Self-Helpless

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook discuss revenge bedtime procrastination -- what it is, the causes and impact on our health, as well as tips for preventing and managing it. They also share what their own bedtime procrastination has looked like, and what they’ve implemented to stop it in its tracks (most of the time). If you’re stuck in a cycle of staying up too late in order to give yourself downti...

This week, we are joined by licensed therapist and HSP Coach, Lauren LaSalle. As an HSP herself, Lauren explains what characteristics and attributes Highly Sensitive People tend to have, practical tips for optimizing your environment, setting boundaries, and increasing your energy as a Highly Sensitive Person, and how we can all best support the HSPs in our lives. Think you might be experiencing h...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are discussing fear of commitment -- how to spot it, root causes, and tips for overcoming it. They also share the differences they've experienced when making fear-based decisions vs. ones based on gut instinct. Whether you’re a commitment-phobe, commitment lover, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you understand your feelings around commitment on a whol...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by Adoption Lawyer, Lucrece Bundy. Lucrece debunks common misconceptions about the adoption process, what steps to take to adopt a child (and what not to waste your time on), and offers tips that can help parents and children acclimate after a successful adoption. Plus, how long the adoption process ACTUALLY takes, and what role trauma plays when consider...

We are joined by Kelsey's friends and wonderful couple, Kevin and Rachel. They're sharing their love story, offering insights about their relationship, and dishing out the tools that have helped them most.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelsey...

This week, Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook, discuss shiny object syndrome -- what it is, how to prevent it, which disorders it can be linked to, and they also share their personal and professional experiences with it. If you resonate with this episode, and shiny object syndrome seems to be interfering with your daily productivity and happiness, you might want to check out our episode about ADHD wi...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook discuss navigating life and career transitions -- touching on relationships, entrepreneurship, relocating, and grief. They provide tips for transitioning with more ease and less overwhelm, as well as share what’s worked (and hasn’t worked) for them. If you’re experiencing anxiety around tough and/or awesome changes, this episode is for you. For exclusive rewards, an...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are giving you a self-care buffet this week! They share their go-to self-care methods and activities, the love languages they've been practicing, and offer some powerful questions to ask yourself for gaining clarity on your true needs and desires. Plus, WTF a jolly jar is, and why one of the girls will never purchase a tea kettle. For exclusive rewards, and to influ...

This week, Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook, are talking about time blindness. They share the symptoms, disorders it’s linked to, and offer practical time management tips. Plus, they swap personal experiences related to time blindness, and what they’ve implemented in their daily routines to avoid feeling rushed, or being late. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our P...

This week, the girls are joined by licensed clinical psychologist and emotional intelligence skills training expert, Dr. J. J. Kelly. Dr. J.J. explains dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) -- who it’s for, the transformation it provides, as well as the misdiagnoses that are related to DBT. Tune in to learn simple tips for applying emotional intelligence skills to your relationships for more connecte...

This week, Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer, discuss Communication Accommodation Theory. They define what it is, break down convergence vs. divergence, and share how understanding and applying this theory can improve your relationships. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.c...

This week, Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer, are reading their birth charts. They share what resonates with them, swap personal stories based on their results, and discuss how they plan to implement some of this information. Grab your birth chart (and your drink of choice) and tune in for a fun reflection! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: htt...

This week, Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook, discuss how to apply minimalism to your space and schedule. They offer simple tips for decluttering (and maintaining) your space, how to audit and adjust your schedule, and questions to ask yourself to gain clarity on which values you want reflected in your daily life. Whether you’re new to minimalism, or you’re a seasoned pro, tune in to infuse more joy...

This week, the girls discuss black and white thinking. They cover common causes, conditions and disorders it can be linked to, share personal experiences with it, and offer practical tips for managing it. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseyco...

The girls are reflecting on, "The Four Agreements," by Don Miguel Ruiz. They breakdown each agreement from the book, and share related personal experiences. Let's talk implementation for these 4 life-changing guidelines to personal freedom! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefisc...

This week, we are joined by forensic psychiatrist, Dr. Tracey Marks. Dr. Marks explains what serotonin syndrome is, how it differs from serotonin toxicity, the causes and symptoms, treatment options, and how your gut can boost your mood. She also shares some fascinating new developments regarding treatment methods for depression.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join...

This week, we are joined by Competitive Martial Artist and Founder of Kurtz MMA, Alyssa Kurtz. Alyssa opens up about her past trauma including being in and out of psychiatric hospitals as a teen and young adult, what her rock bottom looked like, the biggest turning point in her life, and how a combination of Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Martial Arts literally saved her. Alyssa also walks us th...

This week, Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by Relationship Expert, Rachel DeAlto. Rachel shares the #1 most important value for any healthy relationship, your new favorite analogy involving TJ Maxx (you'll never look at shopping the same), and answers so many juicy relationship questions. Get excited for responses to questions like:  "How do you know when it’s time to call it quits? "Wh...

This week, the girls are reflecting on the greatest and hardest things they experienced in 2021. They share what they learned, how their perspectives have changed, and the ways this year has inspired next year’s intentions and resolutions. They cover relationships, career, and health - plus offer some tips for reducing stress during the holiday season! For exclusive rewards, and to influence conte...

This week, we are joined by consent educator and founder of Comprehensive Consent, Sarah Casper. Sarah shares how we can practice consent daily in our relationships, offers tips for communicating our desires and needs (plus specific tips for people-pleasers!), how social media has impacted the discussion around consent, and even the role that approval and popularity play. Plus, some consent exerci...

This week, we're joined by craniosacral therapist and registered nurse, Joey Miller. Joey explains the science behind craniosacral therapy, how the body responds to it, and some potential results you can experience with this kind of treatment. Plus, the impact craniosacral therpay has had on Kelsey's health.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community:...

This week, we are joined by Palliative Care Social Worker and mother, Karyn Trowbridge. Karyn shares how she navigated her grief after the loss of her daughter, how this experience changed her life - and the way she views death, and the impact it had on her marriage and other relationships. Plus, what helped Karyn cope vs. what didn’t, how others react when they find out about her loss, and her re...

This week, Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by intimacy and relationship expert, Michaela Boehm. Michaela shares the key components of Tantra, the common misconceptions, and offers practical applications to strengthen your relationship with your partner, and yourself. Plus, the 1 area of the human body we should all be tending to A LOT more to keep things fired up in the bedroom (it’s no...

We are joined by mental health counselor and anxiety expert, Justine Carino. Justine breaks down, step-by-step, the 6 phases we must go through to break a toxic relationship pattern (and make it stick). Whether you’re experiencing toxicity with a romantic partner, family member, friend, coworker - or anyone else, this episode provides the tips and tools you need in order to be hyper-aware, establi...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are joined by their former co-host (and recurring guest), Taylor Tomlinson! Taylor offers her favorite tips for long-distance relationships, and shares her personal experience. Plus, the #1 reason why some long-distance relationships fail. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless D...