Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

Ever make requests of your partner (or friend / family member) and maybe they agree to do it... but they don't really do it the way you hoped? Maybe you ask them to plan more romantic date nights - and they do for a week or so - but then they go back to their old pattern of behaviour? Or perhaps you're struggling with knowing when to compromise in your relationship - wondering if you and...

Our brains are always constructing a narrative. We make meanings out of the things that have happened in our pasts, and then these stories shape and distort the way we think about situations in our present and what we create for our futures. But did you know that you could rewrite your entire past, simply by changing the way you think about it? Have you been cheated on... Broken up with... Made a...

Do you feel a little frustrated, disappointed or let down by some of the people in your life right now? Maybe you had expectations of how certain relatives or loved ones would behave over Christmas, and they didn't quite hit the mark... It's easy for us to slip into victim mode in these moments, and mentally give all power over our emotions to the imperfect humans in our lives. But in th...

Feeling dread as Christmas approaches? Worrying about spending time with family members and feeling triggered? Have you done a lot of work on yourself this year, and fear that it may all fly out the window as soon as you're around your parents, neighbours, or distant relatives? If so... I've got you! This is the reminder we ALL need this time of year.  Mentioned in this episode: Group co...

This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't create their feelings. People ask me: 'But if my partner isn't creating my emotions for me, and their job isn't to 'make me feel good' - then what's the point of relationships?!' If your brain has offered a similar...

Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach? Are you often worried about missing the signs that your partner isn't trustworthy?  And have you beaten yourself up in the past for 'not seeing it coming' and felt embarrassed, stupid, and naïve?  If so - this episode is for YOU. I'm offering an opposing opinion on red flags and...

Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over? Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - and you just can't seem to break the cycle? Do you find yourself having the same reaction - and then them having their usual reaction... And then suddenly you're in the same fight you've had many times before? If so - it's time t...

We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all! But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on a life of their own - and create a lot of anxiety, fear, and resentment in relationships.  Do you feel like your mood can be ruined by the mood of the people around you? Do you instantly feel anxious if you think someone is mad at you? Do you often...

When we're feeling anxious, there are certain things that are going to help us... And certain things that aren't... In today's episode, I'm talking about the things that DO NOT help you when you're feeling anxious and what to do instead.  Mentioned in the episode: Next round of my group coaching programme - DETAILS

Does your brain just LOVE to worry? So much so you're pretty sure you could win an Olympic medal if worrying was a category?  In today's episode, I'm talking to Emilie Leyes - expert in brain training and hypnosis - and founder of the Doddle hypnosis app. We're covering topics like: Why our brains worry Whether worry is ever productive Some of Emilie's favourite techniques...

How much time do you spend focusing on how other people should change or behave differently? If it's quite a lot... you're not alone! Our brains love to focus on how other people aren't doing it 'right' and how if they'd just change, life could be so much easier. But in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about turning that focus inward. And focusing on...

Do you feel a looming pressure to 'get your shit together' by a certain age? Maybe it's a pressure to find a romantic partner... Buy a house... Get married... Have a child... Do you often compare yourself to other people? Like your brain is cataloguing all their milestones, just to tell you how far behind you are? In today's episode - I have a conversation with the amazing Kate...

Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you? Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - and when they do, you feel panicky and unable to calm down until they've returned? If so - this episode is for YOU! I'm covering: Why we struggle to feel safe when our partners are distant or taking space How to regulate your nervous system...

Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself? Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want? Then this episode is for YOU! I'm discussing: The reason why we challenge our thinking When fear of le...

Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel? Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to try and manage other people's emotions? Do you hear me say that other people don't create our feelings... but find that hard to grasp when it comes to your actions influencing other people's emotions? If so - this episode is for YOU!...

Today I’m sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded. Do you struggle with trusting your partner?  Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!! Then this episode is for you. We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trus...

Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships. If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - then this episode is for YOU. I'm offering you 5 questions to help you take back control of your fearful brain and feel empowered - regardless of what the other person is doing. Ready? LISTEN NOW. Mentioned in this episode: MYFR - 8 week coaching...

When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts... - What if they break up with me? - What if they're mad at me? - What if they're lying to me? - What if they leave me? ... it's because of how we're subconsciously answering those questions. In today's episode, I'm talking about: Why rejection seems so terrifying What we're actually afraid...

Do you tend to take things personally? Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable? Do you anxiously worry about the future of your relationships? Spiraling in scary 'What if...' thoughts? Do you avoid conflict? So afraid of losing people from your life for good? If so - you likely have a fear of rejection. And in today's episode,...

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt? Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with? And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think? In today's episode, I'm talking about: Where confidence comes from (and wher...

When you look in the mirror, are you quick to berate yourself with criticism? Mentally noting all the ways you need to change or 'fix' something about how you look in order to be 'good enough'?  When you look at pictures of yourself - do you instantly hone in on what's 'wrong' and beat yourself up? With my wedding coming up, I have had a similar experience of not...

There's a lot of talk in the online space about needs and the importance of finding partners that meet our needs. But how do we actually go about asking for what we want? In this episode, I'm discussing: What do we really mean by 'need'? Why we often don't just ask for what we want Why need entitlement causes issues in relationships How to see needs as a collaboration  How...

Do you often avoid having the harder conversations with loved ones? Not really being truly honest about how you feel and sweeping things under the rug to avoid conflict? Or maybe you do bring up issues, but you do it in a way that doesn't tend to result in connection... Then this episode is for YOU! I'm going to talk you through some key steps for cleaning up your own mind before difficu...

Do you ever find yourself obsessing over and trying to decipher how much someone else likes you? Whether your partner loves you as much as you love them... Or whether your friends feel as close to you as you do to them... If so - this episode is for YOU! We're going to talk about: Why answering the question isn't cut and dry  Why we're so obsessed with it in the first place A better...

Do you find yourself being pretty critical of the people in your life? Your partner, your friends, your family members... Feeling frustrated and negative about the ways they show up or the things they do / don't do? Our brains' habit of criticizing can cause so much unnecessary disconnection in our relationships. Tune into this episode to find out WHY we're doing it and useful tips...