Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Think of your first kiss with your current partner. (And if you're unpartnered, think of the first kiss with a previous partner—even if  the relationship didn't end so well.)? How did that first kiss  feel? First kisses can be pretty powerful, pretty exciting, and sometimes almost orgasmically explosive.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is all about the kiss. You’ll hear all about my o...

The source of all of your unhappiness is in your own mind. Excuse me, Dr. Cheryl?! It may sound harsh, but it’s true. Our expectations about how we think things should be, how we want things to be, how we believe things should go in our life… Those are expectations, not reality. And reality is a bitch. It’s one of the toughest aspects of being alive.  Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking...

When you're feeling irritated toward your partner or you’re anxious about something that you think is just not working in your relationship, do you notice that it can feel as though your heart is closed down? As though you’re a little bit guarded and trying to gain a bit of protection? Most of us don't do it deliberately, but subconsciously a protective mechanism can kick in. And that’s a problem…...

For so many of us in long term relationships, we start to take each other for granted. Complacency creeps in on its sneaky little feet—we get bored, we cease to find our partner exciting, we no longer romance them. Sometimes, we even stop being kind to them and wind up treating thembadly- unkind tone, sharp words - instead of treating them like a good friend. For the next three weeks on Sex, Love,...

Today, you’ll hear one of my favorite Classic SLE episodes on love, relationships, and the sex you’re not having.  If you’re in a long-term relationship, how often do you and your partner have sex? Having a temporary dry spell is different than being in a sexless marriage - which is when you are having sex less than 6 times a year. If this sounds like the current state of your partnership, then it...

When you've had a hope or a plan and that hasn't played out the way you thought—you’ve been disappointed or angry or deeply hurt—it behooves you to be a good scientist. Ask yourself: When do I get upset when things change? When am I more at ease when things change? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you a front row seat to my most recent Dharma talk. I’m teaching you the im...

Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m sharing my gratitude for all of you on this special episode––episode 100! It’s time to remind all of us why the word ELEPHANT is in the title of this podcast.  How are you doing with Happy Ever After? Not so good, huh? Well, remember, happiness is an inside job. You have the ability to control your contentment regardless of outside circumstances. At any point...

How does it make you feel when your partner says, “I love you”? What about when your partner calls you your favorite romantic pet name? And how do you feel when your partner says, “We’re late and it’s all your fault!!”  Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking all about watching your tongue! Okay, so maybe you haven’t had anyone tell you that in a few decades, but I’m teaching you why thinkin...

You’ve booked your flight, made a hotel reservation, and you’re just about packed for the big trip—and then it happens. That big blow up you’ve avoided this far finally comes to a head and suddenly you find yourself happy to leave your sweetie behind.  Today on Sex, Love, and Elephants I’m talking all about those big fights we have with our partner right before we leave to go on a trip.  I’m teach...

You brush your teeth, get into bed to do a little reading, and then kiss your partner goodnight as they leave for their room across the hall. Wait—what?!  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is all about sleeping with your partner—in the literal sense! If you’re anything like 20% of Americans, you and your sweetheart may sleep in separate rooms for any number of reasons.  Sleeping apart ca...

Have you ever felt your heart fill with pure, unconditional love at the drop of a hat? Maybe you’ve rescued a poor, helpless kitten on the side of the road, derailing your morning commute to get him to the shelter. That selflessness and kindness is true, altruistic elephant love.  In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear part two of my Love Like an Elephant talk. Today is all ab...

February 14th… a date that strikes fear into the hearts of millions the world over! But it doesn’t need to be scary. Instead of making it all about me and we, why not try making it about generosity instead? Welcome to episode 94 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. Today, I’m suggesting a different kind of Valentine’s Day: Try paying it forward.  Pick a couple you know who are young, in love, and broke… a...

Try as we might, every relationship gets stuck in lazy patterns—Yes, even mine. Relationships are a hard gig and it can be incredibly easy to grow complacent, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be stuck without romance or sensuality in your life. Welcome to episode 93 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. During my 2023 Relationship Reboot, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve...

Remember the butterflies and crazy lust you felt when you and your sweetie first started dating? When your honey gets home at the end of a long day, do you greet her at the door, practically bouncing with excitement? And what about deep communication—do you feel known on a spiritual level by your spouse? Not to mention having a rich satisfying sex life… Welcome to episode 91 of Sex, Love, and Elep...

“New Year, new you!” Don’t you just hate being overwhelmed by a million different calls for a fresh start every year? Resolutions to get fit or to get rich or to transform your relationship are fine, but what about when it comes to actually taking action? Welcome to episode 89 of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actionable steps you can take to improve your...

You can sign up for all the triathlons you want, but if you don't buy a bike, get some running shoes, find a bathing suit, and do your research, there’s very little chance at success. Whether it's fitness or your career or your relationship, if you don't take action, nothing happens. Welcome to 2023’s first episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants. For the month of January, I’m giving you real, actiona...

You may be feeling an emotional letdown now that all the hype, joy and connection of the holiday season is nearly over. Or maybe you’re feeling the aftershocks of the disappointment, the difficulties, and the arguments. Unwinding the lights from the tree, taking out the wrapping-filled trash, and getting back to real life can feel like total whiplash at this time of year—but it doesn’t have to be...

This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence? This month, I’m rereleasing some of my favorite episodes about topics that crop up around the holiday season. Today, I’m focusing o...

What do we do when the tough stuff happens? How do we draw on our inner elephant courage and wisdom to help us get through the biggest losses in our life? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll have a front row seat to one of my dharma talks. I’m talking about what we can do during our toughest times, where we can find strength, and the Four Noble Truths.  Tune in and learn that no...

Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step?  Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin THIS Friday, November 4, 2022...

In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and...

Interested in joining the Become Passion Program? Doors close in a few days! The program with Dr. Cheryl starts November 4th. Click here to learn more and to register. This is the only time this year Cheryl is teaching Become Passion! It’s a very special week here at Sex, Love, and Elephants because it marks the launch of my 12 week Become Passion couples immersion program. Today, I’m telling you...

On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my FREE Passion Masterclass. Dates start October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. I’m teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2022 I’m holding this course! Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your ho...

JOIN Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Passion Masterclass - beginning October 25th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. She’s teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2022 Dr. Cheryl is holding this course! Today, I’m sharing an excerpt from last week’s live Q&A class. You’ll hear answers to real questions from listeners just like you, li...

JOIN the free Passion masterclass - choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year Dr. C Cheryl is teaching it. Today, I’m telling you all about my ill-fated first marriage in my 20’s. I’m talking all about how I fell for my ex, the story behind our incredibly beautiful, big, fat Greek elopement, AND all the reasons our marriage didn’t work out!  Join me on the co...