Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

Are you constantly worrying about what other people think? Are they mad at you? Do they like you? Did they think what you said at dinner was stupid? Or insensitive? In today’s episode - I’m talking about the simple, yet powerful skill we need to master to FINALLY stop worrying so much about what other people think. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.co...

Do you and your partner seem to argue about the same things over and over? Do small disagreements suddenly turn into huge arguments where neither person feels heard or understood? If so, I’d bet that you’re making at least one of these 5 common mistakes that actually create more unnecessary arguments in relationships.  In today’s episode, I’m walking you through what those mistakes are, how they s...

You’re hurt about something that’s happened in your relationship. But should you say something? Is it just your thoughts?  When should you speak up and when should you change the way you’re thinking about something? This is exactly what we’re talking about in today’s episode! Ready? Let’s dive in. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com How to feel calm...

Do you see other people posting their engagement photos, or baby shower pictures and feeling envious? Or maybe you see people posting their travelling pictures - and start to feel dissatisfied with the lack of travelling you’ve done lately? Or maybe you see your best friend’s boyfriend spoiling her with expensive gifts, and you start to compare that to your own relationship - where your partner&ap...

Ever felt an intense feeling of shame when someone is upset with you? Well... I've had a couple of situations happen recently. One with my wife and one with a close friend of mine - where I experienced feelings of both shame & anxiety, after making a mistake. My brain jumped to thoughts like: 'I'm not good enough' 'I'm a bad friend' I even started catastrophi...

Today I'm answering a question from a listener. "My boyfriend of 1.5 years and I started out having an open relationship. Turned out that this wasn't a good fit for me due to my insecurities and brought on anxiety that was unmanageable. "Now my boyfriend has agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with me. I find my self feeling "guilty" that he is now in a differen...

Is your fear of losing them pushing them away? Are you feeling so anxious that it’s getting in between you and your partner - or maybe you and your friends - when all you want is to feel closer to them? In today’s episode, I’m talking about 5 ways a fear of losing someone actually pushes the people we love away. And I’m offering you practical ways to start to challenge these subconscious patterns,...

Don’t like thirst trap pictures on Instagram. Don’t reply if your ex messages you. Don’t go for drinks with your female co-worker, unless other people are going. Sometimes we set rules for our partners as a way to avoid or manage our own fears and anxieties. Other times, we really don’t want to be okay with a certain kind of behaviour. In this episode, I help you get better at making that judgemen...

Today I’m answering real-life questions from listeners on their real-life relationship problems. Including: A person whose partner has expressed frustration when she’s upset And boundaries around following people of the opposite sex on Instagram. Unless you’re the person that wrote it - you likely aren’t in either of those exact situations. That’s okay! Don’t skip the episode - because the way I c...

Do you find yourself getting a little too attached too quickly in dating? Maybe you’ve met the person twice, but find your mood is completely dependant on whether they’ve replied to your message yet. Or maybe you feel like dating is a rollercoaster, and even when you didn’t really know the person - the rejection feels unbearable. If so, this episode is for you! I’m talking about why people get so...

Do you ever worry that you’re just not lovable? When someone rejects you, or if someone has cheated, left, or rejected you in the past - does your brain jump to: I’m not good enough. There’s something wrong with me? If so - this episode is for you. We’re talking about what it really means to be lovable, and why how much someone loves you actually has nothing to do with you as a person. Mentioned i...

Protect your peace, it’s their job to meet your needs, heal before you get into a relationship… The online space is LOUD and full of well-intended relationship advice. But of course - the most common advice can sometimes be a little black-or-white - when in reality, relationships are filled with shades of grey. So we’re going to discuss more nuanced approaches to common relationship advice in toda...

Do you ask your partner for reassurance multiple times a week? Or find yourself asking for reassurance on the same topic over and over and the anxiety still popping back up, despite what they say? Has your partner said they’re tired of reassuring you, and do you wonder how much reassurance is okay to ask for? If so, this episode is for you! I’m to talk about reassurance seeking, what it looks like...

Does the thought of your partner around other attractive women (or men) make you panic? Do you feel jealous when they talk about their co-workers, worried that they find them hot? Or do you feel on edge when they’re out in bars, afraid they’ll find other people attractive? If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking about why your brain likely sees attractive people as threats, and more important...

Ever wonder: Why am I the way that I am? Why does an unanswered text ruin my day? Why does criticism seem so big and scary? Why can’t I ever stop worrying about what might go wrong? Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about some of the most common beliefs we learn in childhood that could be at the root of your relationship anxiety. Ready? LISTEN NOW! Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with R...

They’re distracted on their phone - so you go in a mood and make a passive aggressive comment. They didn’t ask about an important meeting you had - so you assume they don’t care and don’t bring it up. You haven’t heard from a friend for a while - so you imagine she’s having fun with people she likes more - and don’t bother reaching out to see when she’s next free. What do all of these examples hav...

I’m sharing something vulnerable in today’s episode. My wife recently told me she didn’t want children - when we’d always agreed and said that we would. This has of course thrown a huge spanner in the works of our relationship and our marriage - and it’s bringing up a lot of uncertainty. And so I wanted to talk you through how I’m handling that uncertainty - in the hopes that whatever uncertainty...

When someone is upset with you or you suspect they might be annoyed about something you’ve done - do you instantly feel guilty? When you see someone experiencing negative emotion - do you feel like it’s your job to try and fix it? And feel super uncomfortable until you know they’re okay again? If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking all about the difference between empathy and taking responsi...

When I was at my most anxious in my relationships - I realised I had been depending on things outside of me being a certain way for me to feel safe, secure or calm. Can you relate? If so - I’m going to be talking today about the difference between internal and external safety. And I’m going to offer you concrete exercises to do to start building your internal safety muscle. So you can feel emotion...

Are you facing rejection? A setback at work? A difficult friendship dynamic? An uncertain outcome? Someone who keeps crossing your boundaries? Whatever feels tough right now - I want to offer you a question that is going to transform the way you approach it. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

This week, I’m answering two questions from listeners. The first is all about taking back a cheating, avoidant partner. The second is dealing with a jealous partner who has very different thoughts around a friendship with an ex. Mentioned in the episode: Join my email list Work with me 1:1 - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

People that work with me learn to STOP using the phrase ‘They made me feel…’ Because they’re finally able to take back responsibility for how they feel and respond to any situation in their life… And I call this taking radical responsibility for your own feelings. It’s something I did years ago - and it changed my life and relationships forever. And in today’s episode I’m going to help you underst...

Are you struggling with resentment in your relationships right now? Maybe it’s a friend that’s always late. A partner that doesn’t pull their weight around the house. A mother in law that keeps asking for too much of your partner’s time. Whatever it is - this episode is going to help you step out of resentment, and back into self-responsibility and self-empowerment. Mentioned in the episode: Relat...

Today I’m answering real life questions from listeners covering two topics. 1) How do I know the difference between a real red flag vs my anxious attachment? 2) How do I navigate jealousy in a friendship trio? Ready? Let’s dive in! Mentioned in the episode: Get 10% off 1:1 coaching in May- email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

The fear of settling, of choosing wrong, or of missing out on a ‘better’ partner is one that plagues so many anxious brains in relationships. So I’m spending today’s episode talking about it. I’m going to help you define settling vs embracing an imperfect partner... AND help you call out your anxious brain’s perhaps unhelpful expectations when it comes to romantic relationships - so you can make a...