Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education

Have you ever had an experience that you did not consent to but that was enjoyable, transformational, or even pleasurable? This week Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou ( @⁠avgolis98 ⁠), queer psychoanalyst and author of ⁠ Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia ⁠, to discuss queering consent. As part of our discussion, Avgi shares stories...

Why are we not talking more about baby-making sex and how stressful it can be?? I spoke to new moms and experts you'll recognize from Sex Ed with DB to figure out what's going on and how we could be doing it better. DB's Download is a new episode format! Inspired by our  newsletter , which ends with a sum up of what I've been reading/watching/etc. each week, this format gives me some room to tell...

Can weed actually make sex better? And what does the science have to say about it? This week, DB breaks down what the research really says about cannabis, desire, arousal, and orgasms. We're talking sexy highs, not-so-sexy side effects, and how to use weed to enhance pleasure. Mentioned in this episode: Ketamine, Couples Therapy, and Psychedelic Pleasure with Dr. Genesee Herzberg ABOUT SEASON 12 S...

In this episode, DB sits down with Dr. Genesee Herzberg to talk about ketamine, couples therapy, and psychedelic pleasure. They get into common myths, what actually happens in a session, how ketamine can help couples break old patterns, and why novelty can reignite connection and desire. Plus: how touch and consent can be part of healing. Guest Details Dr. Genesee Herzberg is a clinical psychologi...

What's the deal with hormones, anyway? DB breaks down how they impact your sex life, mood, energy, and overall health. Learn what's normal, what's not, and how to better understand what your body's telling you.  Mentioned in this episode: Rediscovering Desire: Sex, Hormones, and Libido through Middle Age and Beyond with Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOU...

Sex gets better with age...if we let it! In this episode, DB sits down with her mom, badass OBGYN Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt, to talk all about sex and aging, They get into responsive desire, menopause, hormones, vaginal estrogen (gamechanger!), and why more women than ever are asking for what they want in the bedroom. Plus: how to talk to your doctor about your pleasure! GUEST DETAILS Dr. Rebecca Lev...

Can you really come again… and again… and again? Hell yes you can! DB is here to break down the science of multiple orgasms and what actually helps make it happen (hint: it's not just willpower).  Mentioned in this ep: The Orgasm Gap with Laurie Mintz Three Secrets to a Thriving Sex Life with Dr. Emily Nagoski Toy recs to get you there again and again and again: The Womanizer Premium Lela Ena Reme...

DB sits down with sexologist and educator Goody Howard, MSW, MPH to shake up everything you thought you knew about orgasms. From 20+ ways to come (yes, 20!) to the cultural myths that shut us down, they're talking about how to reconnect with your body, tune into sensuality outside the bedroom, and try to achieve at least one of the 20 different orgasm types. Consider this your official invite to g...

Coping with mismatched libidos in your partnership? You are sooo not alone! DB breaks down why desire isn't just a switch you can flip, how stress and hormones play a role, and offers some evidence-based advice about what to do when you and your partner aren't in sync.  Mentioned in this episode: Initiating Sex with Confidence with Whitni Miller ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL A...

Initiating sex can feel vulnerable, awkward, or even downright scary—especially if you were socialized to anticipate everyone else's needs before your own. This week, DB is joined by the one and only Whitni Miller (aka BDE Moves ), queer couples intimacy coach, to break down what gets in the way, how to build confidence, and why getting turned down doesn't have to be a bad thing. We're talking per...

DB breaks down how to talk to your partner about bringing sex toys into the bedroom to get more pleasure. She shares stats on who's using sex toys, why queer couples are ahead of the game, and easy ways to start the convo with your partner. Plus: top sex toy recs and a playful challenge to try at home. Studies mentioned in this episode: Do Sex Toys Make Me Satisfied? The Use of Sex Toys in Denmark...

Season 12 is all about PLEASURE and we're kicking things off with a juicy one!  This week, DB is joined by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons—licensed psychologist, sex researcher, and pleasure activist—to talk about what happened when 1,000 people masturbate  for science ! The Magic Wand Wellness Study is the first study of its kind to look at how daily masturbation impacts things like sleep, stress, foc...

Within hours of the new administration's return-to-office, disorder took over. A foreign aid freeze, a stop-work order, and the dismantling of key foreign aid institutions commenced almost immediately. Gayatri Patel , Senior Fellow with rePROs Fight Back, sits down to talk with us about glimmers of hope for protecting this foreign assistance funding and relevant agencies, as well as how we can pre...

One nerd's quest to find out why we know next to nothing about period pain. Tired of suffering from "death cramps" with no diagnosis for 20 years, Kate Downey has to look for her own answers. What she finds will change how you think about your own body and the medical system. Because having a microphone gets you more answers than having a uterus. https://www.katehelendowney.com/cramped CONNECT WIT...

Ready to have better sex? Start here. This season on Sex Ed with DB , we're diving into what your high school health class definitely didn't teach you: how to get more pleasure. Whether you're trying to orgasm with a partner, explore your kinks, or just feel more confident in your body—this is the season for you. Hit play to hear what we're covering: solo pleasure, partnered sex, sex toys, porn, f...

That's a wrap on  Rom-Com Vom ! We made it through a whole season of dissecting the cringiest lessons the rom-coms that raised us tried to teach. In this final episode, DB reflects on what she's learned through making the show—and what these movies still reveal about love, culture, and ourselves. CONNECT WITH US Instagram:  @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok:  @sexedwithdb Twitter:  @sexedwithdb Threads: ...

It's the final Rom-Com Vom—and we're going out with a true vom. DB is joined by the brilliant Kate from CRAMPED to dissect No Strings Attached, a film so bafflingly bad it makes you double-check that yes, it really did come out in 2011. They unpack the film's deeply weird messages about women, work, and love, from its rare-but-still-weird period scene to its tired idea that ambitious women just ne...

In this week's bonus ep: DB reviews Dying for Sex, a show about what happens when a terminal diagnosis blows your whole life open, and catalyzes a chaotic late-stage sexual awakening. She breaks down what the show gets right about trauma and autonomy, and how it captures the weird and tender reality of female friendship.  Mentioned in this episode:  13 Going on 13 with Paul Caiola: Rom-Com Vom Sig...

This week, we are  thrilled (wink wink) to review 13 Going on 30! DB and Paul talk about the ethics of age-gap romance when time travel is involved, and why 2000s films were so obsessed with pitting women against each other. Plus: dollhouses, dream jobs, and whether Matty is actually too good for Jenna.  GUEST DETAILS Since 2019, Paul has been one-half of the creative team behind That Aged Well ,...

Inspired by this week's Rom Com Vom episode on the disastrous  Just Friends , DB answers a listener's question about getting out of the friend zone... Mentioned in this episode:  Just Friends with Lauren Passell and Holly Brown CONNECT WITH US Instagram:  @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok:  @sexedwithdb Twitter:  @sexedwithdb Threads:  @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube:  Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SP...

Buckle up, it's Just Friends  week on Rom Com Vom! DB is joined by Holly Brown and Lauren Passell of Tink Media to break down reformed fuckboys, friend zone mythology, and why this movie still kind of slaps, even when it sincerely shouldn't. GUEST DETAILS Lauren Passell is the founder of Tink Media, a podcast growth and strategy company, and the editor of Podcast the Newsletter. She teaches podcas...

Today we're sharing an episode from one of our wellness podcast faves: Be Well, Sis . Hosted by Dr. Cassandre Dunbar, the show is dedicated to providing resources for Black millennial women to be their best selves physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You'll hear an excerpt from the episode Taming the Busy Brain with Dr. Romie: Strategies for Stress, Success, and Self-Care. In this e...

DB is on her honeymoon, so we're bringing you the BEST orgasm tips from the archives of Sex Ed with DB! DB and Mariah from Sex Ed Files share their go-to techniques for reaching the big O. Then, stick around as DB tackles a listener's question on how to make orgasms even more intense. Hear the full episodes: Curious Sex Ed: Orgasms More Sex Ed: How can I have a stronger orgasm?  CONNECT WITH US In...

Pleasure is so much more than orgasm. Don't believe us? In this re-release, DB dives into all things sensuality with Sexuality Doula Ev'Yan Whitney, author of Sensual Self . They unpack the grip of purity culture, talk body reconnection, and offer real-world tips for bringing more pleasure into your life—yes, even outside the bedroom. Still untangling your sexuality from the grip of the patriarchy...

Sex toys are the best toys. In this Best Of episode, we're revisiting two fan-favorite minis all about finding your toy—the one that gets you there every time. If your browser has 25 tabs open full of a different vibes that buzz, suck, swirl, or pulse and you still don't know where to start, this one's for you. Mentioned in this episode: DB's Magic Wand Experiment How do I buy the right sex toy fo...