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🔸 Parts Munchausen: Did I create all this struggle? 🔹 Parts: The low me is the real me Parts in conflict not ok, must be precise or else my being is broken Distrust. Don’t go there. Afraid I might get better Follow the rules 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: What do you think? Trying to balance welcoming with asking with leading/teaching. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback...

🔸 Anger, James and whose army? 🔹 Parts: PPP: confusion sadness and the desperate need to be asleep orange safety mesh makes me sleepy the part that wants distance from family 📌 She was referencing Scott #272 ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itun...

🔸 Single-minded & smart. She didn’t live inside her Self. 🔹 Parts: I can’t trust you when you act like that! how could she be so taken over by her feelings? How could she go so into that happiness. What is that?? 22 yo on cliff edge. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: First 5-10 mins I was thinking "oh i've made a mistake", borderline “passing out” feeling. I like IFS. I d...

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🔸 A funeral. And a James' exile. 📌 Context: Charlotte and I have done a couple sessions via text since last call. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was curious where the stuff about my parts would go, but should have held back. As much as I encourage amateur peer-work, I don't recommend going to your most challenging part, without notice, publicly, with someone you're not sur...

🔸 The elephant in the room. 📌 Context: In intro of second call we're discussing an unpublished call. 🔹 Parts: 1️⃣ P: Always have to be doing something. Unacceptable to not show up. *** 2️⃣ Quit complaining, quit having feelings. If you whine, you'll be less likable. You can’t escape the way life is. Be tough, cuz life is tough, or else you will be annihilated 🎓 What I'd like to do...

🔸 What they all need; Olivia takes the lead. 🔹 Parts: “Inconveniencing adults" “What if I never turn out to be...” The point of life , enormous meaning and beauty 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Anyone else notice that Olivia started speaking for her parts in the past few calls? She voices them literally. In my "driving instructor" metaphor, I think I've transitioned f...

🔸 Future tripping & flashbacks. The medicine works. 🔹 Parts: P: Afraid to be sick. "You took too much insulin! Im trying to take care of you. She has to be watched, or she’ll eat the wrong thing." Thinks I'm 9 or 10, “you’re not safe”. P: Fog P: Desperate Munchausen “Im not as sick as you’re treating me, you’re making me sick!” P: Hurry and eat it (pleasure). give me something...

🔸 "Where is mom?" 🔹 Parts: P: The wisdom, healer, caretaker. Feels bound to: E: Wants to be seen and heard/met. "Where is mom?" Supposed to come from mom and it’s not. Feels threatened, uncomfortable expressing around mom. Pretending things were OK because mom was pretending she didn’t see her. Wants to play, rainbows, lollipops, bouncing, let go of all the masking, wants Jus...

🔸 “Not a single fucking one...” A quiet space. 📌 A flag went up in both Genie and me when we listened back to the portion about Mio, specifically a line that could be construed as critical. We talked about editing it out, slept on it, listened back again, talked some more, and decided to leave it in and invite people to comment about it or our decision. Links to anonymous feedback form and invit...

🔸 Shame exile - part 3. A little thing for a little wound. 🔹 Parts: E: Shame grows out of the house, Mud stamps E: An open wound, waiting to be soothed, a soft collar. Not asking, not demanding. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My tone was off. I can kinda forget my role when someone is working like this. My skeptical sounding questions were not intended to be "devil's advocate&q...

🔸 Time out; Keep going. 📌 Theresa followed up (a couple months later): I took all of that time off (along with some that COVID demanded) and every moment of it was absolutely necessary and now I feel so peaceful and spacious. Thank you for your contributions to my peace. 🔹 Parts: P: Take time off/out. Stop w the Input, deal with: P: intensity junkie /adhd hyperfocus! P: Fear of money stuff, The...

🔸 Rose petals. Being a 12 year old with a baby. 🔹 Parts: 12 yo, neeeds time off and rose water. Baby, grey, too tightly wrapped, suffocating. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Well im glad I asked! (In that first minute when I could have not). It’s uncomfortable, often for me, cuz I don’t want to nag. But I'm getting over that; it’s too important not to do it, so it's better to say...

1️⃣ Anger is caring *** 2️⃣ Death checking in... 🔹 Parts: 2️⃣ P: Slowing down P: Tenacity P: Not good enough 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 1️⃣ We started late and ended early. Brandon's decisions. When we had our last call, I was feeling very hopeful, it sounded like we were having some more of a breakthrough, at least in the way we work together. He said, he wanted to get in more f...

🔸 LSD, "Dying is an option" & The Big Realization. 🔹 Parts: P: Gloom. Life is worthless, no point in continuing, constantly drowning P: Agenda part has stepped back! "Stop being so serious about IFS" P: Don't give me false hope that healing is possible 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: One of my first impulses (left unspoken) with un-deserver was “well, step bac...

1️⃣ Take a nap, let me tie your shoes. And James solo. *** 2️⃣ Internal plate smashing w/ The Compassionate One. 🔹 Parts: 1️⃣ P: The cotton ball, fog, shut it down, take it nap, resembles my mother. "This is too much for you, lemme tie your shoes for you... You don’t know what you’re doing. You can’t even follow instructions. You’re not smart enough you’re not strong enough you are handicapp...

🔸 Everyone needs a friend. 📌 J's dream ⁠ here⁠ 🔹 Parts: Choking, dying, burning. Saint forgives all. Rage, red, tasmanian devil, sweating fire. Aligned with The olympian Afraid of the pathetic, complicit mother. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Not feeling well today. Multiple tech problems (before and during call) didn't help. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback F...

🔸 I'm in charge. Don't forget! Song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTQbiNvZqaY 📌Genie followed up: Had another vivid “house” dream last night. This time it was a real house where I used to live - all the others have always been made up houses. And this house where I used to live had been totally renovated by these other people that were living in it now. Knocked down walls, kitchen mov...

🔸 Shame exile - part 2: The magic house. 🔹 Parts: E: Baby E: Guilty one. Year older than: E: Shame. In garden, blue overalls. Hyper focused, looking out for danger. “Do you understand what it means to protect my shame?”"I don’t know how to play" P: Fixing part doesn’t want her to feel ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Int...

🔸 A different space. Receiving the rain. Songs: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wB9YIsKIEbA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=298mC2COSJg 📌 Theresa followed up: That was such a cool adventure. I get it in a deeper way now that I'm not sure I can explain. I'm so impressed with my parts, and I'm learning that, while there are a lot of things that need to be healed in there, sometimes all...

🔸 The rock, the rose, butterflies & sunshine. 🔹 Parts: P: The rock. Heaviness. Wants to let the rock heaviness go Needs my permission to let it go. Why? Butterflies. Thinks that I am 49, when I was considering divorce. E: 12yo. Twisted in knots, Dense, alone, tired. Wants to stretch, wants to be 12 but “doesn’t need to”. The other girls chit chat about boys, wearing pink… needs undemanding t...

1️⃣ Revisiting a river in China. 2️⃣ Spacey or Spacious? "I don't ever know not thinking " 🔹 Parts: 1️⃣ P: The thinking part, it's a caretaker. Let’s not go in the body ever again. 20-21, moved out, traveled, alone, crying and looking for answers by the river. No relief from pain from: E: The hurt ones. grateful and relieved. Early abandonment, attachment. A nest, pillow, a tedd...

🔸 A haunted place, a ghost town. The hooks are in. 📌 Scott followed up: Was really interesting for me how things rapidly unfolded at the end as we were wrapping up. I was trying to engage that part at the door of a former friends house, at the time I was in college-- someone he felt let him down, didn't really love him. And he needed help and guidance desperately at that time. He thought tha...

🔸 Olivia & James cordially invite you to Relaxing Time! 🔹 Parts: Agenda part wants to be free Shaming: relaxing is all you ever do. This freedom isn’t deserved. Watch out, you’re gonna be weird in some way ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itu...

🔸 Lightning is so crackling & chaotic... let's call this a light-*beam* round. 🔹 Parts: E: I don’t matter P?: Fear that that’s true, fear of connecting. Dad left, grandpa died. Needs B to heal E and to sit with its emotions. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I think I did it already. I wish it was cognitive/mental/emotional, then I could tell you how. But it’s physical/energetic. W...