N.A.R.C. Troopers: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Collaborators

St. Augustine was saved by his mother Monica who wept for him as she petitioned God. In my marriage, we both wept at different times for different reasons, but my prayers went unanswered. Here is a look at why that may be the case with people with NPD.

In the time after the relationship with a person with NPD, the key to a full recovery and restoration of your agency and power is to retrieve who you were before the narcissist entered your life. Do you remember that person? You had an identity. You have a "self." There was life before and there will be life after. 

The end of a relationship with a narcissist is in no way a regular, typical experience. It involves the whole body, mind, soul energy, identity, neurobiology and even the cellular function of the discarded partner. Understanding the nature of the addiction and the different types of addicts is important to the recovery journey. Let's dive in!

Let's have a little quirky fun that might be amusing. What movie most resembles your life? For me, it's the Wizard of Oz. I've been trapped in that darn place most of my life and forced to deal with a host of wild characters and scary monkeys. Let's take a look!

These two tactics go together like chicken and biscuits. You can't successfully have one without the other. The goal is to get to the place of IDGAF while practicing No Contact. This powerful strategy will help you get "rinse that man right outta my hair." Okay, that is a line from a shampoo commercial from the 70's that most of you were not even born yet to see. Seriously, forgive yourself if you...

What makes people mentally ill? Are they born that way? Created by trauma? Part of family dysfunction?  It is common knowledge that a malignant narcissist of any stripe and a true primary or secondary psychopath can never be cured.  It is a terminal diagnosis.

Today's podcast runs a little long but is a deep dive into the reasons behind the narcissist partner wanting you dead at the end of the relationship. Their contempt and hatred can be traced back to a few fundamental reasons: faulty splitting and injury, mortification, & collapse. So slip into something comfy and grab some yummy snacks and let's have a little look at what is going on!

Following narcissistic abuse, it is common for the discarded partner to feel in a Normas sense of loss and despair. The complete annihilation of their identity, the abrupt re-entry into reality from the shared psychotic fantasy, the Nuro chemical dysregulation in the brain, the cognitive dissonance and shock that the abruptness and cruelty of the discard… All of these things compound recovery and...

If you are coming out of a relationship with a narcissist, you are NOT okay. In fact, you are probably in worse shape than you can imagine. You have been ravaged physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, energetically, and in every way imaginable. The road to recovery is difficult, but it can be done! Roll up your sleeves, dig deep for determination and some pluckiness, grow your resilience,...

Why are we so destroyed after a relationship with a narcissist? There are many, many reasons, but today, we will look at the top reasons why we are shattered and unable to get off the ground.

Welcome to Season 5! The world is in trouble. How do narcissism, sociopathy, and psychopathy inform the new crises that threaten our very existence? We are distracted and have fallen victim to social media and political campaigns, and dark agendas that keep us unaware and too overwhelmed and distracted to do anything about it. The current state of being "woke" is not enough. We must be "woked and...

In efforts to create a new, gentler language that reflects rehabbed ideas about inclusivity, we take a look at what it means to be neurodivergent. Last episode of season 4.

Our furry little rodent friends teach us quite a bit about narcissists. Let's scurry on over to a comfy spot with a nice piece of cheese and learn some valuable things from the RAT.

The Covid virus has quite a bit in common with your narcissist. They are both potentially deadly, difficult to accept, even harder to recover completely, and will change your life. We must be strong and summon the courage and determination to get past all of these challenges because there is happiness on the other side.

Let's begin with contact info. 1. narctroopers.com 2. Narc2Thrive@gmail.com Today, we talk about how little the world at large understands what has happened in the aftermath of a relationship with a person with narcissistic personality disorder. So much misunderstanding, misinformation, cluelessness. NPD is growing, and we all need to understand it. Spread the word!

The moral fabric of our world has not simply been torn, it has been ripped to shreds and turned into party confetti for hedonistic revelers to fornicate upon. The narcissism that runs rampant in a world gorged on porn and fat on promiscuity is rampant and growing exponentially. Forever love between two committed partners is quickly becoming obsolete. If you think it's just a moral choice, you're w...

2021 is rapidly ending and with it a tough and scary year. But as 2022 opens up and things look increasingly uncertain, we all need to buckle up and dig in to fortify ourselves for the work ahead. With that being said, the work we do to extricate ourselves from our narcissist is the work we must do first before we can help others. Like putting on the oxygen mask first in a plane or putting on an a...

Narcissists are predators in every sense of the word, and while there are many types of predators out there, the one that resonates with me the most is the spider. There are so many similarities in the way they seduce, trap, paralyze, then devour that it is a chilling image indeed. If you're having trouble letting go, try this aversion therapy idea and picture them as a giant spider.

People with NPD are history revisionists. They rewrite the past to fit their narrative and completely erase you as if you never existed. This complete annihilation of you and your whole time together is the worst infliction of dehumanizing anguish, existential crisis, and identity destruction that exists. It's as if they have denied your existence on every level and you no longer exist. You are in...

Following the relationship with a person with MPD, a feeling of closure is some thing that everyone wants but a few people get. Closure is some thing that you will have to give to yourself because the narcissist will not allow you to have it. Without this feeling of acceptance and resolution, healing and recovery may sputter to a stop. That is why it is so important that we learn how to achieve it...

New brain science and neurobiology have found revolutionary conclusions about what happens to the victim of narcissistic abuse. They have discovered that the brain is synced with the narcissist and little memory or control happens after that. It's like being abducted by aliens or slipping into a coma. That time is lost. Gone. And it's like you just vanished and left everyone behind. It's time to t...

People will not understand why you stayed. But it is not what they think. There are so many complex reasons we stayed with the partner with NPD. We did not choose it. Something greater than ourselves chose it. And now that we are back on earth and grounded in reality once more, we realize that we were gone all that time. Lost to something that wasn't even real. How did it happen? We need to know.

The shocking reaction when people with NPD face the discrepancy between an ideal view of the self and a drastically contrasting realization. They collapse. They disintegrate. But just when you think they have been destroyed, just like the villain in Terminator who reconstructed himself after all attempts to kell him, the person with NPD resembles themselves, a newer 2.0 version of themselves who h...

Life with a malignant narcissist is like being at a theme park: fun and excitement until the park closes. After dark, it transforms into a creepy place where the narcissist shows you what is behind all the smoke and mirrors. You won't like what you see and what he says. It has the power to kill you. Let's remember, he's done it before when he murdered his true self. Could you be next? 

Today's episode discusses the idea of needing someone else to complete you, validate you, take care of you. The truth is that if you want to truly end PTSD symptoms and achieve complete freedom from your narcissist, you must become independent, determined, and introspective. You must get to the systemic cause or root of the problem. By turning inward and looking at the source, you can recover and...