Lola Phoenix

Non-Monogamy Help

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Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.

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Lola Phoenix

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Society

Podcast website

nonmonogamyhelp.com

Latest episode

Jul 3, 2026

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Episodes

Episode 111 - Friend Without Benefits 14.07.2023

A friends with benefits situation that seems like it might go into something more because your FWB complains about their partner may seem ideal but it’s actually not. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by...

Episode 110 - Live Q&A #1 23.06.2023

I hosted my first Live Q&A on Instagram and got a lot of interesting questions. If you missed it, check it out here and be sure to follow @NonMonogamyHelp. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duo...

Episode 109 - Wanting More Time 09.06.2023

Is the drive to go out and get another partner to “balance” things out just childish? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com  with your question.

Episode 108 - Gendered Energies 26.05.2023

There’s a lot behind being worried about being judged as a thruple but also wanting masculine energy for an upcoming child. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@non...

Episode 107 - When To End It 12.05.2023

If you’re not sure whether or not to stay together but you want to stay together for the children, is that a possibility in polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Ema...

Episode 106 - The Third Wheel 28.04.2023

Dating two people who have a history together is going to trigger some anxiety within you. Maybe you’re not jealous — you’re just normal. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com !...

Episode 105 - Becoming Monogamous 14.04.2023

Therapy can’t make someone monogamous who doesn’t want to be and it can’t make someone non-monogamous who doesn’t want to be. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@n...

Episode 104 - Primal Panic 31.03.2023

This letter encapsulates why I feel like attachment labels can be extremely unhelpful for people who experience anxiety during polyamory. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com !...

Episode 103 - Rose Tinted Glasses 17.03.2023

Picking polyamory because you don’t politically agree with monogamy doesn’t necessarily mean that you won’t experience any negative emotions. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email as...

Episode 102 - Clear Communication 03.03.2023

Polyamory won’t solve an issue where you don’t believe people when they tell you they are interested in you and this podcast explains why. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@n...

Episode 101 - Reconciliation or Retribution 17.02.2023

Your new non-monogamous relationship has begun from cheating — and your partner wants to keep dating the person they cheated with. How do you rebuild trust from that? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong a...

Episode 100 - Monogamy Is Not A Belief 27.01.2023

You can ask yourself if monogamous people can “change” or you can ask yourself why you keep choosing to expect monogamous people will change for you. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com !...

Episode 99 - Long Distance Jealousy 13.01.2023

It’s hard when you’re in a long distance relationship and someone else gets to be with your partner when you can’t. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with...

Episode 98 - Mixed Signals is a Signal 30.12.2022

Learn how to step away from not only mixed signals but also from managing your partner’s other relationships. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your...

Episode 97 - When to Say When 16.12.2022

Non-monogamy is *not* about building a series of unfulfilling relationships until you reach a permissible stasis. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with y...

Episode 96 - Needing Distance After Dates 02.12.2022

Your partner comes home from a date and needs reassurance, but you can’t give it in that moment. Is this something to overcome? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyh...

Episode 95 - Secretly Non-Monogamous 18.11.2022

If you’re not sure if you’re really non-monogamous or not, how do you label yourself on dating sites to make sure you’re not doing something wrong? Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

Episode 94 - Clashing Triggers 04.11.2022

It triggers you to open the relationship but it triggers your partner to close it. Is there any way to solve it? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail...

Episode 93 - Meeting Metamours 21.10.2022

A metamour not wanting to meet you is not always a sign of insecurity or jealousy but demanding to meet and be friends with a metamour might actually be about insecurity. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made...

Episode 92 - Unclear Boundaries 07.10.2022

Sometimes people are jerks and sometimes experiences help us learn when we can also step away. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your que...

Episode 91 - Hierarchies and Ethics 23.09.2022

Some people think having a “primary” partner is always an unethical decision but isn’t prioritising a long term marriage logical? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonm...

Episode 90 - Breakup News 02.09.2022

Mentioning that you’re going through a breakup is not an expectation of emotional support to new partners, friends or anyone else. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email non...

Episode 89 - Mismatched Drives 19.08.2022

Will opening a relationship help if one partner expects spontaneous sex but the other is dealing with a stressful job and anxiety medication? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com...

Episode 88 - One Rule to Rule Them All 05.08.2022

Sometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.

Episode 87 - Showering Rules 15.07.2022

When having strict rules makes you feel controlled, coming to a compromise with a partner who wants a specific thing can seem impossible. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com ! Em...

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