Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

In today’s episode - I’m sharing a magic sentence that has helped me shift out of anxious spirals on so many occasions, and has been a huge help to many of my clients too. When we’re feeling anxious, we’re afraid of a certain outcome - we’re internally resisting it happening, we don’t believe we could handle it.  But by using the sentence I’m going to share with you in this episode - I’m going to...

Do you instantly feel anxious and on edge when your partner or friend is in a bad mood?  Do you find yourself feeling so uncomfortable that you just want to fix it? And get them to cheer up or snap out of it, so that you can feel better? Do you sometimes feel frustrated by your partner’s bad moods - and blame them for ruining your experience because they can’t just be more cheerful or positive? If...

How do you perceive your value as a partner? Or a friend? Or perhaps a member of your family? Do you often doubt your value? Or does your self worth tend to go up and down based on how other people are responding to you? If so - this episode is for YOU.  I’m going to help you to reflect on how you’re currently thinking about your worth and value AND offer you concrete, cognitive steps for building...

What does it take to feel emotionally safe in a relationship? Emotional safety is a word that is being used quite a lot these days... So in today’s episode, I’m breaking down: What emotional safety really is How we experience it How other people impact us feeling it And 4 reasons why you might be struggling to feel emotionally safe - even in the most loving relationships Mentioned in the episode:...

I just don’t want to get hurt - have you ever said that before?  It’s something I’ve heard a lot in client sessions - and it makes total sense.  But how might your unwillingness to get hurt actually be holding you back in your relationships and creating more suffering than it’s preventing? Listen to find out: - Why we’re afraid of getting hurt - What we’re really afraid of - And to steal my willin...

Do you often find yourself feeling disconnected in your relationships - having unnecessary arguments that seem repetitive? Or do you feel like you’re on a rollercoaster - feeling great one minute and anxious the next - like your brain is just always on the look out for what’s ‘wrong’?  If so - you’re likely stuck in one of the two cycles I’m discussing today: The rejection cycle and the reassuranc...

Today The Master Your Relationship Mind Drama Society is officially OPEN! For just £99 a month - you can get weekly live coaching, monthly masterclasses, access to my digital course content, AND a community hub to get written support and cheer on other society members. And in today's episode, I'm chatting with two members of my previous rounds of group coaching. Listen to hear about thei...

Do you ever wonder what the difference is between a healthy boundary and a control attempt coming from a place of insecurity?  If so - this episode is for you.  We're going to cover: The difference between a healthy boundary and a power struggle The key ingredients that go into setting a healthy boundary Some examples of real life situations showing the difference between a healthy boundary &...

Do you have a partner or friend that exhibits some of the signs of an avoidant attachment style? And do you find your own anxiety being triggered by their behaviour - resulting in a push-pull cycle - where both people feel frustrated and disconnected? You're certainly not alone with this. And in today's episode, I'm teaching you how to manage your OWN mind and create a secure respon...

We all talk a lot about self-love and being compassionate to ourselves. But what does that actually mean or look like? In hundreds of coaching sessions - I've seen the many ways we can reject and disconnect from ourselves. And the impact that has on our lives & relationships. And in today's episode, I'm going to share some questions to help you do an audit of your own relationsh...

So many of us spend our lives trying to avoid being triggered.  We blame other people for triggering us. We try and convince people to change their behaviour so we can be less triggered. But what if instead you could change the way you respond to your triggers... And turn them into opportunities to understand your thought patterns on a deeper level. In today's episode - I'm going to teac...

This week, I'm continuing on from last week's episode on the most common limiting beliefs I see coming up in my client sessions! I'll be discussing the following thought patterns, how they impact our relationships, and how to challenge them!  Including: Believing your worth is dependent on the way you look Gauging how much someone cares about you by how they follow your manual Needi...

In today's episode, I'm discussing some of the most common beliefs I see coming up time and time again for my clients. And the impact they have on our relationships. Including: Believing you cause other people's emotions Making rejection mean something about YOU Believing you have to be a certain way / have a certain quality to be lovable AND MORE! PS. There were be a part 2 next we...

Does your brain have a very all-or-nothing way of looking at yourself and your relationships? You either did it perfectly or you're terrible. You're a good friend or a bad friend. Your partner either says the exact right thing or they must not care about you at all. If so - you're not alone! Our brains are actually predisposed to be very black & white in the way they think - pre...

In today's episode, I'm talking about relationships doubts and anxiety - something which is often referred to as ROCD (Relationship OCD). For many of my clients, they're in relationships with loving partners & they don't want to break up with them - BUT their brains will not let them relax. They find themselves constantly questioning 'Am I in the right relationship?&ap...

When we're not honest with the people in our lives - we can create so much harm and disconnection. And yet... sometimes humans lie! In today's episode, I'm discussing: Why humans lie The act of self-preservation  Bringing curiosity to situations - instead of black & white thinking How to handle conversations around lying And the fear of being lied to Ready? Mentioned in the epis...

Do you often find yourself thinking: 'Why am I still thinking this?!' 'What's wrong with me!' 'I shouldn't STILL feel this way...' Maybe you've done the work of challenging your unhelpful thoughts, but find them still popping up and ruining your day?  If you're feeling disheartened and frustrated with your brain right now - this episode is for YOU....

In today's episode - I'm answering questions written in by some of you lovely listeners. We're going to cover a wide range of topics, including: Feeling guilt for things like finding other people attractive Should I tell my partner about the work I'm doing on myself? The fear of missing a sign that you're being cheated on Feeling like you attract busy partners - and how to...

Do you often feel jealous in your relationships? Maybe your partner mentions a new co-worker, or a friend you're a little insecure about, or maybe you get that pit in your stomach when your best friend mentions one of their other friends... Jealousy is a normal human emotion. But it can cause so much havoc when left unchecked. In this episode we're talking about: What jealousy is Having...

This episode is for anyone that's tired of feeling like a slave to their anxious brain. One of the biggest shifts for me was changing my relationship to my anxious thoughts. Most of us take our thoughts verrrrry seriously. We think the fact our brain is saying something to us MUST mean it's true.  We place a lot of importance on the thoughts in our brain - and then end up ruminating, spi...

In today's episode, I'm talking about how knowing our core values can help guide us in and out of our relationships. We'll be covering: What values are How yours and your partner's values may differ Whether that's a problem And how to let your values guide you when making decisions Mentioned in the episode: James Clear's list of values Sign up to my email list Contact...

In today's episode, I'm interviewing one of my past clients and amazing friends - Mariah Kay.  Mariah speaks openly about her journey navigating her husband's alcohol addiction and talks about how you can help your partner in their recovery. Mariah now coaches women facing the same struggles. Find her at @myhusbandsaddiction Check out her website: https://www.mariahkaycoaching.com/

As promised - in today's episode I'm answering 6 questions from listeners on a variety of topics. Including: The fear of falling out of love with your partner When to end a relationship / when to try again Comparing yourself (and your life) to others  Jealousy over your partner's success What to do when you're triggered Mentioned in the episode: Processing emotions meditation

Do you feel terrified about what your partner may or may not be doing online... Here's a snippet from a question I received from a listener: "My question is about trusting someone in the digital age. It feels like more and more our devices are built for hiding things. Every social media app now seems to have a vanishing mode for deleting conversations, and every new version of an operati...

Anyone who has ever felt anxiety in their relationships will know what it's like to feel constantly afraid.  To fear what other people might be thinking of us... To fear what our partners or friends might do... To fear having to start again... To fear being alone... But I believe the antidote to fear is courage. And so in today's episode, I'm talking about: What courage is What lovi...