RealPositiveGirl - Weekly Encouragement & Mental Health

Change is going to happen whether we like it or not. And I don't think we have to like it when it happens, but it's important to understand the pros of change happening & the cons of change, but also how those things may be annoying, but beneficial. Show Notes: I have been that person that gets excited for change & really wants change, but also equally experiences a ton of fear a...

You can be busy because you got a lot of stuff to do, but often we will keep ourselves busy, on purpose, because we believe it serves us in some way. But let's actually get to the bottom of why you're keeping yourself so busy. Show Notes: I’m sure I’m not the first to experience this. I’m not the first to keep myself busy to feel alive and fulfilled & like I’m worth something because...

You are only limited by what you allow to limit you. There may be a few things that you can't do (right now), but mostly you can figure out a way through your limitations that doesn't involve focusing so hard on it specifically. We got 5 tips on how. Show Notes: I’m stubborn in that I get so focused on conquering what is in my way, not just because it’s in the way of what I’m trying to d...

We filter in so much on a daily basis but don't always filter out what isn't necessary. This can turn into us adopting mindsets & beliefs that aren't true for us. And I'm sharing 7 of those untrue beliefs & lies with you today. Show Notes: Because we filter in so many experiences, opinions, ideas, thoughts, all the things, we end up holding onto thoughts & beliefs t...

I know it SEEMS like other people's actions & circumstances are to blame for how we are feeling, but it's really us deciding to feel that way, not the fault of external sources. But here are 5 tips on how to start taking responsibility for your emotions. Show Notes: One of the hot topics in my house is how you get to choose how you feel. My family is sick of me bringing this up when...

Self-defeating beliefs = negative views you hold about yourself & how life happens around you.  But I want to share what these beliefs are so you can become aware of when one starts to consume you. Show Notes: It’s so easy to get in our own way. So much so, that we think we are doing the most for the best outcome, but it’s really just causing us more grief than necessary & we get in our ow...

We can't always trust our minds. We filter so much into our minds on a regular basis that isn't based in fact, but only opinions or purposeful untruths. And it's easy to get caught in this mindset. But I'm here to share a sequence of questions to ask yourself when you get caught in this way of thinking & believing. Show Notes: Not every thought that flies around in our mind...

It can be so easy to miss really great moments happening right now because we are so caught up in what we need to do for the future or what has happened in the past. Living in the present can help us slow down & allow us to be more open-minded to new & different opportunities. Show Notes: Are you often thinking about what you could have done or should have done or wish you knew in regards...

It can be helpful to give our minds rest & a reset before jumping back into our busy lives. It can also help prevent feeling overwhelmed & burnt out. Here are tips for both how to rest the mind & reset the mind. Show Notes: I would always push myself to do the absolute most with my brain because I believed it was the thing that would bring me the most respect, fulfillment & appreci...

Accepting does not mean you have to like what is happening, but you do need to move on. It can be difficult to do so when you have control issues, but here are 7 tips on how to get that acceptance. Show Notes: I want to control everything. I want to dictate what happens & when & how because it makes me more comfortable & less anxious. I want to know what is happening at all times &...

If you believe your weaknesses are preventing you from exceling in other areas of your life, then making the decision to improve upon those things can be beneficial. And I have 7 tips that will help you get started on that improvement. Show Notes: Weaknesses are things that lack strength & ability, while also being seen as a disadvantage. It’s things you aren’t as practiced, skilled or experie...

I have 10 quick things to remind you of that are perfectly acceptable to do & experience, despite what anyone else's insecurities is trying to project onto you & convince you of. Show Notes: Not that you need me to tell you what is & isn’t ok to do, but I wanted to make sure you were aware that some things that people have put shame on & said are things that are unacceptable i...

Self-esteem can determine what decisions you make, how confident you are in your abilities & your sense of belonging among others. Which is why it's important that we keep an eye on self-esteem dipping too low that will compromise those things & many other parts of our lives. Show Notes: I’m still working on building self-esteem. I think, for me, it will be something I’m working on fo...

Since seeing yourself negatively will affect your self-confidence, how comfortable you feel in life & your desire to persevere, we need to understand what is contributing to this mindset & decide what change needs to be made. Here are 5 tips to help you with that. Show Notes: Now I want to begin this by saying that I’m not here to tell you to just accept yourself as you are forever. It’s u...

There are times when we know we need to be nice but it seems like the most difficult task because we're in a mood or we're enduring negative word vomit. Here are 5 tips on how to be nice when you really don't want to but know you need to. Show  Notes: I know I’m not alone in having to force myself to be nice when I am not in the mood to do so. Whether it’s because the other person t...

You can't make anyone change unless they decide to change & take action on their own. But you can still support them when they need it & inspire them to change without forcing, manipulating or intimidating them into changing. Here are 7 ideas on how to inspire change. Show Notes: I tell you what, there have been so many times where I have wanted to change something about someone else...

Having a growth mindset doesn't mean everything is positive, it means you are open to being flexible about your growth & not letting setbacks & negativity hold you captive. Let's talk about 5 steps on how to shift your mindset from fixed to growth. Show Notes: Last episode we spoke about the differences between fixed mindset & growth mindset. It was important to me to lay out...

Let's determine if you're struggling with a fixed mindset where you think you are only capable of things that come natural to you or you are doing well in a growth mindset where you understand that life will be difficult & you can adapt. Show Notes: The whole idea behind this is that your beliefs dictate your mindset, which dictates your behaviors. If you don’t believe you are still...

It's helpful to know how to deal with stress after the fact to help you relax & reset & even what to do to prevent feeling overly stressed, but it's more important to know what to do during your stressful experience to minimize its effect & how to get past it. Here are 7 tips on how to manage it in the moment. Show Notes: Stress. It’s everyone's best friend, right? We al...

You wonder why you're tired all the time, you feel overwhelmed & are slowly lacking desire to work towards your goal but have yet to identify what could be draining your energy. Here are a few ideas on what could be keeping you down & depleting your energy. Show Notes: Sometimes it’s hard to even notice what is draining our energy if we don’t take a step back to check it out. We wonde...

We are all role models whether we like it or not, but we forget we can also be one for ourselves, too. Being a role model can keep you accountable to what you want to do & who you are becoming each & every day. Show Notes: Let me start this by saying that you DO NOT need to be positive all time. I honestly don’t believe we can be positive all the time because there are difficult things we...

Shame & guilt feel like a part of who you are as a person, but thats a lie. It just feels that way because we allow these mindsets to run the show. Here are 8 tips to work on minimizing these dominate thought patterns. Show Notes: In the previous episode we talked about the differences between guilt & shame & learned there is healthy guilt & unhealthy guilt. So naturally, I didn’t...

It's important to know the difference between guilt & shame to know what needs your attention to work through. Today we are comparing guilt & shame, while also understanding the difference between healthy & unhealthy guilt. Show Notes: Let’s talk about the difference between guilt & shame. Guilt is when you feel bad for doing something wrong or you think you did something wron...

We may think some emotions & behaviors are harmless or protecting us, but really these have us in a tight hold that we don't even realize we need to escape. These sneak up on us & control us without even knowing. Let's chat about what some of those are. Show Notes: Every now & then I like to share with you all short lists of emotions & behaviors we have already talked abo...

We have more power over our mindsets than we believe, which includes the beliefs we have that hold us back from doing things outside of our comfort zones & achieving goals. I have 5 tips on how to get past our limiting beliefs. Show Notes: I’m sure when we are thinking about what is holding us back from achieving our goals or changing our mindset or pushing through past experiences or trauma w...