Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

Do you ‘get’ this work - but still find yourself reacting badly when you’re triggered Do you know your thoughts aren’t likely true, but can’t help but panic and react when they appear? If so - you’re likely missing a key piece of the puzzle, which is self-regulation. And in this episode, I’m going to give you concrete tools and techniques for regulating in the moment of a trigger. Mentioned in the...

Do you ever get anxious about how often you and your partner are having sex?  Do you question whether you’re having ‘ enough ’ sex?  Keeping score of who initiates the most?  Or focusing on their experience of sex, rather than your own? Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary disconnection and resentment around sex - so that’s what we’re talking about in today’s episode. Mentioned in th...

Ever worry that if you start to do this work to clean up your own thinking you might end up accidentally gaslighting yourself or becoming okay with everything - even bad behaviour? If so - you’re not alone in that fear. In today’s episode I’m talking about: Why questioning our thoughts isn’t the same as gaslighting ourselves AND how to tell when you WOULD be using this work against yourself Mentio...

Is this a want or a need? Why does my partner get so defensive when I tell them what I need in the relationship?   And is this relationship just not right for me? In today’s episode - I’m talking all about wants, needs, and how taking responsibility for your emotions first can make communicating your preferences 10x more likely to end in connection. I’m also going to be talking about my brand new...

Today, I’m sharing a blast from the past in the form of a previous episode I released in 2024 - offering you 5 questions to ask yourself when you feel rejected.  If you’ve already heard this one - the recap will be just what you need.  And if not, you’re going to learn 5 questions to help you meet your mind with compassion and curiosity when you feel rejected, AND challenge some of the unhelpful a...

Are you blaming your partner, friends or family members for how you feel? Saying they ‘make’ you feel bad, insecure, anxious or rejected? 'Shoulding' them - believing they should behave differently. And tending to assume the worst? If so - it sounds like you need to start cleaning up your own side of the relationship equation and getting more intentional about how you choose to to think,...

Are you dating but finding the experience pretty miserable? Are you constantly afraid of rejection and does the idea of getting ghosted again make you want to delete all the apps and stop bothering altogether?  If so - this episode is for you!  I’m talking all about dating, rejection, and how to build rejection resilience... So that you can keep moving forward and create the kind of relationships...

Do you ever find yourself wondering: is this just my anxiety or is this actually a real issue in my relationship? In today’s episode - I’m talking about why that might be the wrong question to ask AND how to start managing your own mind better so you can intentionally decide how you want to think, feel and show up to any situation you’re facing.  Ready? Let’s dive in! 

You might be spending a lot of time wondering if you can trust your partner, the person your dating, your co-workers, or any other human in your life. But how much do you actually trust yourself? In today’s episode, I’m talking all about: What self trust IS and what self trust ISN’T Ways to start building a relationship with yourself rooted in self-trust & self-acceptance And how to believe th...

In today's episode, I chat with the amazing Jewel Hohman - expert in all things friendship, connection and social anxiety - to talk about what it really takes to create meaningful friendships. AND what often gets in the way of them. This episode is for you if... You ever feel anxiety about your friendships Your friendships have changed and don't feel as fulfilling You want more friends b...

Do you often search for dating tips - wanting to find the right way to text, show up on dates, the right amount of time to wait before having sex with them - all to try and ensure a certain outcome? If someone isn’t texting as much as you’d like - do you decide to pull back and be aloof? Maybe not initiate plans until they’ve initiated some first? Today we’re talking all about: Playing games vs ge...

How much information should you expect your partner to be sharing with you? Should you know each others phone passwords? Have your locations on? What if they don’t tell you about bumping into an ex? Or they delete some messages? In today’s episode - I’m talking all about transparency vs privacy - and how to manage your mind in different situations where you and your partner may not think the same...

Do you have a friend that everyone just seems to LOVE - and so you end up feeling a little overshadowed? Do you have parents that are overly critical and not so great at showing you unconditional love - and so you often feel like you’re disappointing them and fighting for their approval? If so - you likely heavily relate to the character of Blair Waldorf from Gossip Girl.  And in today’s episode -...

Today - I'm resharing one of my older, popular episodes - all about radical self acceptance. Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you? Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you you're doing it wrong? And that compares you to other people? Telling you you're always falling short? In today's episode, I'm talkin...

Do you often obsess over your romantic relationship? OR are you currently single and find yourself obsessing over when you’re next going to BE in a romantic relationship?  What if I told you this was no accident. And that you may have been brainwashed into fetishizing romantic love? In today’s episode, I’m talking all about the history of romantic relationships, the way society has shaped the way...

Do you and your partner or the person you’re dating have different ways of showing love and care? And is it something that can cause a problem in your relationship? If so - this episode is for YOU.  I’m talking all about: What love languages are Why we all differ How to manage our minds around those differences How to communicate more effectively what we’d like from our partners AND how to decide...

In today’s episode - I’m sharing a magic sentence that has helped me shift out of anxious spirals on so many occasions, and has been a huge help to many of my clients too. When we’re feeling anxious, we’re afraid of a certain outcome - we’re internally resisting it happening, we don’t believe we could handle it.  But by using the sentence I’m going to share with you in this episode - I’m going to...

Do you instantly feel anxious and on edge when your partner or friend is in a bad mood?  Do you find yourself feeling so uncomfortable that you just want to fix it? And get them to cheer up or snap out of it, so that you can feel better? Do you sometimes feel frustrated by your partner’s bad moods - and blame them for ruining your experience because they can’t just be more cheerful or positive? If...

How do you perceive your value as a partner? Or a friend? Or perhaps a member of your family? Do you often doubt your value? Or does your self worth tend to go up and down based on how other people are responding to you? If so - this episode is for YOU.  I’m going to help you to reflect on how you’re currently thinking about your worth and value AND offer you concrete, cognitive steps for building...

What does it take to feel emotionally safe in a relationship? Emotional safety is a word that is being used quite a lot these days... So in today’s episode, I’m breaking down: What emotional safety really is How we experience it How other people impact us feeling it And 4 reasons why you might be struggling to feel emotionally safe - even in the most loving relationships Mentioned in the episode:...

I just don’t want to get hurt - have you ever said that before?  It’s something I’ve heard a lot in client sessions - and it makes total sense.  But how might your unwillingness to get hurt actually be holding you back in your relationships and creating more suffering than it’s preventing? Listen to find out: - Why we’re afraid of getting hurt - What we’re really afraid of - And to steal my willin...

Do you often find yourself feeling disconnected in your relationships - having unnecessary arguments that seem repetitive? Or do you feel like you’re on a rollercoaster - feeling great one minute and anxious the next - like your brain is just always on the look out for what’s ‘wrong’?  If so - you’re likely stuck in one of the two cycles I’m discussing today: The rejection cycle and the reassuranc...

Today The Master Your Relationship Mind Drama Society is officially OPEN! For just £99 a month - you can get weekly live coaching, monthly masterclasses, access to my digital course content, AND a community hub to get written support and cheer on other society members. And in today's episode, I'm chatting with two members of my previous rounds of group coaching. Listen to hear about thei...

Do you ever wonder what the difference is between a healthy boundary and a control attempt coming from a place of insecurity?  If so - this episode is for you.  We're going to cover: The difference between a healthy boundary and a power struggle The key ingredients that go into setting a healthy boundary Some examples of real life situations showing the difference between a healthy boundary &...

Do you have a partner or friend that exhibits some of the signs of an avoidant attachment style? And do you find your own anxiety being triggered by their behaviour - resulting in a push-pull cycle - where both people feel frustrated and disconnected? You're certainly not alone with this. And in today's episode, I'm teaching you how to manage your OWN mind and create a secure respon...