Lola Phoenix

Non-Monogamy Help

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Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.

Author

Lola Phoenix

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Society

Podcast website

nonmonogamyhelp.com

Latest episode

Jul 3, 2026

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Episodes

Episode 86 - No Exes as Friends 08.07.2022

Your new partner demands, during a period of grief, that you stop being friends with an ex and now might not be the best time to push back on the ultimatum. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong a...

Episode 85 - Insecurity and Comparisons 24.06.2022

You want to be non-monogamous but you can’t stop feeling a way about your partner commenting or liking pictures of others. How do you deal? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com !...

Episode 84 - Disclosure and Outing 10.06.2022

You’re in a not so open minded city. How do you tell people you want to date that you’re currently in a polyamorous or open relationship? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Em...

Episode 83 - Recycled Dates 27.05.2022

What happens when you’re trying non-monogamy for the first time, but you and your partner can’t come to an agreement on things like not going to the same places they’ve taken a metamour? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and t...

Episode 82 - Dating Metamours 13.05.2022

When your shared partner is making you both feel like you’re a triad when you’ve never agreed to that… it can get a little awkward. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email no...

Episode 81 - Just FOMO 29.04.2022

Thinking about the things you might be missing out on doesn’t, in fact, make you a jerk. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.

Episode 80 - Trying to Convince 08.04.2022

If you’re trying to convince your partner to be polyamorous, you may not be able to “fix” them wanting monogamy. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail...

Episode 79 - Outside Veto 01.04.2022

This week's episode is about what happens when a mutual friend is unhappy with the relationship building happening between you and someone else. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.

Episode 78 - Not Good Enough 11.03.2022

Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.c...

Episode 77 - Making the Leap 25.02.2022

If non-monogamy is a no go, should you say goodbye to a five year relationship on a hunch? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your questi...

Episode 76 - No Way Out 11.02.2022

If you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.co...

Episode 75 - Overreacting 28.01.2022

Your short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How do you deal? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonmon...

Episode 74 - Dating Family 14.01.2022

In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com !...

Episode 73 - Caveat Emptor 01.01.2022

It’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice?

Episode 72 - Problematic Pedestal 17.12.2021

When you put one partner on a pedestal, it can cause a lot of constant anxiety. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help.

Episode 71 - Feelings and Friends 03.12.2021

We create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules we make don’t actually change anything.

Episode 70 - Half Ghosting 12.11.2021

What happens when your mutual partner ghosts you, but not your partner? Rejection sucks, but this feels a bit different. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What happens when your partner and your best friend don’t get along?

Episode 69 - Self-Sacrificing Too Much 29.10.2021

If you’ve given a partner 10 years in monogamy, but they expect you to be happy and feel compersion after deciding to be polyamorous, you might be self-sacrificing  a little too much.  That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What’s one major way your values have changed in the last 10 years?

Episode 68 - Mismatched Ideals 15.10.2021

If your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is your ideal polyamory or non-monogamy set-up?

Episode 67 - Temporary Monogamy 01.10.2021

Can an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? Discussion Topic - What have you changed your mind about in terms of how you want to live your life?

Episode 66 - Hidden Metamour 17.09.2021

Even if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. Discussion Topic - What is a non-monogamous setup that wouldn’t work for you?

Episode 65 - No Longer Primary 03.09.2021

How do you force yourself out of apathy if you feel the partner you want to settle down with is slipping away? Discussion Topic - How has your ideal lifestyle changed over time?

Episode 64 - What Rules to Have 20.08.2021

Will the rules you want to put in place prevent what you think they will prevent? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

Episode 63 - Visualising Your Partner 06.08.2021

What if you can’t see your partner with someone else in your head without feeling terrible? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

Episode 62 - More Metamour Toxicity 23.07.2021

Your partner’s partner’s partner doesn’t seem like they’re good for your metamour, but what can you actually do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with yo...

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