RealPositiveGirl - Weekly Encouragement & Mental Health

It's not necessary to prove your worth to anyone, even yourself. Your worthiness is baked into who you are, you just have to accept it & believe it. But it can be difficult to know what behaviors to let go of, so I created a list to help! Show Notes: Self-worth is a tricky thing. It can easily be mistaken for self-esteem, which is more based on the confidence you have in your abilities, s...

If you focus on progress instead of perfection, you will see how capable you are at getting closer to accomplishing your goals, rather than allowing perfectionism convince you there is only one way to get there & only the end matters.  Here are 5 tips on how to focus on your progress, rather than trying to be perfect. Show Notes: Believe me, I do not like it when things don’t go the way I plan...

You might wonder why you developed a certain behavior or carry a specific reaction to experiences until you consider it being a manifestation of a past trauma. And it doesn't have to be only in your childhood, it can be recent past. Here are some ways trauma can show up in your life. Show Notes: When I was a child, I wished that when you went through something tough & traumatic that it wo...

I bet the person you're meant to be is more fun than the one you're pretending to be out of fear of judgment & negative opinions. It can be difficult to lean into our authentic selves, but you will feel so much freedom in being your true self. I got 5 tips that can help you be your authentic self! Show Notes: My goal for the last couple years is to be as real as possible. I have been...

Holding grudges & not forgiving others will only cause us more unnecessary pain, not make you feel empowered or in control of the situation. You are just preventing yourself from moving on & being released from the hurtful experience. Show Notes: Let’s start with talking about what forgiveness is & what it’s not. Forgiveness is a way to take your power back because by holding tight to...

Instead of leaning on external validation & people pointing out that you have grown & changed, it's important to realize that you can recognize it all on your own & celebrate yourself in that proof of growth. Here are 7 ways to know you are growing & changing. Show Notes: When I realize I have changed, I get so excited. Like genuinely, I get so excited that I am making steps i...

Life is not always filled with happy moments, but sometimes we desire to reclaim happiness to just make it through all the crap. I'm here to share some tips on how to create happiness during rough & tough times. Show Notes: Life can kind of really suck at times. It can be really rough & you just don’t know how to make it through. And everyone around you is just telling you to be happy...

We make decisions every day of our lives & sometimes it's a struggle to get through it. Not to mention the anxiety & overwhelm we can experience in the process. Making decisions can be easier if we have the right mindset & consider what actually important to know about our decision. I have 5 tips on how to make decisions easier. Show Notes: The anxiety of not making a decision is...

Have you ever asked yourself WHY you want to change or improve? Do you know if it's for the right reasons or is it for selfish reasons? Are you doing it to impress others or truly benefit yourself? I have some tips on how to lean more into being more authentic when it comes to making changes in your life. Show Notes: I think I reinvented myself like 5 times in my life, so far.  I think I am a...

Having people in your life you can trust to share your vulnerable stuff with is really important.  But sometimes we jump to trusting people too soon or don't trust at all because we don't know how to know it's safe. Here are 5 tips on how to select the right support person for you. Show Notes: It was always hard for me to find people I could trust with all my vulnerable stuff. Growi...

Creating a routine may not sound like a ton of fun, but it's so helpful in being more efficient with everything you want & need to do. It also helps you achieve your goals easier & with more focus. And let's not forget how it cuts back on stress & chaos. Show Notes: I am that person that really needs a routine to stay focused & feel accomplished during the day. I can hone...

Being misunderstood can feel lonely, but sometimes it's where we need to be to be our true selves. But there are ways to work through those feelings & even diminish some of the misunderstandings. Come listen to 5 tips on what to do when you feel misunderstood. Show Notes: As dramatic as this sounds, I have felt misunderstood my entire life. I never really felt like anyone truly got who I...

How far have your excuses gotten you so far? I'm willing to bet absolutely nowhere. Let me share with you 5 tips on how to let go of excuses & achieve your goals, even if you're scared. Show Notes: I have wasted so much of my life living in fear. Being too scared to step out in faith & belief in myself and just try something that I’m passionate about. It was always something I kn...

We spend a lot of time worrying about what others will think about the choices we make & that we aren't worthy enough of making our own choices without external validation, which creates guilt when we finally do make choices that benefit us first. But I'm here to tell you why we NO LONGER need to ever feel guilty about doing what's best for ourselves. Show Notes: I live my life...

Your attitude is everything. You believe it only affects you inside your mind & not even by much, but you're wrong. Your attitude, how you speak to yourself & out into the world creates the life you live in. There is a correlation between being negative & getting negative. Same with being positive. Let me give you some quick tips to turn that attitude around today. Show Notes: We...

We are so nice to check in on others & make sure they are doing ok, but we aren't doing that for ourselves. Why? If we took the time to evaluate how we were doing FIRST, then go & help others, we wouldn't be as run-down, burnt out & depleted as we have been. Show Notes: Have you been kind to yourself? I think you only hear this question from people that are SUPER into emotion...

We spend so much time fighting our emotions when we could understand ourselves so much better & feel confident in who we are if we just learned to accept & honor our feelings. I have 5 easy ways to start learning to accept & honor your emotions today! Show Notes: Fake it till you make is one of those phrases I used to live & die by because I never wanted to acknowledge how I was tr...

You may feel like you have to endure someone else's negativity because it's the 'nice' thing to do, but you don't. You need to know how to respond & protect yourself from negativity so it doesn't also become a problem for you, too. Show Notes: It’s those moments when we feel like we are being suffocated by someone else’s negativity that we wish we could do somethi...

Rejection doesn't define you, but it is a normal part of life. I have 5 tips on how to handle rejection in the moment & not let it crush you but cause you to see things in a different way & try again. Show Notes: For the longest time I stayed in my comfort zone because I didn’t want to deal with rejection. And that lasted a good portion of my life. I would just stay comfy in the thing...

Self-sabotaging is the art of getting in your own way & creating problems that affect your everyday life & ability to accomplish your goals.  But that doesn't provide the best quality of life so I have 5 tips on how we can stop self-sabotaging. Show Notes: I get in my own way all the time because I fear things will turn out badly. And I don’t like emotional pain. The fear, the stress,...

Why are we all trying to hide the fact that we have bad days? Everyone experiences bad days & there shouldn't be any shame in that. Let's stop shaming others for not having their whole lives be perfect all the time.  I have 4 big reasons why having a bad day is totally acceptable. Show Notes: When you have a bad day, it doesn’t matter what happened or who was involved, it just matter...

Struggling isn't failing because by not giving up on your struggle & not allowing it to hold you captive you are actually succeeding. I have 4 reasons why struggling isn't failing. Show Notes: Do you ever feel like you aren’t succeeding the same way others are? Or maybe you’ve been going through so much crap & problems lately that it feels like all you’re doing is struggling. Whe...

Not all relationships last forever. Some for a season, fewer for a lifetime. Sometimes you have to take a break to come back stronger or just end it for your better health. Show Notes:  I didn’t really understand until I was a young adult in college that relationships, platonic or romantic, didn’t have to last forever. Even family ones. Honestly, this was really good for me to discover because whi...

Talking about 'Doing the Work' sounds great, but do we actually know what that means? I'm here to share with you some tips on how we can 'Do the Work' emotionally & engage in some self-healing to become our best selves. Show Notes: Emotional healing is a ton of work. It’s exhausting, overwhelming & sometimes painful because you bring up old wounds & have to fac...

We don't think we are worthy of kindness & praise from others, so declining compliments is a natural response. But this only perpetuates the negative views we have of ourselves & insults those giving us compliments. I have 5 tips on how to better accept compliments. Show Notes: Maybe this is the same with you, but I tend to go into deflection mode when given a compliment. Someone will...