Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

I’m sharing something vulnerable in today’s episode. My wife recently told me she didn’t want children - when we’d always agreed and said that we would. This has of course thrown a huge spanner in the works of our relationship and our marriage - and it’s bringing up a lot of uncertainty. And so I wanted to talk you through how I’m handling that uncertainty - in the hopes that whatever uncertainty...

When someone is upset with you or you suspect they might be annoyed about something you’ve done - do you instantly feel guilty? When you see someone experiencing negative emotion - do you feel like it’s your job to try and fix it? And feel super uncomfortable until you know they’re okay again? If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking all about the difference between empathy and taking responsi...

When I was at my most anxious in my relationships - I realised I had been depending on things outside of me being a certain way for me to feel safe, secure or calm. Can you relate? If so - I’m going to be talking today about the difference between internal and external safety. And I’m going to offer you concrete exercises to do to start building your internal safety muscle. So you can feel emotion...

Are you facing rejection? A setback at work? A difficult friendship dynamic? An uncertain outcome? Someone who keeps crossing your boundaries? Whatever feels tough right now - I want to offer you a question that is going to transform the way you approach it. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

This week, I’m answering two questions from listeners. The first is all about taking back a cheating, avoidant partner. The second is dealing with a jealous partner who has very different thoughts around a friendship with an ex. Mentioned in the episode: Join my email list Work with me 1:1 - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

People that work with me learn to STOP using the phrase ‘They made me feel…’ Because they’re finally able to take back responsibility for how they feel and respond to any situation in their life… And I call this taking radical responsibility for your own feelings. It’s something I did years ago - and it changed my life and relationships forever. And in today’s episode I’m going to help you underst...

Are you struggling with resentment in your relationships right now? Maybe it’s a friend that’s always late. A partner that doesn’t pull their weight around the house. A mother in law that keeps asking for too much of your partner’s time. Whatever it is - this episode is going to help you step out of resentment, and back into self-responsibility and self-empowerment. Mentioned in the episode: Relat...

Today I’m answering real life questions from listeners covering two topics. 1) How do I know the difference between a real red flag vs my anxious attachment? 2) How do I navigate jealousy in a friendship trio? Ready? Let’s dive in! Mentioned in the episode: Get 10% off 1:1 coaching in May- email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

The fear of settling, of choosing wrong, or of missing out on a ‘better’ partner is one that plagues so many anxious brains in relationships. So I’m spending today’s episode talking about it. I’m going to help you define settling vs embracing an imperfect partner... AND help you call out your anxious brain’s perhaps unhelpful expectations when it comes to romantic relationships - so you can make a...

Have you ever wanted to build your self-esteem and think more positively about yourself, but then a little voice in your head says… But what if I become delusional? What if I start believing I’m attractive, when the truth is I’m not? What if I start believing I’m good enough - and it turns out not to be true? If so, this episode is for you!  I'm going to teach you: Why you're already del...

I have struggled with anxiety for over a decade - since I was a teenager. And finding ways of understanding & managing my own fearful brain, and the fearful minds of my clients, continues to be a fascination of mine.  So in today’s episode - I’m sharing 7 of the biggest lessons I’ve learned about anxiety over the last few years. And offering you some perspective shifts to help you change the w...

How often have you found yourself thinking: Maybe if I feel this anxious, I’m with the wrong person?  If I was with right person, I wouldn’t get triggered… right? Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about how that isn’t always the case. And helping you to reframe this thought into something a little more empowering and productive. Mentioned in the episode: The Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp -...

In today's episode, I'm answering real-life questions from listeners and coaching them on their mind-drama from afar! We cover topics including: Navigating old friendships when your interests have changed When the person you're dating won't say 'I love you' How to handle insecurity around a drop in sweet text messages And feeling unsettled when someone is emotionally...

How often have you asked yourself: Am I too much?  Is texting twice too much? Is initiating seeing them again too much?  Do you often worry that being open and honest about your feelings means you’re ‘too much’?  If so - this episode is for YOU! Mentioned in the episode: Find out about coaching with Rebecca - email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com Download the your free Self Esteem Building Kit - H...

We’ve all been told a thousand times that our thoughts create our realities... But when life feels hard, our partners seem uncaring, or the world feels like a hopeless place… it can be an easy thing to forget. So in today’s episode - I want to help you understand exactly how your brain shapes and distorts your experience of reality... So that you can start to notice the impact of it in your own li...

Maybe it’s a friend you've known for years - and you feel like you’re the one always reaching out to check in or arrange plans.  Or maybe it’s someone you’ve been on a few dates with and you feel like it’s always you confirming the next date night.  Or perhaps it’s a family member who always calls you to vent about their problems, but the minute you need support and want to talk - they’re sud...

If you’ve ever experienced betrayal in a relationship - you’ll know first hand how painful it can be. And I’m dedicating today’s episode to talk about it. Covering things like: Handling the shock of betrayal Why the brain obsesses over needing to know every detail The meaning we make about ourselves and the future Should you stay or leave? How trust is rebuilt (and why self-trust matters most) Men...

Think more positively.  Your thoughts create your reality.  Just don’t sweat the small stuff. All great advice - but hard to implement when you’re in the habit of feeling like a victim to your brain and the stories it tells you. So in today’s episode I’m going to help you shift from being in the passenger seat, to being back in the driver’s seat of your brain... So that you can create the kind of...

Do you ever wonder if you and the person you’re dating are actually just incompatible?  Maybe you know you have some mind drama and insecurities to clear up - but also question if… maybe I’m just with the wrong person? If so - this episode is for you! March 1:1 coaching spots Email me directly at rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com to get all the details and book a free 30 min consult!

Are you terrified of being cheated on? If so - today’s episode is for you.  I’m talking all about the deeper beliefs fuelling the fear of being cheated on. Some will resonate with you, others won’t.  But if the fear of being cheated on is something that keeps you up at night - this episode is going to help you truly understand why that is.  And what needs to change to overcome it. Mentioned in thi...

Most of us are familiar with what it’s like to feel insecure.  And you may find yourself wishing or saying out loud that you want to work on feeling more secure . Most of us go about creating feelings of security all wrong - which is why it doesn't work. So in today's episode I'm talking about: Where people go wrong when they try to feel more secure What being more secure actually m...

I want to give you a little insight as to what coaching can look like for real life people - with real life relationship struggles.  And so I’m using the example of a past client of mine who felt triggered when she found out her partner watches porn. Even if you can’t relate to that specific anxiety - I encourage you to listen anyway... Because you're going to learn how to: Separate facts fro...

Do you find yourself becoming obsessed with people that are hot and cold towards you - while ignoring the people that are consistently available and there for you? Do you feel like your romantic relationship or even friendships are the focus of your entire world - and if there could be a problem in one of them - it’s like your entire world is crumbling and you can’t focus on anything else? Do you...

When you feel anxious or insecure, do you jump straight to action? Perhaps re-reading your messages? Checking when they were last online? Or messaging your group chat? Do you keep repeating the same anxious patterns over and over - and do you keep vowing to yourself you’re going to stop but - never the less, the patterns keep repeating?  If so - you’re likely missing a vital skill. I’m going to te...

Do other people’s happiness tend to get put before your own? Does the thought of being alone terrify you? And do you feel like you cling to relationships with others in an attempt to feel safe? If so - you might be stuck in the habit of self abandonment.  Let’s talk about it! Email directly about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com