Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

Does your brain just LOVE to worry? So much so you're pretty sure you could win an Olympic medal if worrying was a category?  In today's episode, I'm talking to Emilie Leyes - expert in brain training and hypnosis - and founder of the Doddle hypnosis app. We're covering topics like: Why our brains worry Whether worry is ever productive Some of Emilie's favourite techniques...

How much time do you spend focusing on how other people should change or behave differently? If it's quite a lot... you're not alone! Our brains love to focus on how other people aren't doing it 'right' and how if they'd just change, life could be so much easier. But in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about turning that focus inward. And focusing on...

Do you feel a looming pressure to 'get your shit together' by a certain age? Maybe it's a pressure to find a romantic partner... Buy a house... Get married... Have a child... Do you often compare yourself to other people? Like your brain is cataloguing all their milestones, just to tell you how far behind you are? In today's episode - I have a conversation with the amazing Kate...

Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you? Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - and when they do, you feel panicky and unable to calm down until they've returned? If so - this episode is for YOU! I'm covering: Why we struggle to feel safe when our partners are distant or taking space How to regulate your nervous system...

Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself? Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want? Then this episode is for YOU! I'm discussing: The reason why we challenge our thinking When fear of le...

Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel? Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to try and manage other people's emotions? Do you hear me say that other people don't create our feelings... but find that hard to grasp when it comes to your actions influencing other people's emotions? If so - this episode is for YOU!...

Today I’m sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded. Do you struggle with trusting your partner?  Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!! Then this episode is for you. We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trus...

Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships. If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - then this episode is for YOU. I'm offering you 5 questions to help you take back control of your fearful brain and feel empowered - regardless of what the other person is doing. Ready? LISTEN NOW. Mentioned in this episode: MYFR - 8 week coaching...

When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts... - What if they break up with me? - What if they're mad at me? - What if they're lying to me? - What if they leave me? ... it's because of how we're subconsciously answering those questions. In today's episode, I'm talking about: Why rejection seems so terrifying What we're actually afraid...

Do you tend to take things personally? Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable? Do you anxiously worry about the future of your relationships? Spiraling in scary 'What if...' thoughts? Do you avoid conflict? So afraid of losing people from your life for good? If so - you likely have a fear of rejection. And in today's episode,...

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt? Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with? And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think? In today's episode, I'm talking about: Where confidence comes from (and wher...

When you look in the mirror, are you quick to berate yourself with criticism? Mentally noting all the ways you need to change or 'fix' something about how you look in order to be 'good enough'?  When you look at pictures of yourself - do you instantly hone in on what's 'wrong' and beat yourself up? With my wedding coming up, I have had a similar experience of not...

There's a lot of talk in the online space about needs and the importance of finding partners that meet our needs. But how do we actually go about asking for what we want? In this episode, I'm discussing: What do we really mean by 'need'? Why we often don't just ask for what we want Why need entitlement causes issues in relationships How to see needs as a collaboration  How...

Do you often avoid having the harder conversations with loved ones? Not really being truly honest about how you feel and sweeping things under the rug to avoid conflict? Or maybe you do bring up issues, but you do it in a way that doesn't tend to result in connection... Then this episode is for YOU! I'm going to talk you through some key steps for cleaning up your own mind before difficu...

Do you ever find yourself obsessing over and trying to decipher how much someone else likes you? Whether your partner loves you as much as you love them... Or whether your friends feel as close to you as you do to them... If so - this episode is for YOU! We're going to talk about: Why answering the question isn't cut and dry  Why we're so obsessed with it in the first place A better...

Do you find yourself being pretty critical of the people in your life? Your partner, your friends, your family members... Feeling frustrated and negative about the ways they show up or the things they do / don't do? Our brains' habit of criticizing can cause so much unnecessary disconnection in our relationships. Tune into this episode to find out WHY we're doing it and useful tips...

In this episode, I chat with the lovely Sarah Siegert - Expat Friendship Coach, on all things FRIENDSHIP. We talk about: The manuals and expectations we have of our friends Friendship breakups When friendships change due to life circumstances Making new friends as an adult Why it's really all about our thoughts about ourselves Mentioned in this episode: 1:1 coaching - Email: Rebecca@rebeccaor...

Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you! We're going to cover: Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with us Compromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will look Managing your anxious brain and processing your emotions The fears...

In this week's episode, I'm talking about how our upbringing, society, and external influencers can shape and determine the way we think about ourselves, love, and relationships. Do you automatically think being single in your 30s is a bad thing? Do you feel a bit shocked when you hear someone doesn't want kids? Do you find yourself behaving in ways that don't really serve you,...

Do you try to use the tools and concepts I teach to manage your mind - but sometimes struggle to actually feel better? Do you struggle to understand why something is bothering you and feel like you're skirting around the root of the issue? Or often just have NO idea what you're thinking and where to even begin with thought work? Thought work is the practice of working with our thoughts t...

Are you often feeling disappointed, hurt, and rejected in your relationships? And like the people in your life just don't make you feel loved and important? You may be falling victim to the 'They don't care' trap... Which is a pattern I see a lot of clients getting stuck in. In this episode, find out: What the 'They don't care' trap is Why we end up there The pro...

Do you find yourself often doing what others want you to do, without giving much thought to your own preferences and desires? Do you tend to make decisions on what's more likely to be approved of, consciously or subconsciously trying to avoid the risk of people being mad at you? If so - you're probably already familiar with the term 'People pleaser'. And in today's episode...

Do you have some issues in your relationship where household chores are concerned? Do you just WISH you could get them to do their washing up faster... Put a load of laundry on sooner... Throw round a duster for once in their life?! Living with another human being with a totally different brain than you is no joke. But in this episode, we're going to: Uncover how socialization plays a huge pa...

Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you? Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you you're doing it wrong? And that compares you to other people? Telling you you're always falling short? In today's episode, I'm talking about how self-acceptance will change your life - including: What self-acceptance really is Why...

Do you want to open up to your partner about what you're going through but don't really know how? Whenever you discuss your anxiety, does it tend to end in a huge argument? Then this episode is for YOU. Mentioned in this episode: Processing Emotions Meditation Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet