Self-Helpless

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are discussing, "The Body Keeps the Score," by Bessel van der Kolk. The book describes how the body and mind react to trauma, shares essential tools for healing and recovery, and breaks down the differences between normal memories and traumatic ones. Plus, the girls share some personal experiences - including recent losses and strengthening their gut instinct.  For...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are discussing self-doubt. They share the negative behaviors that can be associated with self-doubt (one of these is SHOCKING), different ways to manage these feelings, and their personal go-to tips for when self-doubt creeps into their lives. Plus, enjoy a quotable buffet that’ll get you fired up! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join o...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer discuss creator burnout this week. They dig into the signs and symptoms, tips for managing and preventing it, and share the impact being content creators has on their mental and physical health. They also describe the role social media plays - with Kelsey being very active on socials, and Delanie now being social media free.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are discussing people-pleasing. They cover signs that you’re a people-pleaser, how individuals develop these tendencies, why these patterns are hard to break, and offer tips for setting boundaries and prioritizing your needs. Plus, they share some shocking stories about how people-pleasing has impacted their own lives.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence conten...

The girls are joined by urologist and sexual health expert, Dr. Rena Malik, to debunk UTI myths, discuss interstitial cystitis, and offer tips and treatment options for pelvic floor dysfunction. If you’ve been experiencing pain during sex, feel a stinging sensation when you pee, or suffer from chronic constipation or back pain, the answers you need might be in this episode! Plus, Taylor Tomlinson...

Kelsey and Delanie are discussing, "Wintering," by Katherine May. This book is about the  winter seasons of life (literal and metaphorical), why slowing down during tough times is necessary and important, and how we can learn to accept challenges instead of resist them. Plus, the girls share some of their go-to comforts when they find themselves “wintering.” For exclusive rewards, and to influence...

We are joined by psychotherapist, American Mental Health Counselors Association Diplomate, and ADHD expert, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis. Dr. Sarkis shares the signs, symptoms, types, and treatment options for people who have ADHD, the biggest misconceptions about this disorder (these blew our minds), why young girls are often overlooked and not diagnosed until adulthood, as well as what partners of peopl...

This week the girls discuss empathy. They cover the 3 different types of empathy (did you know there were 3??), how empathy can impact us physically and emotionally, and things we can all do to become more empathetic. Plus, Kelsey shares a story that includes all 3 types! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless...

We are joined by social justice activist and founder of "The Body is Not An Apology" movement, Sonya Renee Taylor. Sonya shares the difference between “cancel culture” and accountability, what a sincere apology includes vs. what is just absolution, whether “getting canceled” is actually a real thing, and how we can hold ourselves (and others) accountable while keeping in mind that we all make mist...

The girls are discussing social conditioning - what it is, its impact on us, and how to question the parts of it that don’t feel right. They also share some early memories around their own conditioning, how it’s shaped who they are, and how each of them continue to challenge the status quo.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patre...

We are joined by award-winning journalist and activist, Noor Tagouri. Noor explains how we can ensure the information we receive and share is credible, who benefits (and profits) from our fear and the divisiveness created in traditional media outlets, and what changes would have a positive impact on the media industry as a whole - and therefore on us. Plus, practical tips for getting involved in c...

The girls are dishing out some strange facts this week. Everything from the origin of the term "spam mail," a terrifying skill that wasps have, the one family dynamic no U.S. president has ever had, why pigeons are underappreciated, and how jellyfish are probably going to take over the world at some point. Plus, some weird exercises and fun facts about Delanie and Kelsey! For exclusive rewards, an...

The girls are discussing uncertainty, and all of the anxiety that can come with it. They share some tips for coping, what tools have helped them the most, offer some personal experiences, and encourage you to audit your own perspective on uncertainty. Plus, what they feel has been the BIGGEST silver lining when it comes to uncertainty in their own lives. For exclusive rewards, and to influence con...

The girls are discussing damaging relationships. They share some statistics about emotional abuse in the United States, signs to be aware of in relationship dynamics, as well as open up about some tough personal experiences. If you're in need of clarity and validation, this is the episode for you. *This content may be difficult for survivors of abuse. For exclusive rewards, and to influence conten...

The girls are discussing work-life balance. They share what habits have actually stuck for them, what hasn't stuck at all, offer some practical tips, and describe their go-to daily systems for this never-ending pursuit. This episode is a chance to evaluate what’s working for you, what’s not, and generate some unique solutions for more joy, fulfillment, and purpose in work and life.  For exclusive...

The girls are sharing their top 20 simple beauty tips this week. They cover hair, skincare, makeup, outfits, some of their favorite products, what’s worked for them vs. what hasn’t, and swap some beauty fail stories. Plus, who chopped their hair off as a kid, and who was missing a chunk of their eyebrow for a while... For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon c...

The girls are discussing jealousy - the root cause of it, what can happen if we let jealousy dictate our lives, and how we can use this emotion as a tool to achieve our goals. Plus, they're sharing some personal experiences with jealousy, and the difference in how they respond to it now vs. when they were younger.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon comm...

We are joined by psychotherapist, American Mental Health Counselors Association Diplomate, and author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People - And Break Free, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis. Dr. Sarkis explains what gaslighting is, why people do it, and the short-term and long-term psychological effects it has on people experiencing it. She also offers examples of gaslighting,...

We are joined by two-time cancer survivor and motivational speaker, Janet Knode. Janet is a big proponent of being your own healthcare advocate, practicing gratitude, and being present. In this episode, she describes the moment she found out she had cancer, different procedures she went through, experiences telling friends and family, experimenting with different pre and post chemo hairstyles, cha...

The girls are talking about criticism this week. They discuss the difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism, tips for responding to it (online and offline), the value of thoughtful feedback, and the feelings that can arise when you're on the receiving end of criticism. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.pa...

This week we are joined by Doctor of Acupuncture, Dr. Kathleen Funk. Dr. Funk answers our questions about the efficacy of acupuncture, its origins, benefits, misconceptions behind the practice, and so much more. Kelsey also talks about her recent progress managing her TMJ using acupuncture, and gets additional guidance from Dr. Funk. If you struggle with IBS, migraines, thyroid issues, or PCOS, yo...

We are joined by Kris Hillberg. Kris opens up about getting married at the age of 21, what led to that decision, and how it impacted her life. Kris is very candid as she shares her personal experience with the organized religion that she grew up in, her feelings about those experiences, and the steps she took to leave that religion. This episode is not intended to offend anyone who has religious b...

The girls discuss homeschooling this week. Kelsey interviews Delanie about her personal experience in an independent study high school program, the health issues that resulted in her leaving a conventional school setting, what the adjustment was really like, and how it impacted her social life, education, career trajectory, and self-esteem. Whether you're considering homeschooling for your kid, or...

We are joined by Coach for Perfectionists, Nicole Baker. Nicole shares how being exposed to personal development tools from a young age shaped her, opens up about being bullied as a kid, struggles with body image, experiencing abuse in a romantic relationship, and the steps she took towards building confidence, cultivating self-worth, and finding her voice. *Some content in this episode may be dif...

The girls discuss the concept of defining "enough." What is enough money? Enough accomplishment? Down time? And how do you know when you have it? They share findings from studies about the impact of money on happiness, well-being, and overall life satisfaction, what enough means to each of them personally, and tips for gaining clarity on what enough might mean to you. Plus, some interesting quotes...