Sexy Marriage Radio

An episode from the vault - Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives. He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to drive our own lives inst...

In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery joins me as we dive into the complexities of Christian sexuality, exploring themes of trust, identity, and the integration of faith with sexual intimacy. We discuss the challenges Christians face in surrendering their sexuality to God, the importance of understanding behavior versus identity, and the biblical perspectives on sexuality. Juli emphasizes the journey...

In this episode, we answer a listeners question about how to address an issue that has come up now that his wife has had a partial hysterectomy and gets too wet so there is a loss of friction. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We explore the difference between a willingness vs intent to have sex. Only this segment is one where Pam and I are not on the same page and it goes a completely diff...

In this episode, recorded live from the 2025 Sex Marriage Radio Getaway, we explore how spending too much focus on the beginning of a sexual encounter can actually hurt the desire levels in both spouses. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … The second portion of the live Q&A session from the 2025 Getaway. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy

In this episode, recorded live from the 2025 Sex Marriage Radio Getaway, I quiz Pam and the audience on what they know about various aspects of sex. Follow along, or get a piece of paper and see how you score. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … A portion of the live Q&A session from the 2025 Getaway. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we address the complexities of navigating new relationships after experiencing loss. We discuss the challenges faced by a young widow who is trying to reconcile her past relationship with her new partner, emphasizing the importance of establishing boundaries, open communication, and allowing space for grief. Our conversation highlights the necessity of colla...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio we explore the Love Languages from Gary Chapman. Specifically we dive into how there are some problems with them that can actually be harmful to relationships. How exactly can something so widely known, and even loved, be possible? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … An email from an Academy member wants to know about action steps to...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we revisit an archive show with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We dive into the topic of obligation sex. Is it a part of every marriage? Is it harmful to one, or both spouses? To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast – check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. http...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into an email from a listener wanting help with the complexities of desire and connection in marriage. A husband is feeling used in a relationship where sexual interest seems limited to ovulation periods. Our conversation dives into the dynamics of sexual desire, the impact of past trauma, and the importance of communication in navigating these chall...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore common mistakes that couples make in their sexual relationships. They categorize these mistakes into those typically made by men and women, discussing issues such as communication, self-care, and understanding each other's desires. The conversation emphasizes the importance of connection and intimacy over mere physical encounters, encouraging coup...

We go back into the archives to one of the Best of SMR episodes. An email from a wife who has discovered the eroticism and freedom that can happen when masturbating together with her husband.  What’s the difference between sexual thoughts and lust? A husband wanting to know what to do when he’s tried to live in a way that ignites his wife’s passion (according to an old post I wrote – https://smr.f...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the concept of regressions and how they affect emotional functioning. We discuss the different types of regressions, the impact of stress, and the contagious nature of regression in relationships. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's emotional state to i...

In this episode, Marni Battista shares her journey from blaming her husband for her dissatisfaction to embracing change and personal growth within her relationship. Through her experiences and insights, she emphasizes the importance of asking better questions, designing a life together, and taking responsibility for one's own happiness. The discussion highlights the significance of collaboration,...

In this episode, we explore the complex dynamics of wanting to be wanted in relationships, emphasizing the universal nature of this desire. What's the difference between wanting and needing? How does this play out in the context of intimacy and connection? Our conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own desires and the role they play in their relationships, ultimately advocating for...

In this call-in episode, Anne discusses her experiences with her husband's lack of interest in her pleasure, she's guessing it is stemming from his background with pornography. Our conversation explores the dynamics of intimacy, expectations, and communication in their marriage, highlighting the challenges and growth they face together. We emphasize the importance of mutual pleasure, understanding...

In this conversation, J. Parker joins me as we talk through the dynamics of desire within relationships, particularly focusing on the experiences of higher desire wives. We discuss the societal perceptions of sexual desire, the complexities of male sexuality, and the various factors that can influence sexual interest in relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding the...

In this call-in conversation, Ashley from North Carolina discusses her experiences with desire dynamics in her marriage, particularly as a higher desire wife. We explore the complexities of emotional and physical intimacy, the importance of communication, and the challenges of navigating life changes such as parenthood. Our conversation emphasizes the need for vulnerability, self-discovery, and co...

In this conversation from the Archives, we revisit an episode with Dr Jennifer Finylason-Fife. TWe dive into the complexities of desire dynamics within marriage, particularly focusing on the roles of higher and lower desire spouses. The discussion highlights the impact of predictability on desire, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for authenticity in relationships. Dr. Jennifer Finlay...

In this conversation, Francie Winslow shares her transformative journey from the constraints of purity culture to embracing a vibrant and fulfilling sexual life within marriage. She discusses the importance of understanding sexuality as a divine gift, the need for education and growth in sexual intimacy, and the detrimental effects of silence and shame surrounding women's sexuality. We also talk a...

In this conversation, Dr Joel Salinas and Bob Bordone join me as we explore the often misunderstood nature of conflict in relationships. They discuss the importance of engaging with conflict rather than avoiding it, emphasizing that conflict can be a sign of love and authenticity. We also dive into the neuroscience behind conflict, the personal thresholds individuals have for conflict tolerance, a...

In this call in show, Kyla and Adam discuss the challenges they face in their marriage regarding intimacy and sexual desire. They explore how their relationship dynamics have shifted over the years, particularly after having children, leading to mismatched desires and feelings of rejection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of emotional intimacy, communication, and understanding each other'...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore the complexities of sexual intimacy within marriage, emphasizing the importance of meaningful connections over mere technique. Particularly when it come to oral sex. We discuss the concept of differentiation, the impact of trauma on sexual experiences, and the dynamics of self-confidence in sexual relationships. Our conversation encourages...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Julian Johnsrud, a coach and expert in intentional living and mini retirements, shares her journey of discovering the concept of mini retirements and how it has transformed her life and the lives of others. She explains that mini retirements are not just extended vacations, but intentional breaks that allow individuals and couples to rest, explore their pass...

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I dive into the complex topic of masturbation within marriage. Our conversation explores initial reactions, societal misinformation, the benefits of self-discovery, as well as a biblical perspectives on the subject. Dr. Corey emphasizes the importance of open communication and understanding the dynamics of relationships when discussing masturbation,...

The 2025 Sexy Marriage Married Getaway is June 19-21, 2025. Register now. On the Regular version … In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into the complex dynamics of obligation sex and mercy sex within marriage. We explore how these concepts can create harmful patterns for both spouses, leading to resentment, control, and a lack of genuine connection. The discussion emphasizes the import...