Nourishing the Mother

If you stay overfunctioning, you’re training everyone around you to underfunction. If you stay in overwhelm, you’ll stay in a fight/flight/freeze/fawn activated state, never really moving forwards. If you stay in resentment, you’ll forever blame others and never really be available for connection. So what’s the way out? We give you one step to disrupt the cycle, at each stage.  In this episode we...

The ‘perfect mother myth’ permeates our culture; it implies ‘children before mother’ and asks you to pour copious amounts of energy, money and time into your child. But what happens when this ideology is so loud it undermines or overrides your boundaries? In this episode we discuss: Key ways to check in with yourself Getting clear on whether your yes is authentic or a narrative Recognising when yo...

Nothing kills relationships faster than neglect and assumptions. So if you’re choosing this person today - why? You need to have a shared ‘eye on the prize’ (your end goal) to create the deeply fulfilling daily experience you crave. In this episode we discuss: Should’s vs agreements Undermining your relationship intimacy The pain is from the assumption, not the moment itself Expressed or implied,...

Through Julie’s share of a traumatic weekend, which started with a broken arm and ended in ICU, we discuss the beauty of our old and new coping strategies. We explore getting off the treadmill of always ‘being better’ to bring instant relief and lightness. We hope you give yourself the deepest compassion and permission from this podcast. In this podcast we discuss: - Holding deep self-compassion a...

When you’re feeling like you’re in a limbo phase with no joy, and you’re itching to get out, it’s probably time to recognise that you’ve shifted, and your boundaries need to catch up. In this episode we explore: - Boundaries with self - Boundaries with kids - Boundaries with work To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/ To...

This episode is inspired by a listener’s question on whether to have another child. We delve into her blocks, and open up the conversation on our old stories, balancing our perceptions and the potential relationship toll. In this episode we discuss: - Knowing the stories you bring to this decision - Digging deeper into ‘what’s wrong’ with your childhood - Understanding how the brain works during s...

Whether home or on holiday, practice holding yourself and your needs without coercion or contortion. We’re here to give you three easy keys to alleviate the mental load and open up spaciousness wherever you find yourself.  In this episode we discuss:  ⁃ The amplification of relationship stress and family dynamics on holiday  ⁃ Recognising conflict as different agendas based on different values  ⁃...

The people that intimate us stretch us in all the ways our soul wants us to expand into, but our nervous system needs us to parent ourselves through. The people that intimidate us open our world, our beliefs and our possibilities, so we want you to be around them more! And we’re going to tell you how. In this episode we discuss:  ⁃ Why you really DO want to be around the people that intimidate you...

Your nervous system feels frayed, and you feel like you just can’t take it anymore…every day is like a firing of that trigger, and there’s no break and no light at the end of the tunnel…listen to this! We’ll take you through three easy, tangible steps so you can change your story, so you can change your life.  In this episode we discuss:  ⁃ What does it mean to be the ‘too good’ child?   ⁃ Dispers...

You know you’re on the struggle bus when you feel like a passenger to your life, you can’t see a way out, and you’re exhausted. Now it’s time to gently give yourself permission to take a step off.  In this episode we discuss:   ⁃ Three main areas of overwhelm; family finances, parenting and mental load inequality in relationships   ⁃ Flipping your debt into service  ⁃ Having a bigger plan versus i...

We give up pieces of ourselves for other’s comfort and for our sense of belonging. What happens when you realise your way of belonging to the world is now keeping you small? How do we drop the addiction to being liked so we’re fully free to live our authentic selves. In this episode we discuss: Holding yourself without persona, perfection, protection or projection Consciously stepping forwards int...

Rather than empty platitudes we ground you in three easy steps on how to stop ‘I’m not enough’ in its tracks. In this episode we discuss: Remembering what it feels like when you’re connected to *you* so you can always return there Moving beyond a lack mindset that keeps you stuck Sinking into the belief that challenge isn’t without fruit Seeing that comparison creates infatuation Taking the thing...

Your body takes the shape of what reality you’re believing, so the question is, what is the story you’re telling yourself in any given moment? In this episode we centre what you can do when you have what you perceive is a ‘toxic mother’, and how to avoid to avoid making your imprint your parenting. In this episode we discuss: The destabilising effect of trauma in the nervous system What it takes t...

We’re all about creating permission on how we can be more ‘us’ alongside seeing, honouring and allowing our whole child in front of us. In this episode we take you through the four steps to really giving yourself permission to be fully lit and inspired as you mother. In this episode we discuss: What is your lineage and your lens? Response-ability is shaped by where you come from Feeling swallowed...

In this episode we give you the three-step how-to that gives you spaciousness in motherhood that doesn’t feel like you’re gripping, controlling and hanging on. Let’s create some ease, flow, fulfilment and feel-good vibes! In this episode we discuss: Offering yourself the same love and compassion that you offer your children Stop creating resentment cycles Moving your motherhood beyond servitude Le...

The tips you need to know to create a family holiday that feels like connection and joy, and leaves you feeling replenished. Instead of assuming you’ll have a great time, because it looks the Instagram picture, but it feels like resentment and overwhelm.  In this episode we discuss: - Becoming attached to the experience your child has - The expectation on everyone to have a good time because you’v...

This time of year brings with it a looming mental load of pressure and responsibility, particularly on mums. So we’d like to help you make going back to school as easy and effortless as possible.  In this episode we discuss:  - Getting the gear sorted so there’s no last minute angst - Reducing nervous system stress-load - Relieving mental load  - Always asking “How could this be more easeful?” - S...

This time of year, the headlines are fever-pitch on all the ways you can improve yourself. What if you just chose to exit that system and hustle culture and said ‘F*ck that! I’m going to go my own way’ In this episode we discuss: - There’s no wagon to fall off if you don’t create a wagon - Cultivating deep appreciation for yourself, versus running shame and guilt - Remembering you are enough, alwa...

To set your 2023 year up right, and use your manifesting magic, let’s co-create with potency and clear direction. Grab your pen and paper, follow along and let’s get you set up. In this episode we discuss: Reconciling your 2022 to glean the wisdom Rating each area of life on a ‘health’ scale Reviewing each area for fulfilment or dissatisfaction Being ruthless in your review of what you are spendin...

How do you know when motherhood has become a little toxic, enmeshed and smothering, and is now preventing yours and your child’s future growth? It begins with breaking the fantasy of the fully supportive mother and pulling out of the pit the imperfect, challenging mother. The challenging mother inoculates your child from life-long subordination - so how about we love her? The lean-back skillset is...

One of the biggest fizzers of passion and attraction in long term relationship is the dying of flirtation and play, and the beige, insidious sense of apathy that ‘this is how it is now’. So let’s breathe back life into our love, romance and connection. In this episode we discuss: Quit hustling for who has it worse Stop making it all about you The feminine archetype as the ferocious destroyer and t...

Ever feel like you’re the peace-keeper at Christmas? Or just ‘going through the motions’ but it doesn’t feel right? In this episode we give you your power back so you can move beyond the ‘good descendent’ and into the ancestor your children need.  In this episode we discuss:  ⁃ ‘Keeping the peace’ assumes a win:lose  ⁃ Minimising your own needs and desires in service to someone outside of you  ⁃ P...

We centre Julie’s honest and open experience post-surgery but please insert ‘hysterectomy’ or ‘big life change’ that transforms your identity. In this podcast we discuss the two areas of any big life change - what you can prepare for, and what you’ll be asked to surrender to.  In this episode we discuss:  ⁃ rites of passage in women’s lives  ⁃ active health care  ⁃ advocating for yourself and your...

Your Christmas experience can be defined by what you filter, plug into and consume - so let’s be conscious about what you’re reaffirming. In this podcast we dissect what has you feeling constricted vs heart-aligned in the festive season, and how to compassionately distill down who is in the driver’s seat of your life. In this episode we discuss:   ⁃ Bringing your unconscious, conscious  ⁃ The stor...

Following on from last week’s episode, we give you three super-tangible steps to break free of the resentment cage. In this episode we discuss: ⁃ Seeing what it’s costing you to hold firm on the belief systems you already have ⁃ Understanding that your children ‘set you up’ to feel as they do - and can you apply this as a universal principle to those you’re in resentment of ⁃ Our resentment dynami...