nature of it in interpersonal dynamics, and the metaphor of the Mariana Trench to illustrate the depths of emotional regression. Our convers...

In this episode I'm joined by Casey and Meygan Caston of Marriage 365 - we discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining healthy marriages. We dive into the importance of intentionality, self-reflection, and personal responsibility in relationships. And highlight the unrealistic expectations set by societal norms and media portrayals of marriage, and the need for couples to focus on their own...

In this episode, we get a little personal and  discuss the challenges and dynamics of maintaining a strong marriage amidst life's transitions and pressures. Things like moving homes, managing family responsibilities, and the emotional weight that comes with it. We emphasize the importance of connection, communication, and understanding each other's needs to navigate these challenges effectively. P...

In this call-in show, I address the challenges faced by Julie - who has been married for over 30 years but have lost intimacy in the relationship. We discuss the complexities of rekindling their sexual life, the dynamics of desire, and the impact of erection issues on their intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding each other's needs, and embracing the aw...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Corey and Pam discuss the dynamics of power in marriage, exploring how couples navigate desires and tensions. Our conversation highlights the complexity of perception in relationships, particularly in high meaning situations, and the impact of family dynamics. We stress the importance of making effective moves in conversations and understanding each part...

Today we dive into two listener emails and explore the complexities of intimacy and communication in marriage. We discuss the balance between the pressures of wants in preferences when it comes to sex and then on sexual performance, and the importance of understanding each partner's background and expectations. Our conversation emphasizes the need for self-validation and the idea that learning and...

Today we revisit one of the best of a recent episode of SMR. In it, I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talked through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And what should married couples do about our differences...

Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it. Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control. Our conversation also addresses a listener's frustration...

This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships. We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensitivity, energetic sensitivity, and introspection. I...

Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue. And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't. Now what do both these couples do? Takeaways Recognize t...

This week, Dr. Corey chats with Sam Jolman, a fellow counselor and the author of The Sex Talk You Never Got.  We talk about the importance of sensuality and play in sex and relationships. We emphasize the need for men to slow down, savor the moment, and engage their senses in order to fully experience pleasure and intimacy. And we also highlight the role of playfulness in sex, suggesting that coup...