Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr. C Cheryl is teaching it. Today, I’m introducing you to my grandparents Norm and Evelyn, an incredible couple who radically changed my view of what was possible in life and in love. They’re proof that it is possible to keep the thrill, romance, respect, and passion in their relat...

This fall, I’m helping you fall back in love with the one you're already with. I’m going to take you through the 3 keys to passion—AKA The Passion Triangle—and show you exactly how you can use each element to bring back the spark with your sweetheart and take your relationship from dull to exceptional. This October, let me help you fall back into like and fall passionately, sexily, beautifully in...

“Dr. Cheryl, we fight all the time and constantly blame one another… Is there any hope for our relationship?” Today, I’m talking all about negative sentiment override. It’s a tough, sad, painful topic and so many of us have experienced it in our relationships, whether or not we knew how to put a name to it. But there is hope—as long as both partners are willing to take 100% responsibility.  Are yo...

Why are relationships so hard? Today, I’m pressing pause on my Summer of Love couples Q&A series for a little bit of reflection. I’m talking about why we struggle so much with the thing we longed for AND why that struggle doesn’t make us a bad person. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast during my Summer of Love series? Email it to he...

“Dr. Cheryl… Our sex life is so boring! How can we bring fun and sexiness back to the bedroom?” Today marks part 7 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series, where I’ve been answering real questions from listeners just like you all summer long. Summer may be almost over, but my Q&A is just heating up. I’m telling you about my 3 predictors of a great relationship and sharing some really dire stats on...

“Dr. Cheryl… I feel like my wife and I are more friends and roommates than lovers. How can I bring some of that excitement that we had when we were falling in love?” I’m back with part 6 of my Summer of Love couples Q&A series, answering another real question from one of my listeners. Today, I’m busting the myth that men don’t care about romance and telling you why dates are one of the most exciti...

“Dr. Cheryl… My partner and I are not compatible. Are we doomed??” My Summer of Love couples Q&A series is back for part 5, answering another question from a listener just like you. Today, I’m talking about introverts, extroverts, and extroverted introverts. I’m also telling you that YES, it is possible to make things work between two very different people and how compatibility begins in the mind....

Grown-up content alert! In this episode I talk about sexual fantasies in some depth, using some explicit language and I talk about concepts that are not appropriate for tiny little ears so make sure that small kids are not hearing this episode. This is grown-up content and it’ll help you grow in the bedroom.  “Dr. Cheryl… Why am I so turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated?” I’m back thi...

“Dr. Cheryl…Should I break up with my verbally abusive partner?” Welcome back to the third installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m sharing my advice for those of you that are wondering if verbal abuse in a relationship can ever be overcome .  Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@d...

This week, I’m taking some time off so that my sweetheart and I can have some much needed R&R. But I’m not leaving you high and dry! While we’re having quality time with one another and slowing down to appreciate the beautiful Vancouver Island summer, I’ve put together some questions—asked by real couples—that you can hear me answer in upcoming episodes of my Summer of Love Series.   Click here to...

“My sweetie and I never fight… Is that okay?” Welcome back to the second installment in my Summer of Love couples Q&A series. Today, I’m telling you why lack of conflict can spell major issues for your relationship—and what you can do to help before it’s too late. Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast this summer? Email it to hello@drc...

“If I go there will be trouble and if I stay there will be double…” Today, I’m kicking off my 2022 Summer of Love couples Q&A series with one of my number one most asked questions: “How do I know when it’s time to leave?” Tune in and hear what I’ve learned from my decades of work with couples just like you.  Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on t...

Do YOU have a question about Sex, Love, and Relationships you would like me to answer on the podcast? Email it to hello@drcherylfraser.com with the subject line “Podcast Question” Give me a little background about your relationship, ask your question, and let me know if I can use your name or if you’d like to remain anonymous. :)  Summer lovin’ had us a blast… or maybe you are overwhelmed with rel...

What tough emotions do you battle on a consistent basis? The more we pay attention to what incites our feelings of anger, insecurity, jealousy, and others, the more self-awareness we will gain and our understanding of how to shift our mindset.  You may think that the situations that make us feel negative emotions on a smaller scale are completely different from the bigger situations. Just because...

Do negative thoughts such as, “I’m so tired from a long day of work” or “I don’t have any free time balancing kids, work, and errands” creep into your mind daily? We often complain about our life. But hey - we did CHOOSE the life we are living. If you want to be happy, remember to focus on the positive. As humans, we love to create stories. I’m not talking about any sort of creative storytelling,...

What are the common thoughts of doubt that come up when you think about your romantic partner? All of us have a “Doubt Demon” in our head that likes to spread poisonous thoughts about our partner. These thoughts can cause us to pick fights and end a great relationship, just because our Doubt Demon got the best of us.  Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t to say that you shouldn’t address the legitimate...

If you are in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless marriage - which is when you are having sex less than 6 times a year. If this sounds like the current state of your partnership, then it is time to start talking about the sex you’re not having.  You may think, but isn’t it normal for couples to stop...

Have you ever looked at someone who exudes happiness despite all they have gone through and wondered, how can I be like that? Or, that has to be a facade? Spoiler alert: it IS possible to always be in a state of grace, even happiness - no matter what is going on in your life.  Now wait. I’m not saying that the difficulties and hardships you go through in life aren’t a valid cause for sad or diffic...

What qualities do you consider the most important to cultivate as a human being? While we each have our unique characteristics and personality differences, there are specific traits that distinguish human beings as good or… not so good. Sometimes, moral ethics can seem blatantly obvious. You may think, “Of course being honest is a quality of a morally ethical person!” or “No one is THAT perfect”. ...

What do you think of when you see an elephant? When I am hurt, in pain, confused, or frustrated, I turn to the symbol of the elephant. Elephants are an analogy for our inner wisdom, and nothing can stop yours from moving towards awakening and freedom. One year ago, I made a commitment to myself to release one podcast episode a week for a year. I have always loved being behind the microphone from m...

When I got back from my retreat, I caught up on some of the world news and events that I missed - including the now infamous slap that Will Smith gave Chris Rock at the Oscars. Will losing his mind for a moment is a fantastic example of the irrational actions we ALL can take when we become flooded. Yup, you are just like Will…so stop judging him and look in the mirror. What is the worst thing YOU’...

All of us have an expiration date. It’s a simple reality… None of us know exactly how long we're here for. Maybe you find that frightening, maybe you find it downright depressing. But here’s the thing: we can take it as simple fact and an inspiration to really live life fully—to tilt our lives to doing more of that which deeply matters to us. Instead of wasting time on the things that are more tri...

Have you ever noticed the incredible effect that total, utter silence has?  It can enable us to see shades of nature we’ve never noticed before, connect to the song of the treefrogs, and even form a never-before-had appreciation for the gentle buds on the springtime trees. Maybe the thought of being alone with your mind for a month makes you a little uncomfortable, maybe it makes you introspective...

“Dr. Cheryl, I want sex more than my partner does… help!” You wouldn’t believe how often I get this question in its many forms. Whether you’re the partner feeling guilty for your lacking libido or the partner with the insatiable drive—YOU. ARE. NORMAL. Yes, both of you! For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are t...

What’s the most lonely feeling in the world? Laying in bed next year snoozing sweetheart thinking, “Am I with the wrong person? Is this it? Where's the passion?” Believe me, I get it. You love them, but you’re just not feeling in love with them anymore. For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I he...