Sex for Saints

In this episode, I'm interviewing Allen Turner about what women really want in bed. Allen shares his perspective as a man, a life-long member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, and as someone who has done a lot of research into kink and BDSM. Whether you're a man or a woman, this is a great episode to listen to in order to improve your sexual encounters.    And this is just the fi...

Let's talk hormones and what your hormones are doing to you sex drive! With my special guest, Ashlee Sorensen, we talk everything hormones and what we can expect as we age and what we can do about it. Did you know that unlike men, women never age out of sex? Pretty good news, right? Listen for more great information about hormones and sex. Ashlee is a Menstrual and Hormone Coach and loves teaching...

What comes to mind when you think about the word purity? I am a big believer that words matter so in this episode, let's talk about what purity actually means and what that definition, which is different than what you think it is, is doing to your relationship with yourself and your sex life. It's time to break free of the purity culture that many of us were raised in and see ourselves and our sex...

In this episode, I'm talking with my friend and fellow coach Jill Freestone about Eve. Throughout time, Eve has been almost vilified for her choice to eat the fruit. Let's change those thoughts today and really look at who Eve was and what we can learn from her. Jill's perspective is so thought provoking and just feels right. You will love this one!

We've often heard the scripture from Moses 7:18 that talks about how the Lord called his people Zion because they were of one heart and one mind. We think of Zion as a people, but as I often do when I'm studying my scriptures, I thought of my podcast listeners and clients as I read these words. What if we look at wanting Zion in our marriages? How do we do that? Listen to this episode and be more...

You may be wondering what sex has to do with sleep. A lot. Quality sleep can promote a better sex life, and a healthy sex life can facilitate improved sleep. So why are we still so tired and sex deprived? In this episode, I talk about why we are sleep deprived and what we can do to improve our sleep AND our sex life at the same time. I don't know who decided that the only time we can have sex is a...

I've recently been studying Genesis in the Bible. I feel like I've gotten a whole new perspective on the Creation story and Adam and Eve. As I read these scriptures, I kept thinking about my clients, my coaching, and my listeners. Though this episode may be formatted a little bit differently than you're used to, I want to share with you what I've learned about how Adam and Eve and the Creation can...

Is it possible to be sexual and spiritual? Of course it is! Sexuality is a God-given part of us and if we deny that part, we will never be truly whole. Becoming whole means accepting and developing your sexuality and eroticism as a vital part of your mortal existence.  This means instead of shutting down your sexuality constantly you need to work on developing it in a way that blesses your life as...

We have all been told the lie that men need sex and in our Conservative Christian value system and monogamy, it is the wife's responsibility to fulfill that need because he can't go outside the marriage to fulfill it. Thinking of sex as a need is problematic in marriages. In this episode, we discuss all of the many facets that affect your marriage when you look at sex as a need. I want to talk to...

Let's talk about role playing! It can bring a lot of excitement, fun, fantasy, and of course some intimidation and awkwardness, especially in the beginning. We'll talk about why you want to role play in the bedroom and how to start in this episode. It may be awkward at first, but if you give it a little time it could be really great! If you want some ideas or even some scripts, you can find them o...

Have you ever noticed that when you're told not to do something, that's all you want to do? This is called the Forbidden Fruit Effect. We are all born with a natural curiosity that turns into boundary pushing as adolescents. But if we never pushed the boundaries, we would never grow. What does this have to do with sex? A lot! Listen to this episode to see how this Forbidden Fruit Effect can help y...

I get so many questions from my clients about waxing. So, this week, we're speaking with Zoey Jolley all about it. Zoey is a licensed esthetician and she is going to answer all of your questions. Have you ever wondered why you should wax instead of shave? What a bikini wax is versus a Brazilian? What should you not do before and after waxing? We have the answers for you in this episode!   You can...

Do you trust others? Your spouse? Your friends? Your co-workers? Your children? If trusting others is hard for you, maybe you don't trust yourself. Trusting yourself is the first step to trusting those around you. Why don't you trust yourself? Listen to this episode to find out why and what you can do about it.

Do you desire sex? If you said no, why is that? Is it because you have lost your desire completely or is it because you aren't giving yourself enough space to have that desire? In this episode, I look at the reasons why you no longer feel the desire for sex that you did when you were first married. And the answer to how to get that back may be a bit surprising because it really all comes down to o...

We all fake orgasms every once in a while, right? Studies show that 80% of women have faked an orgasm one time in their relationship. Why? In this episode, I talk about why we as women feel like we need to fake orgasms and why we might want to rethink that. Is it time for a tough discussion with your husband? Listen to find out! Untamed by Glennon Doyle

I often hear the same things from my clients. The women say, "I have to feel an emotional connection in order to want the physical connection." And the men say, "I need that physical connection in order to feel emotionally connected." And that's where the difficulty lies. But what if I were to tell you that you don't actually NEED that for the connection? Listen to find out what you truly do need...

We have all seen the Yin and Yang symbol and we may think we know what it means. But in this episode, let's talk about what the different energies mean when it comes to sex. In our male driven society, sex is often looked at as Yang. But men and women have both Yin and Yang energies. The trick is to use both your Yin and Yang side to improve your sex life! Listen to find out how.

I have a lot of men come to me wanting to be coached. And while I feel for them, I have dedicated my life to helping women with their sexuality. But in this episode, I want to talk to you men out there. I know that you want to change things in your marriage, and not just because you want more sex, but because you want a truly intimate marriage. Let's look at what you can do to help and what you sh...

So often the men in our lives focus on what turns us women on. (Maybe we women do that a bit too!) But maybe they are consciously, or unconsciously, doing something that absolutely turns us off. In the past weeks, we've talked about sexual context and what turns women on. Now let's take a look at what turns us off and how that knowledge can end up helping our sex lives.

In doing research for this episode, I found a lot of information that is just plain wrong! No wonder men are confused about what  women want! So let's talk about what actually turns women on. What takes off your sexual brakes. And I'll tell you, it's not all about candlelight and sweet nothings. You may see things in a different light after you listen.

It's all about context. We all want to feel emotionally connected to our spouse but are we sabotaging that with what we're thinking about and focusing on? When you're working on the mountain of laundry and your husband starts to help you, do you think, "He's so supportive!" Or do you think, "It's about time!" Context! And sex is all about context. Listen to this episode to find out why and what yo...

Have you ever heard the phrase that a woman is like a race car? It isn't that far from the truth. Our bodies were created with systems. And those systems are constantly scanning the environment for things that will press on our sexual accelerators or stomp on the brakes. The key is to figure out how to use that system to increase your sexual desire and have a little fun in the process. Let's work...

Garments aren't sexy. It's just the truth of the matter! But we are taught that they are an outward symbol of an inward commitment so maybe it's time that we look at them differently. Symbols are arbitrary - they only hold the meaning that we assign them. So in this episode, we talk about some ways that we can change how we look at our garments, what we can do to change the way we think of them, a...

Unless you've been living under a rock, you've heard about the 5 Love Languages and how you need to figure out what your spouse's love language is and give them love in that way. Now, there is some truth to this, but I also think that it often becomes a way to keep score to see who is the better partner. That's not good for you or your marriage. In this episode, we talk about what is good for you...

Does your orgasm take too long? This is a complaint I hear all of the time from my clients. We as women are culturally trained that our needs are secondary to our husband's and children's needs. This is what makes us good wives and mothers, or so we're taught. So, we often worry about how much time it takes us to orgasm. About whether our husband is bored. About whether we're being selfish to even...