Rock Solid Relationships

In this episode, I want to share with you a chapter from my new book, I Did All of That for This? (available on Amazon). The chapter I share on resentment is one that I think will really resonate with many of you. You can even read it with your husband if you want--and introduce him to thought work--then it's ME telling him about a different way to think instead of YOU.  So, let's talk about resen...

Have you noticed that sometimes it's difficult to be happy for someone when something good happens to them? Why is that? I think it's because we're looking at it from a scarcity mindset - that will never happen to me - when we could be looking at it from a different perspective - now we know that it's possible! Listen to this week's episode as I talk about how to be happy when good things happen t...

As I've worked with doctor's wives over the past years, I have found that there are three common pitfalls that almost all of us fall into. Today I want to share with you one of those pitfalls. Because I've been thinking a lot about relationships lately and how important our marriage relationship is to us and our lives. And because I believe that strong medical families change the world, I want to...

I used to think that resentment was based in anger. Anger that my husband spent so much time at work. That he spent so much time with his patients. But what I've come to realize is that resentment is actually based in envy. Envy that my husband has something outside of the house that I don't. In this episode, I talk about resentment and how to look at it, get curious about it, and get over it.   ...

Safety is a prerequisite for change. If you have goals you want to accomplish or habits you want to change, this podcast is a must.  I want to share with you how to accomplish what you want to accomplish without beating yourself up. You can't hate yourself thin. You can't get yourself to wake up earlier by calling yourself a slug. These aren't ways to accomplish your goals. So in this episode I'm...

Do you ever find yourself frustrated with someone? Of course you do. We all do. We're all human. But what if you look at that thing that is frustrating you and think, Where can I find this quality in myself? How is this person just like me? It's a powerful way to look at the world. Listen to this episode to find out how to do that. Inspiration Station: Better Than Happy by Jody Moore Instagram: @s...

In this episode, I'm speaking with a fellow life coach, Mindy Neal, about how to create unity in your blended family. I don't normally have two interviews in a row, but I just couldn't wait to share this with you. Mindy talks about how she created unity in her blended family after realizing that she was drowning in pain. Now, if you're not in a blended family, don't skip over this one. There is pl...

In this episode, I talk to a former client of mine about forgiveness. She came to me after struggling with something for many years. She didn't know how to stop feeling hurt and angry at the person and what happened. She felt like this shouldn't have ever happened. She not only blamed this person who had betrayed her, but also herself for "allowing" it to happen. Through the power of coaching, she...

Would you like more unity in your marriage? Unity doesn't mean always agreeing. In this week's podcast you'll learn 5 ways to create unity in your marriage TODAY without having to agree on everything. Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

In this episode, I want to teach you how to believe that everyone is doing the best they can. I know, I know. I can hear you saying, 'Really? That guy who just cut me off in traffic and then flipped me off is doing the best he can?' Yes, yes he is. The truth is, sometimes their best really stinks. Believing people are doing the best they can will strengthen all of your relationships. And do you wa...

Ever wake up and wish you were anyone but yourself? When your brain is running on overdrive, pointing out all the things that it thinks are wrong with you? I do. If you have ever or are going through something similar, this podcast is my love letter to you. Inspiration station: This podcast was inspired by Olivia Rodrigo's song "Jealousy" and Pink's song "I'm a Hazard to Myself" Instagram: @sarapa...

I used to hate Januarys. The cold, the snow, blah blah blah. But I look at Januarys differently now. Now they're a time to look back at the past year and look forward to the new year. So let's talk about motivation to do those things that you want to change in 2022. I'll tell you a secret, motivation is highly overrated. Listen to this episode to find out what we really need to achieve our goals i...

Do you have a relationship in your life that needs a little work? In this episode, I want to share with you three relationship hacks that you can start practicing today to improve those relationships. These can definitely help your marital relationship, but they can also help with other people in your life like your friends, your parents, even people you don't know in real life. What if 2022 were...

Do you find yourself always trying to be happy? When we tell ourselves we should be happy (and we're not) it actually makes us so unhappy. What happens when we stop resisting the part of life that is hard, we suddenly feel so much better. It's so ironic. Thinking we should be happy makes us sad, and telling ourselves it's ok to be sad allows for less sadness. I wish I could insert a mind blowing e...

In the last episode, we talked about how to be a better listener, but there just wasn't enough time to cover it all so today is part 2 of how to be a better listener. We talk about why listening is so important and why it is something that we can learn. But I don't want you to beat yourself up about this. Try loving yourself instead and then you can share that love with others as you learn to be a...

Do you want to be the type of person who can talk to anyone? I have a secret for you. It's not really about talking at all, it's about listening. So, how do you become a better listener? In this episode, I share with you what I learned about listening from the book You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters by Kate Murphy. This book has changed my life and I know that it will be...

In this episode I'm talking to my good friend and master certified life coach, Candice Toone about relationships. Learn what it means to have both rupture and repair in your relationships and how the rupture can strengthen your bond when you know how to repair it. Listen in while we share the 3 things we've learned from each other about relationships, each of which can be applied to any relationsh...

In this episode, let's talk about resistance. What does it mean to be in resistance? And what does acceptance look like? Listen to this week's episode to learn how to reframe your thinking and how to get to acceptance and peace in your life.  Inspiration Station: You have to check out this New York Times article called 36 Questions that Lead to Love . These questions can help you have a deeper, mo...

We've all felt it, the mom guilt. But in this episode, let's talk about what is really behind that mom guilt you feel, how it's getting in the way of being the mom you want to be, and how you can choose to parent from a completely different perspective. Inspiration Station: New song by One Republic called Sunshine. Check it out . Music is giving me life right now. Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Fac...

I think it's time to stop giving people the same label that we give poison. Listen to this week's episode to bend your brain about "toxic" people.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

I HATE being misunderstood. It's the worst. But it doesn't have to be a terrible experience when you learn how to understand YOURSELF--it becomes easier to allow people to be wrong about you.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Let's talk about sex today, shall we? Listen in for an open, honest, vulnerable conversation with sex coach Amanda Louder and learn how to accept and even embrace your sexuality.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Most of us know that failure is part of learning and growing, but we often send mixed messages about failing to our children. Learn how to create a safe space for your children to fail so they can learn and grow.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

The only way to make lasting change is to remove judgment. Learn in this episode how to remove the layers of self-judgment so you can make the changes in your life you desire.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Whether it's parenting the kids, how often you think you should be having sex, or where you go to dinner---being on the same page as your husband is easier said than done.  This week's episode will teach you how to look at disagreeing in a completely different way that you've likely never thought of before.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching