Live IFS

🔸 The answer, what you've been waiting for: What’s in the box?? 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Maybe I'm making too many assumptions. Feeling great. I started a new parts-work protocol about 3 days ago and this was day one of focusing on my “best” box, the biggest one still in shadow. IFS is the best. Oh and my ego-assasin (whom I met this morning) wants me to include some caveat...

🔸 The show must go on, a kick into chaos, and a James exile. 📌 'References to oranges was from a not-published convo. James' reference, "I like my stuff" etc comes from the best youtube video ever: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qR3rK0kZFkg 🔹 Parts: P: Self (-like?) Relaxed is blissful, euphoric, delicious, exotic. Expansive awareness (but why can’t I just have my state witho...

🔸 Cosmic baby's collision  📌 Theresa Followed up: Thanks again for the help James. 🐝 That was a surprising session. I had it in my mind that it was going to be arduous, that I was going to be exhausted after. Not the case. I guess I should know by now not to try to predict. It's coming together, how those three parts are connected. Pops, Defiance, and the cosmic infant. ✨ Protector, fi...

🔸 All around anxious 🔷 Parts: I want to disappear critic anxious about safety or ability to land Hinders me from doing new things annoyed with anxious I’m trying to get some stuff done Afraid I wouldn’t make it… Tearing up about how much time I spend not feeling safe. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I had some anxious parts up the whole time. New caller with some quick shifts that I didn...

🔸 "I'm sad about a plant." Witnessing the inherent trauma of existing. The first noble truth. 🔹 Parts: There must be another way to resolve this, we can’t figure out a rational answer until the exile is healed Weird to tell parents Futile parts How can I feel like the world is a good place when I rely on their death to live Can’t grieve anything cuz I'd have to grieve everythin...

🔸 Meaning without the making. A little closer to home. 🔹 Parts: P: Meaning maker. To avoid regret and get belonging. P: Afraid of losing control (is making me sick) “see what happens when you don’t think ahead?” Plan better! P: Cloud: how could you ever do all that writing? E: Wants to belong. Wants spotlight for more than her problems. E: a bother to others P: if you see her as well, you’ll sto...

🔸 Wins, apps & systems, and efficient parts work! 📌 Justing followed up: I listened to Bee #310 this morning. Terrible insomnia so you both kept me company. Such a moving session (#2 particularly), and your clarity of defining the steps at the end was great. I noted them down. Because I always forget what to do when I try and do solo work (what question am I supposed to ask now? What happens...

🔸 Stop eating, I hate you, Kill yourself, I got you. 🔹 Parts: Stop eating! Self hate because ate, failed, regret. You’re a glutton. Large (like mom) is ugly, disgusting, dirty. Thinks im 16-17 No, you can be large and happy Cynical you’re not gonna fix this, so you are wasting your time 12-16 she has an eating disorder, I want attention like her 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I knew Sie...

🔸 IFS is pointless, Genie's a s@#%, shut it down. 📌 Genie Followed up: Thanks James. That was pretty important I think. 🥰 🤗 🙏 A lot of gifts in that. Hope I can do them justice. feel like there are some precious things that I need to care of. Not quite sure how yet, but..... Oh!! I think that might be a sort of self quality? Maybe? Taking care of precious things? Oh my. 🔹 Parts: P: Have...

🔸 The Supercontroller: brush your teeth, go to school, no more eating. 🔹 Parts: 13.5 yo anorexic 7-8 yo helpless in the chaos. If i wasn’t ugly why wasn’t I loved. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉...

🔸 1️⃣ Choppin’ it up with the tired part *** 2️⃣ Where is the love? 🔹 Parts: 1️⃣ - P: The bug out part: run! (from the ridiculousness) - P: Tired. They are to blame - get out! It sweeps, keeps it clean inside. Thinks Clare is 12. (Shh don’t go there!) Rather be fishing. Don’t open the doors it gets cold. Cooking show… no mess there, sleep cleans mess. Needs a wagon to put all the stuff in and a...

🔸 Settling the score with mom. 📌 Theresa followed up: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qEduv96dMw8 Making good progress with "Defiance" (which is what the part we were working with last session has decided she would like to be called.) I stayed with her that day, after our session. She was curled up sleeping, and I curled up behind her, as Self. I lay down on my couch to be with her. It...

🔸 "Quasi-spiritual bullshit..." Meet Jerry! 🔹 Parts: P: The skeptic, analyzer, don’t get your hopes up: The truth or is life worth living. Did I fuck up irredeemably? Is my life ruined? Integrity. Someone please prove me wrong. P: What if you were enough? The one who tries E: Yes, people are careless. If they aren’t, then I grieve for not seeing it. forever, lamenting the loss of not r...

🔸 So right, so true, so me — so blended! Know, don’t tell. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I stumbled into the call, unsettled. A part chastising for time wasted, I'm supposed to be preparing for a call, not helping a bee… Then Bee told me she was a beekeeper, and something about sweetness and honey. I short-circuited, remembering a dream I had last night. Christmas w my family of ori...

🔸 Blue is the story about men. The warmth of the sun: steady, not slow. 🔹 Parts: Criticism, judgment. Blue: men are bad, can’t be trusted. Absence, lack of presence. It’s not safe to feel. Not safe to have anger and rage White: safe holding rage in a box. Else eruption expulsion. Needs a hug Rage wants to come out. Wants a voice Pregnant Black: void, spacey, thinks I'm 3, too dangerous. Shro...

🔸 Ground, feet, legs, night sky. 📌 Charlotte Followed up: Found some earth teeming with bugs: pic I am HIGH Holy smokes That was as usual kind of surreal - but instead of being kinda relaxed and dreamy I feel plain old happy Thank you 🙏 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Figure out what I did to get in this space today. I’m fasting again… Should I just fully embrace ascetic life? This is w...

🔸 Who can hold suicide, panic, pathetic, self-harm & the little girl in the big room? 🔹 Parts: Suicide “I could” v “I couldn’t”. Self harm. You’ve been a horrible parent. You should be punished, destroyed for good. Everything would be better if I could cry. A big lack of being held. Pathetic. (J direct accessed “this is pathetic” even though she said “feeling pathetic”) Asking to be held is...

🔸  Impulsivity & Guilt. Making good decisions requires a number of things. 🔹 Parts: Guilt, not good mothering - have to understand the repercussions . The only way to get any attention at all. Impulsivity - get it now or you’ll miss the thrill. Then you won’t be special. Teen: not special = not safe. Mom and dad gave up . Go for a drive P: wants data from the drive w teen 🎓 What I'd lik...

🔸 Hot date danger zone. Keep it together! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Playing lifeguard more than co-driver today. It’s “easier”, and I think affordable due to how much of Mio’s self was present. Maybe helped by how early we addressed the story teller? I didn’t feel great about my (lack of) response to her parts’ request of me. Just nodded and said “yeah I want that too”. Id like to f...

🔸 1️⃣ A fawn down in a flood zone. 2️⃣ The 9 year old has a name. 🔹 Parts: 1️⃣ The wall. 12 year olds on the left, everyone else on the right. Skipping part is 7, needs mommy and daddy. Waiting for someone to come. Wants her dog and pizza 2️⃣ Apprehensive protecting: 9yo lacking a bucket of roses/flowers, water, paper and some crayons, a life. Her name is Rose. Why crying so much, why soggy shoe...

🔸 Going in. Part 2/2. 🔹 Parts: Afraid of failure. If I fail it’s true. I have to succeed to earn love Research and prepare Striving/fighting. Mom would ask “are you stupid?” I want my dad's approval more than anything, Feels like a secret, That would fix everything. I really miss my grandpa 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Continuity! I've been concerned about our work, the schedu...

🔸 A carrot, an orange; fun in the kitchen. 🔹 Parts: P: Food for entertainment (eating & cooking). We have to have something fun and interesting to experience. The other fun stuff is less simple so it doesn’t happen. Wants real savoring P: Hunger is a weakness. E: Dont wan't at the wrong time, Inconvenient to have that need, So don’t ever feel hungry. Wasn’t in charge. Feels like mom thin...

🔸 I suck, you're pathetic, they're careless. 🔹 Parts: Wanting to be able to accept sadness and discomfort, Possibly related to need to: Needs to be cool, always have a comeback. Wants to stop caring E: Preschool. Part of me feels judged and unworthy. Everyone can see I'mm pathetic. They don’t have thin skin so i suck if I do 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: That was a tough on...

🔸 Balancing the numbers: health, money, appearance. control and balance “Get the right numbers”. Rigid. She’s very close to hurry. There isn’t a moment of solace. she’s in a factory with a bunch of imbeciles. If she doesn’t work so hard, the other one will eat sugar all day and turn to shit... 15yo: and then we would be a burden. We have to rely on others. Got compliments from father, wanted his...

🔸 All knowing, innocent, and new. 🔹 Parts: Exile cries out thinking keeps me awake at night Pure. Originalness. All knowing, entirely innocent. Is that mommy? 📌 Justine followed up: The babies are doing great by the way. I’ve moved the bassinet into a forest glade with fairy lights, and a mother wolf keeping guard. They’re protected from the wind and the rain, with lots of forest creatures comi...