Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education

My sweet sapphics, are we stressed about the strap? Let's talk about it. In this episode, DB answers an anonymous listener question about anxiety around a new, exciting, queer sexual act. Remember: it's okay to be nervous! Let's unpack why sometimes, even things that sound awesome can be a little scary. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. TAKE...

It seems like everybody is talking about polycules right now -- but what are they actually? How do polycules work? What makes a polcule appeal to people? DB talks to the incredible Rachel Wright about everything polycules, from busting myths to talking about the joy of love outside of the framework of monogamy. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT (she/her) is a licensed psychotherapist, speak...

In this episode, DB answers an anonymous listener question about the differences between fantasies and what we want in real life. Remember: fantasies are just that. They don't make you a bad person! Let's dive into our psyches and see what the root of the fantasy might be -- and how those fantasies are trying to give us something we crave. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous f...

If you have a vagina, there's a nonzero chance you've dealt with vaginal discomfort: itching, burning, strange discharge, pain, or something just feeling off. You are absolutely not alone. Today, DB sits down to talk with Daniella Levy, one of the co-founders of Happy V . What's it like having chronic Bqacterial Vaginosis -- and what's it like finally being free from it? We're SO PROUD to be partn...

Today, we're answering a listener question about sex work from the perspective of a client. Is it bad to pay for sex? Why did it make this listener feel awful afterwards? It's time to dispel some myths about sex work and see what the root of this shame might be. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION:  Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question FROM THIS EPISODE: Come to our Bi Flirting Nig...

In this episode, DB welcomes back three-time guest Dr. Lexx Brown-James to talk about what she's learned from working with folks in relationships for almost two decades. From gaining confidence to giving yourself the time you need to the dating apps, let's break down some of what post-divorce folks might experience in dating. What is it like getting back into the dating pool after a divorce? In on...

In this episode, DB answers an anonymous question from a listener about how to manage religious beliefs with changing views on sex, desire, and relationships. What does it mean when who we're becoming clashing with who we think we're supposed to be -- and how does that impact our relationships? ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. FURTHER LISTE...

Welcome to Season 14! We're kicking it off with an incredible conversation with Ericka Hart, author of the new book Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire, and Liberate Yourself! DB talks to Ericka about colonization, pleasure, shame, joy, and working in sex ed. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Ericka Hart (pronouns: she/they) is a black queer femme activist, writer, highly acclaimed speaker and award-winning...

We are coming back with Season 14 on May 20th, 2026! Join us in this new pleasure season of conversations with sex ed experts, answering anonymous questions from real listeners, and takes on the sexual wellness news and media happening right now. Want to have your question answered by DB on an episode? There's still time! ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex...

This week, we're re-releasing a favorite episode from the archives. In 2023, DB talked with creator Alayna Joy all about coming out as a lesbian later in life. Let's talk about why it can take people a while to figure out their queerness, how those realizations come about, and what they mean for us. If you like this episode, be sure to listen to our episode from earlier in season 13!: "Baby Gay, B...

If you like Sex Ed with DB, you're going to love Dating Intentionally! Talia Koren chats with Danielle to explore common misconceptions about sex and why it's time to rethink what counts as sex. We also dive into using sex toys on your own, plus how to bring them up in a relationship. And at the end, Danielle answers all the questions you might be too embarrassed to ask anywhere else about things...

Today, we're releasing one of our favorite episodes all about blowjobs (or blobbies?) with Amy and April of Shameless Sex ! Be sure to subscribe to their podcast -- if you love Sex Ed with DB , you'll love Shameless Sex too. Content warning This episode discusses coersion around oral sex -- both oral sex that has been coerced, and oral sex as a tool to coerce. To avoid this conversation,  skip fro...

If you like Sex Ed with DB, you're going to love CRAMPED! We know Viagra (sildenafil citrate) as a treatment for...one specific male problem. But a 2013 study showed it could potentially be SHOCKINGLY effective for dysmenorrhea. So what happened in that study? Why would a boner pill work for period pain? and why didn't it go anywhere? CRAMPED episodes are intended for informational and entertainme...

In this Best Of episode, we've compiled some of our favorite conversations all about trans sex. What's different about having sex as a trans person, with a trans person, or as a trans person with another trans person (we see you and love you, t4t folks). With a lot of laughs and a lot of heart, let's dive into the world of trans sex. And check out Elle and Ezra's hilarious viral video, "A Day in t...

This week, we're bringing you an episode from one of our favorite podcasts -- The Longest Shortest Time! From TLST: We're back after a 5-year hiatus! Hillary kicks us off with a story about her anxiety over her daughter's first experience with unwanted male attention — and her subsequent misadventures in trying to get the girl's school to teach consent. Artwork for this episode by Lindsay Striplin...

Rihanna voice: S S S & M M M! In this Best Of, we're bringing you the Best of BDSM from our archive. If you're curious about getting kinda kinky, this episode might just give you the motivation to start -- and make sure you're being safe and asking the right questions. FULL EPISODES FROM THIS BEST OF The Pleasure of Subbing with Lina Dune What Happens Inside a Consensual Master/Slave BDSM Relation...

We're rounding out the end of Season 13 with some best of episodes mixing together some of our favorite clips from our archive! This week, we've got the best of DESIRE, from biology to psychology to culture! FULL EPISODES FROM THIS BEST OF Desire and Pleasure with Whitni Miller Three Secrets to a Thriving Sex Life with Dr. Emily Nagoski Testosterone, Pleasure, and the Libido Myth with Dr. Rebecca...

And so ends Season 13! We'll be back soon with more, but for now, here's 13 lessons DB has learned from going 13 seasons strong! Have any topics you'd like us to cover on Season 14? We're planning right now -- so it's a great time to email and let us know at sexedwithdb@gmail.com ! TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZ Find your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to th...

This week's episode is about an underrated -- and often misreprensented -- asset for pleasure: lingerie! Lingerie can make you feel powerful, beautiful, and sensual, even if you're not with a cishet male partner, or any partner at all! In this episode, DB speaks with Emily Bendell, founder of Bluebella, one of the greatest lingerie brands DB's found yet! GUEST DETAILS Bluebella was born from a sim...

Last week, we talked to Luna Matatas about seducing the butt -- but today, we'll go even deeper (wink wink) on the prostate! What is a prostate orgasm? How do you have one and/or give your partner(s) one? How is it different from a penile orgasm? Let's explore this fun part of the body and find even more pleasure! RECOMMENDED LISTENING Season 13, Episode 17: "Seducing the Booty: Tips for Pleasurab...

This week's episode is all about BUTT STUFF! From penetration to rimming to spanking, there can be so much pleasure found in the butt -- yes, even if you're a straight man, and yes, even if you're a cis woman! DB interviews Luna Matatas, THE expert on all things booty, about how to get the most pleasure out of your (or a consenting partner's) butt! GUEST DETAILS Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure...

Ever look back on a childhood memory and realize it maybe awakened something in you that you're just now finding... very, very interesting? One of our incredible (and very brave, we LOVE you for this) listeners sent in a question about being in this predicament. Do childhood experiences impact our sexual interests, kinks, and/or fetishes? Why? What's going on psychologically? And does anyone have...

Are we in an intimacy and loneliness crisis? And if so, what's so bad about that? A lot more than you might think. Dr. Justin Garcia's new book The Intimate Animal: The Science of Sex, Fidelity, and Why We Live and Die for Love details why intimacy is VITAL for survival in the human species. We are social animals, and that's not something the digital age can get around. Join DB for this BRILLIANT...

So what ACTUALLY happens in our brains during orgasm to make it feel so good? In this episode, DB breaks down the brain chemistry and neuroscience behind orgasms. Learn about what endorphins actually are (and aren't), the other chemicals in your brain creating other sensations, and how everything comes together ;) A CHANCE TO GIVE US OPINIONS AND WIN $50 Want a chance to tell us what you think abo...

Coming out later in life? Welcome to you! Coming out is such a personal process, whether you're coming out to yourself or your loved ones. In this episode, DB talks with queer coach Eva Bloom all about what coming out later in life can look like.  GUEST DETAILS Eva Bloom (they/them) is a queer & trans late bloomer coach, community facilitator, and inclusive sex-ed speaker. With training in social...