RealPositiveGirl - Weekly Encouragement & Mental Health

Instead of allowing your past pains & traumas to hold you hostage & get in your way of achieving new goals & having new experiences, decide to let these pains stay in the past & not be the reason you don't move forward in life. Here are 5 tips that will help you do this. Show Notes: I wanted to bring this topic up because as we enter a new year, as important as it is to focus...

After you create your goals for the year, let me give you 5 tips on how to plan for your best year & accomplish those goals, while also being mentally flexible & open to change. Show Notes: I used to believe you had to have everything so ready to go at the top of the year for everything else to work out.  It felt like, if you didn’t know what was supposed to happen every step of the way, y...

It's easy to write down a list of things that would be NICE to accomplish and that would impress others. But wouldn't it be BETTER if you created goals you actually accomplished? Here are 5 tips on how to create better goals that are beneficial & easier to accomplish. Show Notes: I enjoy goal setting & thinking ahead on how to achieve dreams & ambitions, but a lot of the time...

Instead of getting in a fight or not sharing your opinion at all because of not knowing how to do it respectfully or with confidence, take these 5 tips on how to disagree with others with respect & still owning your opinion & perspective. Show Notes: I was sharing with my therapist this week that I am was really proud of myself for being confident in my own perspective & opinion while...

Sometimes we think we are doing the work to better our relationships but actually are creating more burdens for us to bear to not get out of having honest conversations with our people. Here are some ways we are & aren't doing the work. Show Notes: I started all of the relationships I was in as a people pleaser. This meant that I would always be catering to what their needs were, taking t...

The fear, shame, guilt & worry that can happen when we do something wrong can get in our way of admitting it sooner or finding a way to not take responsibility for it when it's actually best if we just admit it & move forward.  Show Notes: Have you ever been in a situation where you did something wrong that would affect others and were afraid to admit it was your fault? I think we hav...

We are often giving grace to others & being more open & understanding of what other people go through & struggle with. But we don't do it for ourselves. Here are 5 tips on how to be more self-accepting of who you are right now. Show Notes: Isn’t it amazing how easily we will accept other people’s flaws & problems & issues, even without explanation, and we are hyper-critica...

We spend so much time asking other people how they are, but how often are we asking OURSELVES how we are doing? Not enough. Here are some tips on how to check in with yourself. Show Notes: You know the awkward answer you sometimes give or even receive when you greet someone, there is the question of, “How are you?” and a lot times we respond with something menial like, “I’m good,” “I’m fine,” or w...

It could be fear or our ego & pride or past experiences that prevent us from asking for help, but if we are able to push past those things, we can get the help we want & need and know that we are worthy of asking for it. Show Notes: I don’t do this well AT ALL. Growing up, asking for help seemed like something weak to do or when you didn’t know how to do something, which was so embarrassin...

It's easy to get caught up in false beliefs if it's the way we grew up or were told was true, either innocently or not. But it's important to expose these & find the ones that actually help us grow & become our best selves. Show Notes: Have you ever believed something SO DEEPLY to only find out that it wasn’t actually true? The pain & betrayal of discovering something yo...

This episode is not about meal prepping or organizing or laundry prep for the week ahead. I am sharing ways more focused on mindset & emotional management to have a great week. Show Notes: I know a lot of people like to get ready for the week ahead on Sunday with meal planning & prepping, laundry, to-do lists and all kinds of things. And I think that’s great. Whatever you can do to to feel...

Just because they are family doesn't mean you have to deal with their disrespect, expectations & projected pain. Here are some tips for dealing with toxic family members. Show Notes: The moment I realized that I didn’t have to like my family was one of the best days of my life. And I know that sounds really bad & negative & whatever you may think, but I mean it when I say that no...

Sometimes we can freeze up & not know how to deal with people we don't like or that bother us. I have some tips on how to manage those interactions & make it better than it normally is. Show Notes: We are coming up on the holiday and time of year when we may be forced to spend time with people we do not enjoy. People that drive us crazy or bother us on that extra level we only reserve...

Disappointment is another emotion we need to face head-on and not just sweep under the rug. If we don't honor & try to understand it, we could fall deep into apathy & depression. Show Notes: I think one of the worst things I do is brush disappointment away too soon and not deal with it to better understand it. And that probably sounds counterintuitive to what I talk about with honorin...

It's worth it for people to become annoyed or to be all bent out of shape because you start exhibiting behaviors & mindsets that demonstrate mental & emotional growth and possibly get in the way of them taking advantage of you to make their life easier. Show Notes: As a people pleaser, annoying people is ALWAYS at the bottom of the list because it basically goes against the CODE of et...

Fulfillment isn't just being happy, it's deeper than that. It 's connected to your values & your true self. Here are some tips on how to have a more fulfilling life. Show Notes: A lot of people equate fulfillment with happiness, but it’s not a direct synonym for happiness. When you are fulfilled, you can also be happy, but there is something deeper there than just happiness. Plu...

We need to make sure we are using healthy methods of coping with our stressors & traumas and not coping mechanisms that end up making things worse in the end. Show Notes: I’ve hit rock bottom many times in life, but there was a particular time I hit rock bottom while dealing with people pleasing way too much. My whole existence, at that time, came crashing down when I revealed to my husband th...

Here is your part 2 from how to know you struggle with victim mentality to knowing what to do to stop being a victim. Living life with a victim mentality will only trap you in the life you have now & prevent any growth or change. Show Notes: It’s all you, friend. It’s all you to make those decisions & move forward with those changes. You have to be the one that makes that decision and move...

Waiting around for someone else to take care of your problems isn't going to change anything for you, isn't going to help you grow & become stronger or make your life easier. Thinking that you need someone to rescue you will only make you weaker, actually. Show Notes: When I was a child, my mother (who was as drug addict and not the parent I lived with full time) would tell me all th...

No longer feel shame or awkwardness of expressing an emotion that is something other than happiness because being angry/sad/depressed/anxious or whatever is healthy & will help you heal from your experience & understand yourself better. Show Notes: When you’re depressed or angry or really sad or any emotion that someone would label as far from happy, it can feel like you’re only choice to...

Procrastination is a waste of your time & space in your mind. It's better to find your way to the other side of whatever it is than to wait until the last possible moment & induce stress. Show Notes: If procrastination station is a real place, then I am the queen of that domain. I am a hard core procrastinator, which really feeds into my struggles with perfectionism. If you struggle w...

When we let go of something or someone it can be easy for us to immediately blame ourselves as the reason it happened. Which sometimes is true, but mostly it's just the best decision at the time. But here are 7 examples of what letting go is & isn't. Show Notes: Letting go of something or someone can be so devastating. And with the pain of letting go, your mind can be swirling with t...

Self-esteem can sometimes be seen as an umbrella for all the feelings & emotions & beliefs we have about ourselves when it's really a little more granular than that. Knowing the differences & how to build on each one separately gives you the ability for both to work together stronger. Show Notes: I wish I had known these things could be seen separately growing up because I probabl...

Feeling invisible & insignificant is soul-crushing. But there is a way out of this mindset by focusing on growing your self-awareness, leaning into vulnerability & pulling away from people-pleasing behaviors. Here are 8 tips that can help you on this journey. Show Notes: I think I have made 3 or 4 videos about this topic over the last week or so because it’s really been hitting me hard. An...

Instead of convincing yourself that you are only being a top-notch planner instead of the intense worrier that you are, come learn the differences between worrying & planning so you can call yourself when you need to. Show Notes: I am both a top-notch worrier & planner. I LOVE planning things down to the nitty gritty details, while also almost worrying myself to death because of the fear o...