Lola Phoenix

Non-Monogamy Help

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Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.

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Author

Lola Phoenix

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Society

Podcast website

nonmonogamyhelp.com

Latest episode

Oct 30, 2026

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Episodes

Episode 119 - Brutal Honesty 03.11.2023

Your partner outright tells you that they plan on prioritising someone over you. It’s harsh but is it what should happen? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠on my website⁠ . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  ⁠albery-jones.com⁠  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  ⁠domduong.com⁠ ! Email  ⁠as...

Episode 118 - Don't Ask, Don't Tell 20.10.2023

When you agree to a DADT relationship with a closeted partner but it’s not moving fast enough into a more polyamorous relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email ...

Episode 117 - Metamour Management 06.10.2023

Sometimes knowing way too much about your partner’s relationship with their metamour can seriously impact your relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@no...

Episode 116 - Authentically Polyamorous 22.09.2023

Telling the difference between a couple of bad dates and polyamory just not being for you can sometimes be difficult. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@nonmonoga...

Episode 115 - Compersion Required 08.09.2023

Is it unethical or wrong to not want to date someone who doesn’t feel compersion? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com  with your question.

Episode 114 - Creeping Paranoia 25.08.2023

A partner who reacts to a little bit of paranoia by accusing you of calling them a liar isn’t the best sign of moving forward in conflict in a relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong...

Episode 113 - Slowly Losing Time 11.08.2023

You’re slowly and slowly losing the time you have with a metamour and you’re not quite sure how to navigate their boundaries around their time. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong....

Episode 112 - Happiness Is An Inside Job 28.07.2023

Staying with someone to make them happy may not be what you think it should be. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com  with your question.

Episode 111 - Friend Without Benefits 14.07.2023

A friends with benefits situation that seems like it might go into something more because your FWB complains about their partner may seem ideal but it’s actually not. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by...

Episode 110 - Live Q&A #1 23.06.2023

I hosted my first Live Q&A on Instagram and got a lot of interesting questions. If you missed it, check it out here and be sure to follow @NonMonogamyHelp. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duo...

Episode 109 - Wanting More Time 09.06.2023

Is the drive to go out and get another partner to “balance” things out just childish? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com  with your question.

Episode 108 - Gendered Energies 26.05.2023

There’s a lot behind being worried about being judged as a thruple but also wanting masculine energy for an upcoming child. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@non...

Episode 107 - When To End It 12.05.2023

If you’re not sure whether or not to stay together but you want to stay together for the children, is that a possibility in polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Ema...

Episode 106 - The Third Wheel 28.04.2023

Dating two people who have a history together is going to trigger some anxiety within you. Maybe you’re not jealous — you’re just normal. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com !...

Episode 105 - Becoming Monogamous 14.04.2023

Therapy can’t make someone monogamous who doesn’t want to be and it can’t make someone non-monogamous who doesn’t want to be. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@n...

Episode 104 - Primal Panic 31.03.2023

This letter encapsulates why I feel like attachment labels can be extremely unhelpful for people who experience anxiety during polyamory. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com !...

Episode 103 - Rose Tinted Glasses 17.03.2023

Picking polyamory because you don’t politically agree with monogamy doesn’t necessarily mean that you won’t experience any negative emotions. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email as...

Episode 102 - Clear Communication 03.03.2023

Polyamory won’t solve an issue where you don’t believe people when they tell you they are interested in you and this podcast explains why. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@n...

Episode 101 - Reconciliation or Retribution 17.02.2023

Your new non-monogamous relationship has begun from cheating — and your partner wants to keep dating the person they cheated with. How do you rebuild trust from that? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong a...

Episode 100 - Monogamy Is Not A Belief 27.01.2023

You can ask yourself if monogamous people can “change” or you can ask yourself why you keep choosing to expect monogamous people will change for you. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com !...

Episode 99 - Long Distance Jealousy 13.01.2023

It’s hard when you’re in a long distance relationship and someone else gets to be with your partner when you can’t. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with...

Episode 98 - Mixed Signals is a Signal 30.12.2022

Learn how to step away from not only mixed signals but also from managing your partner’s other relationships. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your...

Episode 97 - When to Say When 16.12.2022

Non-monogamy is *not* about building a series of unfulfilling relationships until you reach a permissible stasis. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with y...

Episode 96 - Needing Distance After Dates 02.12.2022

Your partner comes home from a date and needs reassurance, but you can’t give it in that moment. Is this something to overcome? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyh...

Episode 95 - Secretly Non-Monogamous 18.11.2022

If you’re not sure if you’re really non-monogamous or not, how do you label yourself on dating sites to make sure you’re not doing something wrong? Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

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