Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

“Dr. Cheryl, how can I help my constant negative thoughts?” “I’m ALWAYS anxious. Is there a way to quiet my constantly running mind?” “Is it possible to practice kindness?” Meditation is a traditional Buddhist practice that fits very beautifully into the secular world, into the psychology world, into the mindfulness world, and into the world of us trying to be a kinder, more caring human being to...

“Dr. Cheryl, how can I overcome my self doubt? It’s ruining my life!” “How do I break free from the torturous grip that my anxiety has on me?” “Why has my experience with meditation been unfulfilling?” We’ve all had that moment of desire and weakness—a good friend buys a fancy new car and we’re overcome with jealousy. Instead of being happy for them and proud of their hard work, all we can focus o...

The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on May 3rd!! Join me this Thursday, May 2nd for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom - email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com and we will send you the link and time This week on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relatio...

Ready to renovate your OWN relationship? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, CLICK HERE We begin May 3rd, 2024 and go through July 26th 2024 In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE...

This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Doors are not open! You can check it out and join the program HERE  Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from re...

This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  My p...

This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  “The...

Register now for Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Relationship Reboot couples workshop on Zoom - Saturday April 13th 10-1 Pacific time HERE This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if...

This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emer...

This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE. You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you! Marriage 911! What's your emer...

“Dr. Cheryl, HELP! My life is absolutely miserable!” “Is micromanagement making me depressed?” “How can I stop myself from playing worst-case scenarios out in my mind?” Does it ever feel like your state of mind is completely out of your control? Like you're lost at Grand Central Station and you can’t find your way? Like you can’t read the signs and you’re wandering aimlessly, trying to board any o...

“Dr. Cheryl, why am I always so harsh on myself?” “How can I learn to give myself grace?” “Why does it feel like I’m the only one given such a crappy lot?” Do you believe that you count, too? The more kindly and compassionately we treat ourselves, the more our hearts and our minds are freed up to be kinder and more compassionate to our partners. It allows us to build better relationships, be kinde...

“Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to give myself a break?” “Why can’t I help but be nasty to my partner?” “What can I do to live a more compassionate life?” How kind are you to your romantic partner? How kind are you to yourself? In our high stress, high activity lives, we can lose sight of the thing that matters the most: compassion for ourselves, for others, for our partner, our family, our friends,...

“Our sex life is suffering because of my own self image—help!” “How can I learn to stick with my goals?” “What’s the secret to being the best version of me for my sweetheart?” When you think of eating healthy, regular exercise, being intimate with your partner… Are these things you derive pleasure from? Or are these all tasks you check off a list out of a sense of duty? It’s no big secret: if you...

“Dr. Cheryl, how can I improve my relationship?” “All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?” “How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?” Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both nee...

“Dr. Cheryl, is there really a way to make Valentine’s Day special?” “I have nothing but bad memories around VDay, how can I change that?” “Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?” Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? W...

“Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?” “Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?” “How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?” Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly th...

“Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?” “Why has the heat left our sex life?” “How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?” Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper st...

“But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?”  “How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?” “Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!” It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our re...

“But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you why a...

“Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!”  “Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!”  “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?” These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes t...

When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can definitely feel like failing… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m asking...

We all know the story of Scrooge and the visits he received on Christmas Eve—but have you ever stopped to realize that you’re acting a little like old Scrooge yourself? Maybe you’re a Scrooge to your sweetheart when you're under holiday stress… Are you bickering? Are you fighting? Are you blaming?  In celebration of Christmas, this week and next I’m giving you a double dose of my Dharma Talks. Tun...

As a kid, I had magical, picture perfect Christmases. The stockings by the fire, the gifts beneath the tree, and a beautiful, loving family to make it all warm and incredibly special… But the next day? I was in a world of disappointment, depression, and despair because I could never cope with the fact that everything was suddenly over. I was clinging to the past.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and...

This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence? On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on th...