Sex for Saints

Do you know how to be sexy? Is it ok as a woman of God to try and be sexy?   What do men think makes a woman sexy?   What do women think they need to do to be or feel sexy?    

The podcast this week is quite a bit different from my usual content.   My son returned home from his mission this past Saturday, so I've been busy getting him settled back into real life and wasn't able to devote the time to research the topic I had planned.   So I'm sharing with you the talk I wrote and gave this past Sunday in our new ward's Sacrament Meeting.   I share my testimony of The Chur...

In a recent survey I conducted, 40% of married women said they feel guilt and shame about sex.   In this episode, we are addressing where this guilt and shame are coming from and why it is isn't necessary.   Are you taking the 30-Day Say Yes To The Sex Challenge?   Flex Discs: http://rwrd.io/tddnzbx Sexual Satisfaction Survey: https://amandalouder.typeform.com/to/HYppWQ

Do you often reject your spouse's advances for sex?   Do you feel rejected by them?   Rejection is a huge issue for many couples.   Find out why we feel rejected and what we can do about it when we are.   I also challenge you to 30 days of saying Yes to the Sex!

When you think of sex, what first comes to mind?   Are you full of excitement and desire? Or are you immediately in dread? Does thinking about sex make you feel anxious?   Are you annoyed?   All of these feelings are created by your default sex thoughts.   Do you like what you are thinking and feeling?   Do you like what is happening for you?   If so, then great! No need to make changes.   But if...

This week's episode is all about orgasms. What are they? What do you they feel like? What keeps you from having one?  

How do you feel about your body?   Do you love it? Do you embrace it?   When we don't embrace our body it turns our desire for sex off.   So how is your body image affecting your sex life?  

Do you think you have to be "In The Mood" to have sex with your husband? So many times, we think that desire needs to come before arousal. But it often doesn't work that way. In this episode, we will discuss what things put you in the mood and what things don't and how you can come to understand that you don't need to be "in the mood" to have sex.

It's normal to have ebbs and flows of attraction during a relationship.   But what happens when you find yourself not attracted to your spouse anymore?   What can you do?   What is attraction anyway?   Can you get it back?

Sex has many aspects that benefit us physical, emotional, spiritually and in our relationships.   What are these benefits?  

What do you believe about sex?   How do those beliefs shape the way you view your sex life?   In my coaching, I have found that many women have underlying beliefs that sex is shameful, embarrassing, un-virtuous, or that it's all about their husband.   These beliefs are preventing them from having the amazing sex life that they could be having with their spouse.   What could your life and sex life...

  Do you look outside of yourself for answers to your questions?   Our brain loves to solve problems.   It loves to go to work and answer questions.   So when you have a question, don't look outside of yourself for the answer, put your brain to work!   In this episode, I have some great questions you can ask yourself about who you are and what you believe about yourself, your spouse, and your marr...

Have you ever watching your brain think?   It's a fascinating process and very insightful into why we are feeling and behaving in certain ways.   By becoming a watcher of our thoughts, we can gain power over them and figure out which thoughts are serving us best.  

Do you ever notice things about your life and think "I wish they were different?" or maybe you see what has happened and blame others for how you think and feel.   In either case, in this episode we will talk about owning your result and taking responsibility for what is going on in your life.   This is the best news ever, because it means you have the power to change it.

Does your spouse have a hard time opening up to you?   Or maybe you feel anxious about the state of your relationship?   Both of these come from our attachment style and feeling emotionally safe in our relationship.   How can you feel emotionally safe in your relationship?   How can you try to help your spouse feel emotionally safe?   Find out how on this week's episode.

Each of us has different ways of expressing love to those around us.   And when someone is showing us they love us in a certain way, we need to let them do it in the way that works best for them, which is not necessarily the way we would like to receive it.   So how do you become a good receiver of love?   That's what we are talking about on this week's episode.

Chances are, your sex life isn't what you thought it would be.   Whether it's not as pleasurable, you just can't seem to find the desire, or you and your spouse just don't see eye to eye, it's time to start figuring it out.   Find out how you can make sex better for you on this week's episode.

  Do you wish your spouse was more helpful around the house? More loving? More affectionate?   Maybe you want them to help with the kids more, or cuddle or flirt more?   Why do we always want more than what we have? What happens when we get it? Find out on this week's episode.

Do you struggle with accepting things your spouse does?   Maybe they look at pornography or they've left the church.   Or maybe they just don't behave the way you think they should.   In today's podcast, we discuss how learning to accept your spouse and loving them for who they are actually feels so much better and sets you free.

Do you have confidence? Do you have self-confidence?   What is the difference? How does confidence and self-confidence effect your marriage? Find out more on this week's episode!

We most often associate the Law of Chastity with the youth or young single adults.   But, as married couples, the Law of Chastity still very much applies to us.   How? Find out in this week's podcast!

Do you often feel out of control of your emotions and actions?  Do you feel like you are at the mercy of what is going on around you?  Self-regulation is an important skill that we are often missing in our lives.  So what is self-regulation? How do I do it and how can it benefit me?  How will regulating myself help my marriage?  Find out how in this week's podcast episode. Play in a new window Dow...

Want to know the secrets of how to have an amazing marriage?  In this episode, we discuss the 4 things you need to do to create the marriage you've always wanted. (spoiler: it doesn't involve the other person changing at all!) Play in a new window Download

A belief is just a thought you've practiced a lot.  It's one you accept as truth.  But you can choose to believe whatever you want about yourself, your life, and our marriage.  Find out how to believe a new thought, even if it seems impossible! Play in a new window Download

Do you have weird and crazy thoughts pop into your head?  Guess what?  You're normal!  Everyone has them! But what are you making them mean when you have those thoughts?  Are you taking them personally? Are you believing them?  What should do you do about those pesky thoughts that just keep coming up? Play in a new window Download Show Notes: Enter my 40th Birthday Giveaway Here !