Rock Solid Relationships

This week's episode is my love letter to women everywhere, especially you who are married to doctors. It's for you to listen to whenever you forget to remember how great you are.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Do you want a better relationship with your kids but aren't sure where to start? Maybe they're disrespectful or distant or making choices you wish they wouldn't. This week's podcast will give you concrete ways to strengthen your relationship with them no matter what they are going through.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

As women, most of us are striving to achieve balance, but we don't even know what that is. What if we are striving for something that doesn't even exist? Listen to this week's podcast as I debunk the "balance" ideal and help you consider striving for something much better instead.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Our brain likes to be efficient so it categorizes and labels and generalizes things all day. This is very useful and conserves energy, but it can be problematic, especially when it comes to people and relationships. Learn how cognitive bias is affecting your life and how you can change it.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

We are taught in school to make the honor roll. Get good grades. Don't fail. But this line of thinking keeps us from setting big goals (because we can't possibly fail!). Learn in this week's episode the secret about failure that no one taught you in school.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Most of us were taught that it is good to forgive. But how do we do it? How do we let go of the pain of the past? This week's episode will teach you the "How" of forgiveness, whether it's something that happened yesterday or 25 years ago.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Sometimes in an effort to not be arrogant, we put ourselves down and diminish ourselves. Learn in this week's episode how "overly confident" isn't a real thing and that working to develop your confidence will help you share your work with the world.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Comparing ourselves to others. We all do it. And we know it's "the thief of all joy". But it's so hard to stop. What if instead of wishing you didn't compare yourself to others, you could instead learn more about what you really want by understanding when you compare yourself to others. Learn in this week's episode just how to do that.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

If you've ever believed you aren't good at making friends or you want to have more meaningful friendships in your life, this podcast must not be missed.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Learn how mental exhaustion is contributing to your physical exhaustion and what you can do about it.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

So often we put our lives on holding waiting for something to change: for our loans to be paid off. for our kids to grow up. for our husband to appreciate us. for our body to shed those pounds.    Learn how to live NOW instead of waiting for things to change before you allow yourself to create the life you want.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Join me as I interview life coach and widow Kolette Hall as we talk about how she opens up to grief with love and compassion for herself and has taught her son to do the same.    Learn more about Kolette and her book, Messy Victories, at kolettehall.com Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

"We've always had a rocky marriage" "I've never understood my oldest child" "I've never been good with money" All of these beliefs are focused on the past. It's a terrible place to live. If you want to create a different future then you have to stop living in your past. Listen to today's podcast to find out how.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

"I should be further along" "I should just be grateful" "I should give my husband the benefit of the doubt" "I shouldn't complain about his job." "I should be more patient with my kids" The language of shame often begins with "should". Learn how to recognize it in your own life and see how it actually creates the opposite affect you are desiring. Then learn how to turn it around.  Instagram: @sara...

Selfie mode is when we focus on ourselves and all of our perceived flaws. It robs us of connection with ourselves and others.  Listen to this week's podcast to know when you are in selfie mode and how to flip your focus and view to create love and connection.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

"I'll do it tomorrow"   "I'm just not a morning person"   "It's too hard"   "One more won't matter"   All of these thoughts give us permission to give up on what we want most in favor of what we want in the moment. This podcast will teach you how to notice these thoughts and talk to your brain more than you listen.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Our brain loves to categorize things as good or bad, right or wrong, healthy or unhealthy, fair or unfair. This can be efficient but also very problematic, especially when it comes to people and relationships. Learn how to spot black or white thinking in your relationships and some questions to ask yourself when you want to get out of it.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Learn why the word "try" is so disempowering and how to speak about your goals in a different way.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Join me as I interview the calendar queen, Master Certified Life coach Lauren Cash where we discuss problematic thinking like "There's not enough time!" as well as how to stop procrastinating and create more time for the things you really value.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Do you beat yourself up when you make mistakes? Does your brain offer you a lot of negative self talk? It can feel productive and even necessary to do this, but it actually has the opposite effect on your ability to change and grow.  Listen in for how to love yourself through mistakes.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Do you get defensive when talking to your husband or other loved one? Do you want to feel more calm but don't know how to do it? This week's episode will teach you why you're defensive and how to say what you think without putting your armor up.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

If you've ever felt at the mercy of your emotions, this episode it especially for you. Learn how to narrate what you're feeling instead of reacting to it. It's a game-changer.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Ever wonder why you fly off the handle some days and lose your cool over the slightest inconvenience? There's nothing wrong with you or your life--listen to this week's podcast to find out what's going on in your brain and what to do when you throw a grownup fit.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

Have you noticed you have perfectionistic tendencies? If so, you are not alone. Listen to this week's episode to see how perfectionism might be showing up in your life and what you can do to combat it.  Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching

If you have an anxious child and you struggle with how to help them, this episode is for you.   Instagram: @sarapaynecoaching Facebook: @sarapaynecoaching