N.A.R.C. Troopers: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Collaborators

While there are distinguishing features that separate the narcissist from the psychopath, there are many overlapping common traits much like in a Venn Diagram. Not all people with narcissistic personality disorder are psychopaths,; however, all psychopaths are narcissists. The person with NPD is made while the psychopath is born that way. Let's take a look at how many share a blended pathology tha...

As Survivor Tina came to terms with narcissism and realized the abuse she was enduring, she was finally able to leave the relationship. Healing for Tina has turned into a passion to create jewelry for Survivors. “11:11, Messages of Hope from Angels” is a non-profit endeavor whereby Tina helps a Survivor design a piece of jewelry specific to their path of healing and then finds an Angel Sponsor to...

Today, we have a little fun with the comparison of a sea creature who can amputate parts of their own body and re-generate a new improved version in its place. I expressed my desire to possess the same skill in suffering the disease and contaminated parts of myself that have been devoured by the narcissist or sociopath, and replacing it with a whole and healthy new version of myself. Wishful think...

The condition of being naked is a powerful and complex idea. Metaphorically it can mean a sense of vulnerability or honesty. On another level it can create humiliation, embarrassment, and the kind of vulnerability that makes us powerless. The idea of being naked in relationship terms with a cluster B disordered Narcissist or Psychopath is a phenomena unlike any other.

Forgiveness is a tricky thing. It is complicated, and for a time, it may be completely out of reach. Can we hold people responsible for their sins against us and others if they are mentally dysregulated and impaired? Should we simply pity them? What can we do to be at peace with what has happenned? So many questions and no perfect answers or absolutes. 

What happens when sweetness turns out to be poison? Sweetness is a highly valued quality in our world, and the narcopath has adapted, assimilated, and learned how to be sweet as cherry pie with ice cream on top. After a brief digression about assigning labels, the value of sweetness is examined and the qualities that are truly important are identified:  moral virtue, loyalty, steadfastness, h...

Learned helplessness paralyzes recovery after abuse from a Cluster B partner. It is a dynamic that happens slowly over the course of a relationship with a narcopath that is a total erosion of your ability to be a self-actualized, whole, and complete individual. You come to depend on the narcopath for all cues and behaviors and responses. You depend on them to be the only source of your existence a...

The narcissist psychopath is a murderer, and more importantly, they have already murdered themselves. The only way you can be free is to ceremoniously "kill" them (not literally in real life). One good kill deserves another. And by putting them in their rightful place, you can carry on as the widow (er) you actually are.

The narcopath uses sex to get supply (fuel) and to control. They do not see you as a human being but as an object and as a way to get what they need. They may appear charming and kind and polite depending on what type of narcissist they may be and the degree of sociopathy or psychopathy which is present, but it is all a false persona. The real person who is rockin' your world is dead inside. So co...

Childhood trauma can create a toxic script and faulty programming that follow that child forever. We tend to reconstruct dynamics in adulthood that mimic the ones we had as children. Let’s take a look at the three different categories of personality disorders and how each of them have reacted in a maladaptive, dysfunctional way to their childhood wounding.

Disordered individuals with Cluster B disorders like narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), anti-social personality disorder (sociopaths), psychopaths, and borderlines (BPD) all have overlapping characteristics that define their illness and serve as red flags to mark their mental impairment. If you are involved with one of them, I am sure you have witnessed these 4 manipulations. If you are just...

When recovering from narcissistic (or sociopathic/psychopathic) abuse, it is important at some point to turn away from the dysregulated partner and turn inward to heal and become whole. A critical part of that healing comes from work done with the wounded, injured child within. It may seem like an insurmountable task, but it is a necessary one. Give her(him) space and time to tell you what they ne...

Why are you must die for them. A partnership with a personality disordered narcissist always has an expiration date. The only way that it can end is with your death, either metaphorically or literally. We will discuss the dead mother syndrome and the reasons why the narcissist must demand this sacrifice.

What are the three things that all narcissists )NPD) and sociopaths (ASPD) MUST have in order to survive? 1. Fuel 2. {erks & Benefits 3. Character Traits

When we understand the insatiable hunger within, we can achieve wholeness. When we befriend our inner child and nourish him/her, we can achieve healing. Abuse from a disordered partner with a Cluster B disorder (narcissism, sociopathy, psychopathy) wll create a trauma induced reaction that can only be addressed by self-partnering and learning to parent our own inner child.

There are many reasons why establishing a successful no contact regime following trauma from a relationship with a narcissist or sociopath, but it is one of the single most important things t implement if you want to get free and recover. We talk about ways to achieve success and how to self-partner for wholeness and healing. Follow me: www.pesqueda.medium.com Join us on January 9th 1:00-3:00 for...

Teahna is my guest today as we discuss the different parts of the person that must heal after the trauma and grief following abuse from a relationship with a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath. Mental health is only one component. Restoring the energetic body is another facet of recovery that cannot be ignored.  Join us on January 9, 2021, from  1:00-3:00 for "A Warrior's Path to Whole...

The narcopath always wears an elaborate and well-constructed mask, yet like Darth Vader, there is nothing with a shriveled, quivering, gelatinous pile of goo at the core--destroyed long ago by the ones who were supposed to love and protect but could not or would not. What do we have to do to break free of this nightmare? Look behind the mask, accept the truth, and let it go.

Contempt is a primary feature in the narcissistic cycle of abuse. The disordered individual must demonize and shift the blame to their partner so they can play the victim and walk away with their good-guy image intact. They actually believe in their own revisionist history and altered reality. Because they do not have object constancy, their significant source of fuel intimate partner is either pa...

This is how the world ends with a narcissistic sociopath. It comes out of nowhere. You don't know what hit you. And the contempt, hatred, and murderous cruelty are unbelievable. You did nothing wrong, yet they demonize you in the worst ways imaginable, then they often ghost you and disappear like magic. 

Following abuse from a person with a personality disorder like the narcissist or sociopath, the abuse often continues. Whether you escaped or they discarded you, there are ways that you continue to be abused. There is only one way to stop the madness.

NLP is a type of clever conditioning often used by the personality disordered cadre of dysregulated individuals.

The somatic narcissist weaponizes his body, and sex addiction often manifests as comorbidity. It is a dangerous duo, as deadly as taking your partner by the hand and tumbling headfirst into the Grand Canyon.

The Narcopath believes that if they are happy, the whole world should sing along.

The narcopath manufactures a false self in order to survive unbearable trauma and abuse in their early years, and they also create a false belief that they are their own God as they worship their own ego and their own delusions in their alternate universe where they dwell.