Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education

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So, what even is testosterone -- and why do so many menopausal women swear by it? DB and her mom Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt dive into a recent New York Times article "I'm on Fire': Testosterone Is Giving Women Back Their Sex Drive — and Then Some" by Susan Dominus. What does testosterone actually do? Who could benefit from taking it? What are the risks? And why are the only people who can easily acces...

Today, we bring you an episode from one of our favorite pods,  The Longest Shortest Time  — featuring DB as a guest!   As the daughter of an OBGYN, Danielle Bezalel learned all about vaginas — but pleasure wasn't part of the conversation. Now she's on a mission to help people prioritize pleasure. Tune in as she shares the incident that motivated her to become a sex educator, her own struggles with...

Have you been obsessing over Heated Rivalry? Us too. If this year's New Years Eve coverage with Anderson Cooper and Andy Cohen are anything to go off of, EVERYONE's been crazy about this show -- yes, even the lesbians. So what makes this series SO HOT even for people who aren't gay men? Let's take a look at Heated Rivalry, BL, and yaoi, with Lina Dune! GUEST DETAILS Lina Dune is a kink writer, con...

In this very different -- and very difficult -- episode, DB sits down with Mia Schachter of Consent Wizardry to talk all about consent. But what DB gets is not what she expected. Please note that this episode contains difficult and potentially triggering conversations around consent. This episode touches on discussions and experiences of consent violations, as well as a perspective that might trig...

Can You Imagine Having the Tools to Easily Rewrite Your Relationship with Intimacy and Create a More Fulfilling (and Juicier) Life? Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex, where we dive into the world of Intimacy Rewired. Not only will you learn about this online course that will transform your relationships and life, but you will also walk away with a few life changing tools to apply in your ow...

Let's ask a sub all about subbing! What's the appeal of submission? Can being a submissive be feminist? Can being a sub be empowering? And how can you figure out if you might be a sub too? Plus: DB and guest Lina Dune talk about trad wives. Ladies, is that just a kink? GUEST DETAILS Lina Dune is a kink writer, content creator, host of the Ask A Sub podcast and fairy submother to all who seek her a...

How does autism interact with sex and pleasure? From sensory distractions to overstimulation to routines, DB breaks down how to get the most pleasure out of sex if you're autistic, including scripts for how to talk to your partner(s) -- and how to be a better partner to autistic folks! Check out the Organization for Autism Research's Sex Ed for Self-Advocates guide ABOUT SEASON 13 Season 13 of Sex...

People with disabilities can be hot! People with disabilities can be sexy! And people with disabilities DESERVE PLEASURE! In this episode, we breakdown disability and pleasure with the amazing Andrew Gurza -- and their conversation with DB takes some twists and turns that are so real, they're going to strike a chord whether or not you're disabled yourself. And don't forget: anyone can become disab...

We've got a great listener question this week: does having sex often -- and/or with many different partners -- actually make your vagina looser? Let's break into the science and bust some myths. Don't let purity culture get you down! And remember, you can email DB with your questions at sexedwithdb@gmail.com , and yours might be chosen for a future episode too! ABOUT SEASON 13 Season 13 of Sex Ed...

This week, we're talking about how sexuality can be used to coerce people in cultlike settings, through the lens of Ellen Huet's new book   EMPIRE OF ORGASM: Sex, Power, and the Downfall of a Wellness Cult .   Ellen joins DB to talk about OneTaste, a for-profit wellness company that was hit with allegations of coercion, forced labor, and other abusive practices. Listen in for the story of how Elle...

What's a normal amount of pain to feel after sex? Is everyone else sore after sex and not talking about it? How can you make sex less painful and more pleasurable? Today, learn from DB about what is and is not normal about pain during and after sex, when you should be worried, and when maybe you could just use some more lube. (Hint: Uberlube reigns supreme!) RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Mayo Clinic...

Black folks are often left out of research studies. Queer people are often left out of research studies. Women are often left out of research studies. So if you're a Black queer woman, there's hardly any research about your specific needs, struggles, and pleasure -- and that's where our guest, Dr. Shemeka Thorpe, comes in! We're kicking off our second Pleasure season by diving into #HotGirlScience...

You all loved Season 12 so much, we're running it back -- and bringing you EVEN MORE PLEASURE! This season we're covering everything you want to know about pleasure, orgasms, sex cults, BDSM, and so much more. I'm talking to some of the top experts in the field, and answering your most pressing questions about sex, intimacy, and pleasure. Season 13 of Sex Ed with DB starts November 5th, 2025 and e...

This best-of episode is all about MASTURBATION ! Taken from our backlog to bring back our best advice, histories, and myth-busting all about self-pleasure to wrap up our first pleasure season! How do you know if you're masturbating too much? What's the deal with the history of vibrators? And WHAT came from WHAT in mythology? Dive into this episode for some wild stories and affirming advice. Don't...

This best-of episode is all about PLEASURE ! Taken from some of our favorite episodes in Season 12, our first season all about pleasure, you'll get tips and ruminations on how to get the most pleasure out of your life. Listen in for talks on multiple orgasms, different types of orgasms, and how to initiate intimacy with confidence! Episodes featured: How can I have multiple orgasms? 20 Types of Or...

In this episode, DB talks with Amy and April from the FANTASTIC podcast Shameless Sex ! It's the final episode of Season 12 all about pleasure, and we're talking all about blowjobs (or blowies -- or blobbies?)! Let's dispel some myths and talk all about how blowjobs can be pleasurable for everyone involved. Content warning This episode discusses coersion around oral sex -- both oral sex that has b...

In this episode, DB talks to a real couple living in long-term monogamy and still getting so much pleasure and chemistry from each other. This couple's story is so sweet and fascinating, with some interesting twists and turns, culminating in a sensual routine that helps them stay connected. Looking to get that spark back with your partner? This couple's solutions may be less "spiced up" than you'd...

In this episode, DB talks with Dr. Lexx about SO many different kinds of pleasure and how to keep pleasure centered in a long-term monogamous relationship. It isn't always just about sex -- pleasure can come from so many different parts of our lives, our senses, and our relationships with others. Let's learn about all the different types of pleasure we can embrace right here right now. As Dr. Lexx...

This week, DB reflects on last week's fantastic conversation with Certified Sex Therapist Claire Perelman. Let's take a moment to really unpack jealousy and envy, no matter if you're ENM or monogamous. What does jealousy say about us -- and what does it not? There's a sense of shame around jealousy that we can move past using our emotional honesty and by naming what we're feeling. Plus: a vocab le...

In this episode, DB talks with Claire Perelman all about the pleasure of non-monogamy! ENM, polyamory, swingers, monogam-ish -- there's so many ways to be non-monogamous, and so many reasons living a life outside of monogamy can be a tremendous joy. Non-monogamous listeners, we see you! Monogamous listeners, this is a great moment to learn about what makes ENM so appealing to so many. Guest Detail...

In this episode, DB talks with TammyJo Eckhart, a BDSM activist who's here to dispel some myths about M/s, or Master/slave, relationships -- in the long-term! Don't let the title fool you; just like all BDSM discussed here at Sex Ed with DB, TammyJo talks about how not only can M/s relationships be consensual, but also caring, freeing, and therepeutic for everyone inolved. Between Us is a new epis...

In this episode, DB talks with Midori, a sex eduator and artist who focuses on domination and power play for anyone who identifies as a woman. What does femme domination look like -- and why can it be so intimidating to tap into? Learn to tap into your domme side with tips from Midori on how to get there, and why domming is often so much simpler and sweeter than people might think. Guest Details M...

In this episode, DB talks with her friend Beatrice (aka Triss) about sex after gender affirming surgery. If you think you know what "bottom surgery" means, you might have more to learn than you think! Hear from Triss about her choice to get an orchiectomy, how the surgery and recovery went for her, and the changes she's experienced since -- plus, her ritual for the wet specimen she took home with...

In this episode, DB talks with Jamie Joy, a trans sex educator, to talk all things trans sex. Trans listeners, tune in for some fascinating conversations on things like hormones and finding what feels right for you. Cis listeners, there's tips for you too -- not just on how to give pleasure to your trans partner regardless of their anatomy, but how you might find more joy in yourself as well! This...