Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

Have you set some goals or resolutions for 2026? And are you filled with hope for the year ahead? Or do you kind of think resolutions are pointless.. Because you never succeed at them anyway? Whichever camp you land in - in this episode I’m talking all about why you don’t need a new YOU in 2026... And why what you actually need is a new relationship with the you you already have. I’m talking all a...

Are you constantly worrying about what other people think? Are they mad at you? Do they like you? Did they think what you said at dinner was stupid? Or insensitive? In today’s episode - I’m talking about the simple, yet powerful skill we need to master to FINALLY stop worrying so much about what other people think. Download my 'Self Esteem Building Kit'. Email about 1:1 coaching in Janua...

Does the idea that your relationship could one day end send you into a spiral of anxiety?  Do you tend to ruminate over worst case scenarios - panicking, then feeling momentary relief, only to find a new thing to worry about a few days later? Do you fear being left or cheated on, and can’t stop that fear from getting in the way of the happy relationship you could be experiencing right now? If so -...

‘Why can’t they be more sensitive?!’ ‘Why can’t they be more affectionate’ ‘Why can’t they just do what they said they’d do!’ ‘They shouldn’t be so opinionated’  Ever find yourself ruminating about how all the other people in your life should change their behaviours to make your life easier? If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m going to help you understand why your brain does this, why it isn’t us...

How often have you heard the phrase ‘If they wanted to they would’?  Well in today’s episode, I’m talking about that well used advice and how it isn’t always useful.  AND offering you a new perspective to try on in its place. AND I’m also going to be talking about why we OBSESS over certain people or situations - and what to do when you notice your brain is in fixation mode. Mentioned in the episo...

Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you! We're going to cover: Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with us Compromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will look Managing your anxious brain and processing your emotions The fears...

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt? Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with? And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think? In today's episode, I'm talking about: Where confidence comes from (and wher...

In today’s episode I’m answering questions from listeners on their real life relationship struggles.  Covering topics including: What to do when your husband has female friends you’re uncomfortable with Fear of being rejected because of what you post online Dealing with potential rejection after asking for more commitment AND dealing with a mother-in-law that does not respect your boundaries. Read...

You’re all listening to this podcast because you’re perhaps aware your anxious mind is causing a lot, or some, problems and you want to take back control of your side of the equation. But what happens if you’re doing all of that work - and your partner is continuously responding in ways that seem unsupportive, unkind, or pretty mean? Maybe being dismissive of your feelings, getting defensive - eve...

Do you ‘get’ this work - but still find yourself reacting badly when you’re triggered Do you know your thoughts aren’t likely true, but can’t help but panic and react when they appear? If so - you’re likely missing a key piece of the puzzle, which is self-regulation. And in this episode, I’m going to give you concrete tools and techniques for regulating in the moment of a trigger. Mentioned in the...

Do you ever get anxious about how often you and your partner are having sex?  Do you question whether you’re having ‘ enough ’ sex?  Keeping score of who initiates the most?  Or focusing on their experience of sex, rather than your own? Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary disconnection and resentment around sex - so that’s what we’re talking about in today’s episode. Mentioned in th...

Ever worry that if you start to do this work to clean up your own thinking you might end up accidentally gaslighting yourself or becoming okay with everything - even bad behaviour? If so - you’re not alone in that fear. In today’s episode I’m talking about: Why questioning our thoughts isn’t the same as gaslighting ourselves AND how to tell when you WOULD be using this work against yourself Mentio...

Is this a want or a need? Why does my partner get so defensive when I tell them what I need in the relationship?   And is this relationship just not right for me? In today’s episode - I’m talking all about wants, needs, and how taking responsibility for your emotions first can make communicating your preferences 10x more likely to end in connection. I’m also going to be talking about my brand new...

Today, I’m sharing a blast from the past in the form of a previous episode I released in 2024 - offering you 5 questions to ask yourself when you feel rejected.  If you’ve already heard this one - the recap will be just what you need.  And if not, you’re going to learn 5 questions to help you meet your mind with compassion and curiosity when you feel rejected, AND challenge some of the unhelpful a...

Are you blaming your partner, friends or family members for how you feel? Saying they ‘make’ you feel bad, insecure, anxious or rejected? 'Shoulding' them - believing they should behave differently. And tending to assume the worst? If so - it sounds like you need to start cleaning up your own side of the relationship equation and getting more intentional about how you choose to to think,...

Are you dating but finding the experience pretty miserable? Are you constantly afraid of rejection and does the idea of getting ghosted again make you want to delete all the apps and stop bothering altogether?  If so - this episode is for you!  I’m talking all about dating, rejection, and how to build rejection resilience... So that you can keep moving forward and create the kind of relationships...

Do you ever find yourself wondering: is this just my anxiety or is this actually a real issue in my relationship? In today’s episode - I’m talking about why that might be the wrong question to ask AND how to start managing your own mind better so you can intentionally decide how you want to think, feel and show up to any situation you’re facing.  Ready? Let’s dive in! 

You might be spending a lot of time wondering if you can trust your partner, the person your dating, your co-workers, or any other human in your life. But how much do you actually trust yourself? In today’s episode, I’m talking all about: What self trust IS and what self trust ISN’T Ways to start building a relationship with yourself rooted in self-trust & self-acceptance And how to believe th...

In today's episode, I chat with the amazing Jewel Hohman - expert in all things friendship, connection and social anxiety - to talk about what it really takes to create meaningful friendships. AND what often gets in the way of them. This episode is for you if... You ever feel anxiety about your friendships Your friendships have changed and don't feel as fulfilling You want more friends b...

Do you often search for dating tips - wanting to find the right way to text, show up on dates, the right amount of time to wait before having sex with them - all to try and ensure a certain outcome? If someone isn’t texting as much as you’d like - do you decide to pull back and be aloof? Maybe not initiate plans until they’ve initiated some first? Today we’re talking all about: Playing games vs ge...

How much information should you expect your partner to be sharing with you? Should you know each others phone passwords? Have your locations on? What if they don’t tell you about bumping into an ex? Or they delete some messages? In today’s episode - I’m talking all about transparency vs privacy - and how to manage your mind in different situations where you and your partner may not think the same...

Do you have a friend that everyone just seems to LOVE - and so you end up feeling a little overshadowed? Do you have parents that are overly critical and not so great at showing you unconditional love - and so you often feel like you’re disappointing them and fighting for their approval? If so - you likely heavily relate to the character of Blair Waldorf from Gossip Girl.  And in today’s episode -...

Today - I'm resharing one of my older, popular episodes - all about radical self acceptance. Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you? Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you you're doing it wrong? And that compares you to other people? Telling you you're always falling short? In today's episode, I'm talkin...

Do you often obsess over your romantic relationship? OR are you currently single and find yourself obsessing over when you’re next going to BE in a romantic relationship?  What if I told you this was no accident. And that you may have been brainwashed into fetishizing romantic love? In today’s episode, I’m talking all about the history of romantic relationships, the way society has shaped the way...

Do you and your partner or the person you’re dating have different ways of showing love and care? And is it something that can cause a problem in your relationship? If so - this episode is for YOU.  I’m talking all about: What love languages are Why we all differ How to manage our minds around those differences How to communicate more effectively what we’d like from our partners AND how to decide...