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In the final installment of my series on improving communication in our marriage, I have Tony Overbay, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and host of the wildly popular podcast, The Virtual Couch. I asked Tony to share with us how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a modality he uses in couples counseling, can help us improve the communication with our partner.   He gives us some practical t...

All couples have disagreements, but the ones who learn to solve their problems by fighting differently and fair are the ones who tend to stick together.   In this episode I share 5 steps to fighting fair with your spouse.

Continuing our topic from last week on communication, Celeste Davis, from MarriageLaboratory.com , joins me in discussing different experiments she and her husband have conducted in their marriage to improve communication.   She also discusses a practice they call their Marriage Inventory, a weekly check-in that helps them communicate better and increase the connectivity in their relationship. Sho...

One of the keys to communication in marriage, is communicating well during a conflict.  Conflict is inevitable in any marriage.  Learning how to resolve those conflicts is key to sustaining that marriage.  The most popular approach to resolving conflicts, advocated by many marriage therapists is empathetic listening.  On today's podcast we will discuss 14 ways to to learn how to listen to your par...

"By Small and simple things are great things brought to pass." The little things we do to build and strengthen our marriage add up.  They compound.  What small choices are you making daily that contribute the demise or the strengthening of your marriage? Play In A New Window Download     Show Notes Get the Tips!

When something negative happens, our brains automatically make up a story to protect us.  What are the stories that you tell yourself to protect yourself from feeling negative emotions?  What stories disengage you from your spouse or make them into a villain?  While this is a great way to protect ourselves, it takes us further away from creating the emotional intimacy and connection that we all cr...

Have you ever thought "Did I marry the wrong person?" or   "Are we really meant to be?"   Just about every married person I know has had those thoughts.   But in this episode, we talk about why those thoughts aren't serving you and your marriage.  

The word SHOULD indicates an expectation, an obligation, a duty, and is typically used when criticizing someone.  And usually when we "should" on others we have an expectation that they be LIKE US.  And not only do we think they should be, think, or do like us, we expect them to be the perfect version of us. We have a personal set of rules of how people should conduct their lives.  And when they d...

In several scriptures in the New Testament it says that the Savior was "Moved with Compassion" and then a miracle followed.  When we have compassion for ourselves and compassion for our spouse and others, what kind of miracles will we see in our own life and around us? Play In A New Window Download Show Notes In several scriptures in the New Testament it says that the Savior was "Moved with Compas...

Do you often feel overwhelmed with life and everything you have going on? In this episode we discuss what is really the cause of you feeling overwhelmed and how you can overcome it so that you can be more confident, organized in your daily life, productive, and feel better. Play In A New Window Download    Show Notes I hear a lot of women today talk about how overwhelmed they are with their life. ...

Part of being an emotional adult is taking responsibility for our own emotions.  Even in our marriage.  It is not our partners responsibility for making us feel loved, secure, and happy.  We have to do that for ourselves.  Listen in to find out how… Play In A New Window Download       Show Notes So today we are going to talk about how to quit blaming others for how you feel.  So in the world of li...

  What is friendship? A relationship we have with anyone is ONLY about what we think about that person.  The relationship only exists in our minds.  We can create friendship and connection with people just by what we choose to think about them.   In this episode I give 10 tips on how to be a good friend.  Because we all know the best way to have good friends, is to be a good friend.  

What do you value? What is the culture of your family? By clearly defining your values and setting goals based on those values, you will be able to align your life and achieve the things you want most.  This episode clearly outlines the way I set goals for myself and my family to reach our dreams.  You can too! Play In A New Window Download             Show Summary I grew up in a goal oriented fam...

  When coaching my clients, they come to me with a variety of issues.  Any problem can be classified into 1 of 5 categories Circumstance Thought Feeling Action Result Using a model developed by Brooke Castillo at the Life Coach School , I can help my clients get better results in their life no matter what the issue is.   Today's episode will give you a very basic overview of The Model with some ex...

I get asked the question all the time, What is a Life Coach and Why do I need one?  On today's podcast I will tell you what I do and why EVERYONE needs a life coach!      Show Summary   So I get asked quite often what a life coach is and why do I need one?  So I just wanted to take some time today to tell you about what I do and why having a life coach is such a great thing.   I think a lot of peo...

What does success mean to you? What does a successful day look like to you?   What does a successful marriage look like to you?   Most of the time we define success with achieving these great goals and often we hang that success on things we can not control.   In today's podcast episode, we are redefining success.   I bet you are a lot more successful than you think you are! How do you define succ...

In this podcast I share with you 5 new thoughts that I've personally been working on with my life coach and in my own self-coaching that have really helped me in my marriage.   I think they could help you to, or at least get your wheels turning about what new thoughts would help you!     Show Summary   So today I wanted to talk to you about 5 new thoughts that helped me in my marriage.   I've ment...

In this podcast I talk about what patience is, what it means to be patient, how we can develop patience, and how important patience is in our marriage.    Show Summary   So this year in our Stake (which if you are not LDS, a Stake is a geographical boundary comprised of several congregations) we are focusing on a different attribute of Christ each month, and this month that attribute is patience. ...

So when you think about your past, are there things you don't like about it?   Are there maybe some good parts that you have forgotten or ignored?   Let me show you how you can change your past….or at least how you think about it!       Show Summary   When I begin working with my clients I ask them to name 10 things that have happened in their life.  I ask them to do this because it gives me an id...

Are you one of those people who gets offended by what other people say?   If someone says something about you, does it hurt you?   Let me teach you why other people's opinions are none of your business…because they aren't actually about YOU.   It's really about them!   And when you figure that out, it is amazingly freeing!   Show Summary   In October of last year I was introduced to a concept that...

Whether you are dealing with a spouse, boss, or neighbor, you often have challenging relationships.   In this podcast I'll share how you can make them work for you no matter what the circumstance!

Do you or someone you love suffer from anxiety attacks? So does someone in my family.   Here is how I help them get through it, and it can help you too!

In this podcast I get super vulnerable and share with you my own personal journey to mental health.   I hope you'll listen and then come leave me some feedback! Show Summary   So I wanted to talk to you today about my journey to mental health and how I found Life Coaching.   Transparency. Not wanting to just show the good. Vulnerability creating connection. No shame.    I've probably always had so...

What is mental health? How do get to be mentally healthy and how do we maintain it? In this podcast I will share with you: 4 Things Mentally Healthy People Do 10 areas that contribute to mental health 7 Ways to Maintain your Mental Health You don't want to miss this one!    Show Notes:   Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis of The Chic Site 3 in 30 Podcast Dr. Leah Weiss   This post contains affil...

Losing someone can be one of the hardest experiences we have as humans.   In today's podcast I share with you 8 ways you can support others through grief.   Show Summary   Today I want to about grief.  An amazing man who recently moved out of my ward and neighborhood passed away on Saturday and a lot of my thoughts have been centered around him, his wife, their family, and then reflecting back to...