Live IFS

🔸 0-1000: The Avalanche. And a house without secrets. 🔹 Parts: P: Distractors: "It's all in the past" Don't want to hear about any of those feelings from age 5, 15, 20, 30. Classroom of maniacs. P: The 24/7 manager, orange mesh. Keeps a growing list of all disturbances, because even one can bring on the big one (obliteration). P: The dark part, dense, like a black hole, event h...

🔸 Sitting quietly. "Not facts or stories, but feelings." 🔹 Parts: Enveloped in shame, zombied. A 7 year old in blue overalls. Needs Mio to let go of fixing, speed, tangible results; just witness, be there and not run away. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: When Im this quiet it’s not because I'm thinking “I should be quiet”, it’s not a “technique” I'm employing… usually I...

🔸 Live Live IFS! Out of control: A tsunami, prairie fire, & baby. “I just don’t see how that could possibly work”.  🔹 Parts: P: Heavy, Loyal, responsible. Protects the baby from: P: Skinny, Mad, wants to kick. Wants to dance! "Uncontrollable anger" Worried the child will unfold... Needs time, entertainment, and geographic space. Magic good, wildfire bad. E: The baby 🎓 What I'd...

🔸 Puzzle pieces: Sex, "Hurry", Dad 🔹 Parts: P: Walk fast, hurry, don't miss a thing. Bull in a china shop to get to healing. Pleasure: make it quick. Or you'll be hurt. P: Slow down, Afraid of exposure. Pushed, dragged, overlooked, judged. Just hear me. E: The hurt part(s) (*not contacted) 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Ah, that's why the pros use intake forms! Pic...

🔸 Stay in the lines, you two 🔹 Parts: P : Get it done, the fighter pilot P: The teacher, her bosses, her students, her pension, her drinks… wants to be funny, likes to read, loves little student minds “tryin to unlock all of their potential, Afraid of getting in trouble, losing her books, being called oppressive/abusive, drinking herself into the ground, being laughed at. Needs an emotional gran...

🔸 The peacemaker(s) and the frustrated part(s). 📌New milestone: On our last call, my 363rd recording, I forgot to hit record. 363 in a row! See recap below "Do Differently" 📌 Scott followed up: Back on solo work today. Had a rough Sunday, triggering experience. Finally able to get some space because there was just so much noise in my system. But so interesting that I was able to put a...

🔸 Showstopper: Life & IFS — without Live IFS?? 🔹 Parts: Groundless, panic. Not sleeping. Not playing around. I don't have the answers, not good enough, not worthy. Desperate to be the one. Please see me. Life or death. Battered, cowering. You can't do this. Thinking, just keep thinking. Don't touch anything, you don't know what you're doing. 🎓 What I'd like to do dif...

🔸 Can parts cause inflammation? Disapproval from on high: “I'm going to be found out, punished, I'm the one who’s wrong”. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I try to gather Self energy in preparation for every call, and today I felt 10/10. But when the call started, I quickly went from feeling courageous and clear to nearly spacing out. Afterward I tried diagnosing and realized: back...

🔸 Sitting with the part that gets annoyed with my mother! 🔹 Parts: P: Annoyed with mother, putting it all in storage, like a hoarder. Unsafe, unhealthy, threatening. P: "Thats ridiculous, grow up" P: "Don't go there, it will mean you're a bad person" P: "If you're a bad person... it's not worth it" P: "Mom is good. Don't negate her" 🎓...

🔸 "Am I evil?" Buried under layers of shame. Why so heavy handed? 🔹 Parts: Grandpa, mom, and me (Don’t kill her, shame her, and 7 yo zombie) 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: New record for me: least amount of talking? Why explain, when her parts can? I also avoided connecting the mom (and grandpa) images to this protector. 1. Because maybe it didn’t quite fit 2. Not entice the s...

🔸 The tallest tree; grounded. 📌 Clare followed up: Still have “my girls” (the first one with the tools and the second one from the box) with me. We are making our way across the prairie together… They are super sweet and having a great time And the song by Mei-lan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_U5jiW3YFw 🔹 Parts: P: The leader, grounded, on the path. Grounding rod. Picking up where I wasn’t...

🔸 "You're handicapped and that's ok." It replaced my mother. 🔹 Parts: Pull to go. Frustrated with: Don’t go there. Let me tie your shoes for you. The weakness detector. Rather be celebrating, and pointing out *real* weaknesses in a gentler way. Exile, 14, overwhelmed by disappointment “you’re not college material” 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: That may have been a goo...

🔸 Conquering fear. To be or not to be (Self) 🔹 Parts: 7 to 10 year old, incapable, not enough Early teens, distraction, addiction P: give up. You can’t parent them, you’ll just make it worse confirming you’re incapable. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Do differently… with or without hindsight? Yes I'm taking shots in the dark, maybe I'm railroading. That’s what it (a part of me a...

🔸 The limit; driving over. 📌 Theresa followed up: been feeling more connected, curious, playful in my massage practice the last few days, even with an injury I managed to sustain the same day we laid Miss N. Dependent down for her nap. 😄 AND! Ever since this conversation, I have not “gone over the limit” on massages, which was something I had been trying to do for years, failing miserably until...

🔸 “This isn’t what life is supposed to be like” 🔹 Parts: 6yo. Never want to grow up. Terrified, confused, depressed. Isolated, infinitely trapped. Not looking forward to Marriage, dating, working… stay in room. Wants fun. Wants a stable peaceful environment. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I started on the wrong foot. I think Jovan has been no-notice late or absent to our last 3 schedule...

🔸 A perfect day for nervous. Don't feel joy, don't feel good, or then you'll talk and get in trouble. 🔹 Parts: Focus on one thing, the purest, vs. Dabble Critical brother Nervous makes me look bad, Has the mic, Look cool Nervous w sessions, Never felt welcome, Nervous about being on call w james E: Preschool, kindergarten being squeezed, ground down Bad experience w discipline, huge...

🔸 Round 2: A way out. You are fear, and I am here. 🔹 Parts: It hurts so much that she doesn't matter enough. 14 yo doesn't want to be a parent 4 yo Don't look at me! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I usually schedule zero interaction w humans on my lowest/grumpiest day (day 2 of fasting), but I was certain we wouldn't get this wrong. At times it might have sounded that wa...

🔸 A clearer view ... a sense of hope ... things are better than they’ve been, but … 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Maybe I should have quit while we were ahead. But I don't have much of a protocol or policy to do so. Maybe that's because I haven't compiled the data showing that after about an hour, my body starts to ache, I gotta pee, I'm late for dinner, and those things...

🔸 Touch or drown; a statue worn down by unwanted touch. Self is the water, Self is the lifeguard. 🔹 Parts: P: The school teacher, manager of the fury, 70yo, "Be tough, not prissy, you're fine", rather be doing big thinking, creating a language program, in a nice office. P: The judge of the school teacher "She's repressive" Ps: Fears of the furious exile: "She&#39...

🔸 I am the host now! Testing Mother Bear energy. 📌Genie followed up: https://liveifs.com/2023/06/23/genies-blanket/ Hi James, Well that was an interesting experience LOL. Thanks for hanging in there. I hope the only problem the thunderstorm caused was your internet dropping out. I hung out with the little one for quite a while. She was happy to look around - but not to leave me. She stayed on my...

🔸 Guilt & Shock. What is the connection between "Dont stop me" & Shame? 🔹 Parts: Don’t stop me needs: not to be stopped or rationalized, Not to be judged, for Mio to go slowly, don’t pretend to take on more than she can, to keep other protectors out of the exile work. peace, acceptance, compassion, trust, love, space, and recognition for itself, and the one it protects. 🎓 What...

🔸 "We used to feed ducks at the pond, when I was little" 🔹 Parts: The 14yo: Independent, but wishes she knew things, had more tools, about life, talking to people, trusting people. What self worth means and how to apply it. Her toolbox is limited. The 7,8yo: Loves the ducks, Be good, don't get in trouble, don't get shoes dirty. Been here too long. Wants her mom. (Not sure which...

🔸 “You’re gonna believe, and you’re gonna be alone” Muzzling the dreamer. 🔹 Parts: E: Dreamer has a broken heart. Armored, heavy, disconnected. Wants to imagine something better. Flood of water. Age 14, 15 P: "Dreamer is dangerous!" The hope detector/squasher, the bad guy. Wringing her hands. Her scroll: times she kept us alive. (Murder, suicide, divorce, illness). P: “It’s ok just hav...

🔸 “Im here with and for her, she’s not alone anymore” Justine can do it! 🔹 Parts: “I don’t know how to do this” The good girl, Do it right, be a good podcast participant. Lonely cold painful, didn't think anyone would ever come. 13-14 "asked mom if I could go to therapist..." ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal...

🔸 My little demon child. Making it right when parts-work goes wrong. 🔹 Parts: E: The 7 year old (aged throughout unburdening). Mom gave away cat, “I am capable of anger”. P: Image protector. keep the bows in your hair, admit you love your mom, and don’t let them think you’re a demon child. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Exile's message was “I am capable of anger”, and what she wante...