Lola Phoenix

Non-Monogamy Help

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Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.

Author

Lola Phoenix

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Society

Podcast website

nonmonogamyhelp.com

Latest episode

Jul 3, 2026

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Episodes

Episode 135 - Long Distance Avoidance 28.06.2024

You’ve done all the studying but still can’t shake the negative feelings when your partner dates others and you think you may be monogamous by nature. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterh...

Episode 134 - Polyamory and Trauma 14.06.2024

Seeing yourself as “traumatised” may actually be causing yourself more stress and difficulty than if you allowed yourself the permission to feel. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/...

Episode 133 - Pressure to Open 31.05.2024

Coming at a crossroads in your relationship with compatibility can make you feel a pressure to open your relationship, but rethinking that might help. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.co...

Episode 132 - Mind Reading 17.05.2024

If you feel too uncomfortable to ask for what you want from your partner then holding resentment towards them for not meeting your needs may not be fair. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.co...

Episode 131 - Cheating Introduction 03.05.2024

Can you move from cheating to a “successful” polyamorous relationship and what needs to happen? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  ⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠⁠⁠  for 10% off your first month. Music for...

Episode 130 - Deprioritised 12.04.2024

If you know you’re being deprioritised and you just feel you can’t leave, can you actually make it work. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  ⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠⁠  for 10% off your first month. Musi...

Episode 129 - Struggling to Be Together 29.03.2024

You can’t live your life only making decisions based on what will or won’t disappoint other adults. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  ⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠  for 10% off your first month. Music for thi...

Non-Monogamy Help Trailer 22.03.2024

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Episode 128 - Stopping Emotions 08.03.2024

Is there really a way to stop your emotions in their tracks or fully control them especially if you’re in a difficult housing situation? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp  for 10% of...

Episode 127 - Polyamory for Straight Dudes 01.03.2024

Giving my best recap of what straight men might face when it comes to the lifestyle of polyamory. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  ⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠  for 10% off your first month. Music for this podc...

Episode 126 - Living With Partners 16.02.2024

Living with people is already hard but living with a new partner and a metamour you don’t have a connection with can add to the challenge. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  ⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠  for...

Episode 125 - De-escalating from Polyamory 02.02.2024

Is there a way to do polyamory without doing polyamory or de-escalate when you figure out that polyamory is not for you? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at  ⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠  for 10% off your first...

Episode 124 - Reasonable Boundaries 21.01.2024

Knowing what boundaries are “reasonable” and which aren’t can be complicated in polyamory, especially when difficult feelings are involved. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and the art was made by Dom...

Episode 123 - Keeping Things Equal 13.01.2024

How do you keep things equal between your partners especially when it comes to introducing them to family? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠domduong.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ! E...

Episode 122 - Jealousy vs. Envy 22.12.2023

Sometimes long distance is difficult and the emotions it makes you feel aren’t always jealousy. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  ⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  ⁠⁠⁠⁠domduong.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ ! Email  ⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@non...

Episode 121 - Q&A 08.12.2023

I asked on my Instagram @NonMonogamyHelp for people to submit questions they had. Here's the result! That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠ . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  ⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  ⁠⁠⁠domduong.com⁠⁠⁠ ! Email  ⁠⁠⁠ask@n...

Episode 120 - Forced Primary 17.11.2023

You’ve been happy as a secondary but slowly your partner is requesting more and more time after a recent breakup. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠ . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  ⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  ⁠⁠domduong.com⁠⁠ ! Email  ⁠⁠ask...

Episode 119 - Brutal Honesty 03.11.2023

Your partner outright tells you that they plan on prioritising someone over you. It’s harsh but is it what should happen? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  ⁠on my website⁠ . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  ⁠albery-jones.com⁠  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  ⁠domduong.com⁠ ! Email  ⁠as...

Episode 118 - Don't Ask, Don't Tell 20.10.2023

When you agree to a DADT relationship with a closeted partner but it’s not moving fast enough into a more polyamorous relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email ...

Episode 117 - Metamour Management 06.10.2023

Sometimes knowing way too much about your partner’s relationship with their metamour can seriously impact your relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@no...

Episode 116 - Authentically Polyamorous 22.09.2023

Telling the difference between a couple of bad dates and polyamory just not being for you can sometimes be difficult. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@nonmonoga...

Episode 115 - Compersion Required 08.09.2023

Is it unethical or wrong to not want to date someone who doesn’t feel compersion? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com  with your question.

Episode 114 - Creeping Paranoia 25.08.2023

A partner who reacts to a little bit of paranoia by accusing you of calling them a liar isn’t the best sign of moving forward in conflict in a relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong...

Episode 113 - Slowly Losing Time 11.08.2023

You’re slowly and slowly losing the time you have with a metamour and you’re not quite sure how to navigate their boundaries around their time. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong....

Episode 112 - Happiness Is An Inside Job 28.07.2023

Staying with someone to make them happy may not be what you think it should be. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode  on my website . Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at  albery-jones.com  and the art was made by Dom Duong at  domduong.com ! Email  ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com  with your question.

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