Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweet heart? In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, it’s all ab...

We all have moments of unkindness that come at times of weakness. Your shoelace broke, you stepped in a puddle, and you got a flat tire—so you take it all out on your local barista. But here’s the thing:  It's up to us whether we have a good day or a bad day. It’s up to us whether, regardless of circumstances, we have a kind mind or a mean mind. It's up to us how we feel when the circumstances get...

October 31 is a bit of a funny day. Of course, for many of us in Canada and the States, we have our long held Halloween traditions from childhood. But if we think of those traditions, there are several of them—including the act of assuming another persona—that correspond to aspects of Buddha Dharma. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ve got a front row seat to my recent Dharma Tal...

Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be happy? It's hardly an original thought... but it might be just the question that you and your honey need to be asking yourselves—especially if you find yourself in the same argument day in, day out. In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll have a front row seat to my conversation Andrew G. Marshall, renowned marital therapist and host...

The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on November 2! https://drcherylfraser.mykajabi.com/join-become-passion Join me this Wednesday, November 1 for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom. Email support@drcherylfraser.com for the special link! This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my...

In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and...

JOIN my FREE Passion masterclass—just choose the date and time that work best for you. This is the only time this year it’s being taught! This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions and most pressing pain point...

On today’s minisode, I’m extending you a very special invitation to join me for my FREE Passion Masterclass. Dates start October 24th! Choose the date and time that works best for you. I’m teaching the Three Keys to Great Relationships—and stay for an extensive Q&A! NOW is the only time in 2023 I’m offering my couples program! Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in...

This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame.. Today, you’ll hear from Lisa and Cam, a couple who joined Become Passion when their relationship started to feel like it was between roommates instead of lovers. Lisa and Cam were able to completely renovate their partne...

This October on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame.. Today, you’ll hear from Howard and Karen, a couple who joinedBecome Passion last year to save their marriage … after Howard suddenly asked for a divorce. I hope you’ll considering joining me this year to renovate YOUR re...

Remember when you first got together with your sweetheart? That electric thrill pulsing through your body from just a simple touch or a brief kiss? After a decade or two with a mortgage, a few kids, and all the other stresses of daily life, you probably don’t feel quite the same… But wouldn’t it be incredible if you could get that feeling back? That spark, that electricity, that passion? On today’...

Think back to when you were a kid, imagining your life as a grown up. What was the most important element of that fantasy to you? Was it money? Freedom? Maybe it was that you’d have a soulmate straight out of a fairytale to share your life with, riding off into the sunset to live happily ever after… In today’s episode, I’m kicking off the most exciting time of year here on Sex, Love, and Elephants...

Grown-up content alert! In this episode, Sheila and I talk explicitly about sexuality in and out of the bedroom. This content is not appropriate for little ears Hello women - let me ask you. How sensual do you feel? How well do you know your erotic body? How deeply do you trust her? Or… do you ignore her signals and simply focus on what your brain is telling you? What if I told you that by ignorin...

We’ve all been there: Your sweetheart is on your last nerve and you feel like you just can’t be with this person any longer. Yes, even sex and love professional Dr. Cheryl isn’t immune to the negative thoughts that tend to circle a relationship. But we have to rise above all the noise, embrace the greater wisdom and realize that our problems only follow us when we walk away from them. In today’s e...

Grown-up content alert! In this episode, I use explicit language to talk in depth about sexual exercises that you and your honey can experiment with. This content is not appropriate for little ears—this is grown-up content that will help you grow in the bedroom.  Let’s face it: when two lovers have been in a committed relationship for any long term length of time, one of the first things that can...

Imagine you're out trying to recover from a betrayal. You're relaxing on the couch with your sweetheart watching a comedy special, your defenses are down, and the comedian starts talking about affairs. BOOM. You're triggered, right? You’ve just experienced a physiological response, but it’s what we do when we become triggered that’s the important part. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants,...

Generosity is a two way street. It has both an outflow and an inflow; it's giving and it’s receiving. When we think of ourselves as generous, we think about being good at giving: We’re the ones who show up to help a loved one move house when everyone else flakes, the ones who pay a little bit closer attention when a friend is struggling through a loss. But the truth is, so many of us who are good...

Do you feel like everyone is getting laid but you? Or like if you just knew how to do that thing, you would be able to keep your partner engaged in hot and sexy time? Maybe your partner can’t seem to keep their hands off of you but you secretly find this exhausting or even overwhelming… Well, your secret is safe with me but I must remind you that navigating how we approach the expression of our se...

We often hear lots of couples talk about the whirlwind passionate romance that led them to commit to one another for the long haul and for some, go as far as getting the government involved. But how often do we hear about the kind of love that had to be grown over time? Like the ones that never experienced what Beyoncè is always on about with being crazy in love…You know, the kind of love story th...

If you're like me, your most sarcastic remarks were never made with the intention to cause harm. You're simply a linguist with an eye for irony and a secret belief you should really be a comedian, right?  Well, although that could very well be the case… Do you know the line between comedy and cruelty? It’s important we remember that wielding the sword of sarcasm requires dexterity, spacial awarene...

Have you ever arrived home with a new house plant and admired its glossy leaves and beautiful flowers… only to forget about its care for the next few months? When you went back to it, was it still radiating beauty? Or was it a sad, shriveled, droopy shell of its former self? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going back to answer some of the most burning questions you sent in after m...

So often on special occasions— whether it’s Thanksgiving, a birthday, or a graduation— celebrations become about family and friends. There’s nothing wrong with that, but rarely do we see the couple hosting a barbecue, a dinner party, or even a wedding having fun together. Often, we even see a bit of friction instead of love and connection and joyful celebration of a relationship in the midst of a...

If you have trouble looking your partner in the eyes and telling them how much you love them, you're not broken or weird or screwed up. We all have different levels of comfort expressing our emotions and it can be hard letting our guard down and showing off our mushy, sweet, vulnerable side. But what if, just once, you trust yourself enough to let that side show through? On this episode of Sex, Lo...

When we pay attention and bring thrill to each other, when we have more fun and do more silly, outside of the box things, we’re putting in the work to bust Marriage Incorporated. When we get stuck running our relationship like a business, all the fun and joy are sapped. You can parent well, work hard, pay off the mortgage… But where are the two of you? Where's the ROMANCE? On this episode of Sex,...

Imagine you’re on a quiz show and the host asks you to define the word “hobby.” What would you say? Well, Dr. Cheryl, first of all, it's something we do because we want to—it's fun, it's something we want to get better at. Okay, so maybe your hobby is baking or painting or going on hikes with the dog… But here's another question for you: Have you ever considered making your love life your hobby? O...