Rock Solid Relationships

This has happened to all of us. Someone you love is offended by something you say or do and even though you've apologized, they refuse to forgive you. Learn how you don't have to wait for them to forgive you to find the peace that you seek. In this episode, I'm going to share with you 3 steps to release that burden from your heart. Inspiration Station: Multiply Goodness on Instagram Instagram: @sa...

Today I want to talk about what a transactional relationship looks like and what we can do to have a non-transactional relationship. First, what is a transactional relationship? We all have transactional relationships with our hairdressers, or the person who cleans our house. They do something for us and we give them something back. But when it comes to our marriages, we don't want to do that, do...

With this being my 200th episode, I wanted to give you a little gift. So, today I'm going to share with you 3 steps to thinking something new. Normally, I would only teach these steps to my clients, but since I want to help all of you, I want to ask you, do you have a thought running through your head that causes you to feel a negative emotion? Is it time to change it? That's what these 3 steps ca...

In this episode, I want to share with you the 4 ways to get the most out of this podcast. This is the only source of information like this for Doctor's Wives, and because you are my people, I want to help you as much as possible! In this episode, I share the 4 most downloaded episodes of my podcast. They are episode 2 , episode 85 , episode 110 , and episode 154 . Inspiration Station: Jordan Davis...

Today, I want to talk about our kids. I know that we all love our kids so much! I hear from so many of my clients and those who listen to my podcast that they are worried about their children and the choices they're making. In a perfect world of your choosing, everything would go exactly as it should, right? You and your husband would always be on the same page when parenting. You would get pregna...

Let's talk about goals today! What are your outlandish, impossible goals that you have for yourself? So, are your goals measurable? I just set a HUGE goal for my business. When I look at that goal, it scares me, but it also excites me. I will know if I meet that goal because I've made it very measureable, but if I don't meet that goal, I have decided that I am not going to beat myself up about it....

Today I want to share with you the most powerful word in the English language. It's more powerful than the word "love." It's more powerful than the word "sorry." And it can help you in your relationship with yourself, with your spouse, with your children, and with the world in general. Want to know what it is? Listen to this week's podcast to find out! Inspiration Station: The song Symphony by Ima...

We have been told a lie my friends. We have been told that there is not enough time, or money, or that we are not enough. This message is all around us. That's the scarcity mindset, that there is not enough. But in this episode, I want to talk about the sufficiency mindset. That we have enough for our needs. That we are enough. I'll share with you some ways to change your thinking from a scarcity...

Do you create hierarchies? We all do. It sounds like, people with more money are better than people with less money, but also they're worse because people with more money are greedy and people with less money are humble. Or moms who don't let their children have screen time are better than moms who do but also worse because they're not preparing their kids to live in this world that's full of tech...

In this world we live in, there are so many ways to disconnect from your body. Scrolling through Facebook, eating things that don't fuel your body, or drinking alcohol, just to name a few. But connecting to your body is a way to process the emotions you are feeling. It's a choice that you can make any time you feel a negative emotion. In this episode, I'd like to share with you an exercise to reco...

In this episode, I'm sharing with you the thoughts that make my life easier when it comes to the relationships in my life. Listen to hear what thoughts I think about my husband, my kids, and myself that make things go smoother for me in my life. If they work for you too, you can apply them to your life.    Inspiration Station: Peloton instructors Cody Rigsby @codyrigsby and Sam Yo @yoiamsamyo on i...

What is your money story? Do you tell yourself that you aren't good with money? Have you always thought that when your husband made more, you'd save more, but you just spend more instead? All of these, and more, are ways we think about money. But what if we question all of those things? In this episode, we take a look at what we're told about money and the different ways to look at it.   Inspirati...

Have you ever wondered whether you're doing something out of obligation or out of responsibility? Things like taking your kids to their basketball camp every day. Or joining your husband in his hobby. Or taking dinner to that neighbor who just had a baby. In this episode, we're going to talk about how to check your emotions and know whether you're doing this out of obligation or responsibility. An...

We as humans have a desire to grow and to evolve. It's part of our DNA. I believe it's part of our spiritual DNA - something that we inherited from our Heavenly Parents. But why do we sometimes feel resentment about our desires? Resentment feels like a powerful emotion, but is it really resentment we're feeling? Listen to this week's episode to find out what is actually lurking under the surface w...

I recently had an experience with a child that made me think about the difference between helping and fixing. Helping someone is something we do when they ask for it. Fixing is something we do to make ourselves feel better. And if you listened to last week's podcast, you'll know that control is just a way to make ourselves feel better. So, listen to this episode and find out how to notice when you...

As human beings, we crave certainty. We want to feel a sense of control because then we can feel safe. Sometimes we think that controlling other people will give us that sense of safety. "If I could just get my husband to support me more, then my life would be so much easier!" or "If I could just get my child to stop being so anxious, then I wouldn't worry so much about them and I'd feel better!"...

Do you know what mental gymnastics are? Even if you haven't heard the name before, I you might be jumping through some hoops in your marriage. Sometimes people say that it's looking on the bright side. What could be wrong with looking on the bright side of things? Well, you see, there's a difference between looking on the bright side and trying to avoid an unpleasant conversation. Listen to this e...

Do you remember when you were a little kid and you didn't want to eat your broccoli and your mom said, "There are starving children in the world so you should feel lucky to have that broccoli!" This is a form of comparative suffering. (Love to all you moms and grandmas out there!) We say to ourselves that we shouldn't be feeling this way because someone has it worse than we do. Or, even the flip s...

When we think of someone being entitled, we often think of children. But I've noticed that I sometimes feel entitled too. I feel like I shouldn't be feeling this or this shouldn't be happening. Or even this isn't fair! But maybe, just maybe, there's something you can learn from this. Entitlement is a powerful emotion but it isn't a positive one. In fact, it feels pretty icky. Listen to this episod...

Most of us believe that negative emotions mean something has gone terrible wrong. What if that's not true? Listen to this episode to find out how to use your negative emotions to your advantage. And remember, emotions are information, not emergencies.   Inspiration Station: The movie "Hoosiers" Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Has this ever happened to you? You have a great family dinner planned and your husband either calls to say he's going to be late or doesn't call at all. And you feel frustrated and angry but then you tell yourself that you shouldn't be frustrated and angry because [fill in blank]. Emotions may be caused by chemicals in your brain but that doesn't mean you can control them. In this episode, we talk...

Let's talk today about why you avoid your emotions. Now first, friends, I want to make sure you know that avoiding emotions doesn't make you bad, or weak, it makes you human. But let's get curious about why we try to avoid our emotions, what that looks like when we do, and, if we want to, how we can stop avoiding our emotions. As we see ourselves from a different angle, we can work towards taking...

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to work with a life coach? Since you're listening to this podcast, my guess is that you're at least a little intrigued. So today, I want to talk you through what it's like to work with me. And if you're more than a little intrigued by the idea of working with me, I invite you to go to www.sarapayne.com/work-with-me and sign up for a consultation call. J...

For all of you in the messy middle, I'm talking to you today. And, really, that's all of us because we are all in the middle of something, right? Have you ever woken up and just thought, "I don't want to be me today"? This episode is of you. It's easy to enjoy a hero's journey when you know it will all work out, but the middle is sometimes long and unbearable and there's no end in sight. Let me su...

This subject we're talking about today is a tender one. I know it's sensitive for a lot of us. But I also think it's important to talk about. We all struggle with body image. I don't know how you can't being a woman growing up in our current society. We are bombarded with a specific standard of what our body should look like and everything else is unacceptable. You can love your body NOW, and chan...